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Constructive thinking graduate's depression mentality and mental health

Jan “30” uary

School is hard that’s a fact,

From 8 to more hours, more than our minds can hold in classes

Plenty of subjects to study just because of the idea of getting employed or starting a business.

With all the ideas revolving around school Issa mess. Keeping up semester after semester just for graduation, the pressure building up and how we fight the fear of failing while listening to motivational speeches that success is created by failures and giving ourselves hope that AAL IS WELL.

Well, we develop a circle based on our day-to-day interaction and made ideas into reality just because got people to believe in the ideas. support is one thing I learn from these people in my circle.

See we have social media that keeps us close but yet creates distance with the people close to us.

I would like to introduce to you one undefined friend that I met back then, see back then she wasn’t that close, confused eeh (?)

I call her Dummy Ra I don’t know where this comes from but I know that this sounds better when we talk over the phone or just text.  Other names are Tutankhamun, sky laurel, Elle, and many more. She’s a lot of things but one that keeps popping is the POET inside her, she has her ways with lyrics and words that can heal souls and change lives

(is it true?) yes because she has changed mine on several occasions. 

What started as an academic competition got me tight and learning more from her without even knowing that. They say life Is better lived forward but can be understood backward. Many years after starting and living with Dummy I’ve been in a constant learning environment.

Top lessons learned from SKY LAUREL

1. Mental Health 

I started by saying the distance caused by social media, but let’s just say social media plays a great role.

A new use of social media is to associate what we feel to what we see in our feeds and also tagging a person on a post shows appreciation or a call for them to view the content faster.

Recently received a social tag from her, into a carousel post which explained some points that showed if a person was good for your mental health, six points on the carousel. 

Well was truly honored to receive the Tag, but deep down I would have replied to the carousel as follows. (* just teasing *)

Some of the points to recall were as follows

[ ] They don’t try to change you. (/ why change a grown person, muacheee 🤣 /)

[ ] You feel understood and safe around them (it’s because having guns isn’t legal, would you be feeling safe if  I had a gun ?)

[ ] They push you to do your best and overcome obstacles (very lucky that there are no cliffs in WhatsApp we would have pushed you more )

[ ] You feel comfortable sharing personal things  (I’ll pass on this with a no comment)

[ ] They don’t care about anything surface -money, looks, possessions.  (We don’t have anything no money no what so we have to settle for no money and no looks too. 🤣🤣🤣)

This just shows that there are things that we do that people take beneficial for their mental health but we fail to realize them. In a world that people are constantly battling anxiety, depression, and more you have you play your part and be the one person who is good for their mental health.

2. Commitment

Apart from her being a POET by hobby and interests she’s a 4th Year student taking Architecture Technology at a university that is termed as the most hardest institute in terms of academic stuff and she has survived there for four good years, I would personally share her CV here but lets leave that for another day, School aside cause the fact of that gets me goosebumps she’s a astro or anything related to astronomy  enthusiast, she might be short but her dreams and ideas are way over that height of hers and mine even. She’s also a verified smile giver and this came to light when she became the coordinator for our RESCUE THE FORGOTTEN projects in Mbeya with more than 5+ projects and counting done under her watch.

One might ask all these and she’s just a student, how does she do this, well the answer is Commitment, she’s one hell of a fighter and never makes a promise she can’t make it go through.

3. Society first

I feel like am stalking her, is it wrong? I don’t know. But here is the inside truth of this lesson being her friend for many years got me see and learn a lot from her. If I were kidnap here I would say the best way is just arrange a society-centered activity and call her to attend from there its easy just to kidnap her, this is because she’s super committed to put her community first.

In an academic level we hope that a normal student has to go through some stuff just in the name of graduating but she has made that her education is to make her community come first and she has made a last year research project about her community. With school breathing her neck she still organizes project that is society centered and society oriented.

4. Life is a gift.

During corona aka covid-19, was the hardest time for most of us because it being a new season and we weren’t ready for the new season. For some of us were not even over the fact that we were in at end of some season (this is because each season ends and the ends is where newthe  begins) CCOVID-19 got us winding our normal into some new normal

Will still rethinking my options a popped-up information from Dummy entered with a link to a YouTube clip titled WHO ARE YOU(?)

There are no words that can explain how that day I was off my chi and shaken from the core, with everything going just quick no schools and just chillaxing homat e. (You can relate) the clip title got Me pause and wanted me to answer that from my perspective. 

I won’t lie i dIdn’t got a suitable answer that day but it paved away for alot of uncomfortable conversations that I had with myself that made me comfortable to seek and use them from time to time and look where I’m, and all that is just because I want to answer this. “Who Are you?”

Have you found the answer to this simple but yet complicated question?

5. Anchor and support.

With life never being fair, it’s easy to lose where you’re heading, focus fades and anxiety kicks in. Being a student isn’t all white, what is released is that it has more blacks more than it being white. You may have this perfect lay out of how you are going to go through one semester after the other and school life has a way to give you new set of fresh heepee jeepes.

But when assignments kick in, projects eating you up, unbalanced social life, your economic status is rough on ya, friends need support but then fail to be there for them, all things and resolutions that you’ve kept all going drain.

What do you do (?) Who’s your support where do you anchor all that (?)?

She has often show me the impact to have an anchor and a neutral point that always helps out when you’re constantly shaking and fighting anxiety and many more.

There is a lot to talk about in terms  of lesson about her but let me just say no matter who you will meet, never account her or his standards not his or her ability because we learn always from everyone we meet daily.

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GROWING UP

It was early this morning when I went to this School asking about admitting a new student for the new academic year. They explained to me everything and told m what is required and what the kid is supposed to do before going to School. And I was done there. I Left and went to take care of some issues. On my way back home came this picture in my mind. Taking the kid to school and starts crying when I am about to leave her there. This took me back to the years when my dad or mom or the house helper used to take me to school and when we reached at school,the moment they start saying goodbye I used to cry a lot that at times they get to sit outside my class for a while for me to Know that the are still there and after a while when am calm they get to leave. When I turn to look at the window and don’t see them I start crying again. It has always been that way until I got used to school.

From this I came up with this

Sometimes, growing requires you to be left alone so as you can learn how to stand on your own and get to move and grow bigger and better

Even tho it will lead you to shade tears but in the end you’ll need to get used to that and stand and just keep going

As days keep going you’ll get used to the environment and find it fine and you’ll get to grow wider wanting to have more and achieve more. After you done with one thing you’d want to go on with another and get better and better, just like when we were still young and wished to get to certain levels of education and we got there and still want to go further

So yeah, the process’ never easy but in the end we still have to get where we want to be

Bless up

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Your life is not your own

Where could we be today if God was not to give His only son to die for our sins. Have you ever asked yourself that? He gave His son to die for us to give a second chance of life but there’s one thing we still don’t understand take a look of the example below

imagine you buy a car and you want to use it for various purposes, business maybe , family outings and just for movements here and there. You are the owner of this car you own it it is yours you can do anything you want with your car, allowing it be productive making it do anything you want it to do for you right when it gets wrecked you put your car on service so as it can live longer to serve you , it’s like you giving it a chance to live longer and do you better

this is what Jesus did too, He bought us by is blood, he died on the cross to give us a second chance, this second chance is what we call Grace. The grace that help us live and see every single new day that comes ahead of us , we live, we get to wake up every morning not because we can or have ability to it no but it’s because your life is not your own, He is the one who does that. As long as we still live let us just not live just because we are alive, let us all live for what we were born for because he brought you here to work for Him for his kingdom He brought you to be come a steward of His

Remember don’t live just because you do live knowing that your life is not your own, that there’s a day you are going to be accounted for, for what you have done with the life you were given a second chance to live for

serve Him while you still can

Live your purpose while you still can

if you still got nothing to do with your life for His kingdom you ain’t late start searching for that thing to do now and do it fully .

We live by grace when this grace is gone the bad times are coming

Emit

bless up

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Work for it.

Well I was opportune to travel to a certain city for a team capacity building and the travelling was fine, but my task was with the media committee..

Well pre the training we had to set some stationeries to be used inside the training, example the training banner, notepads, name tags and even the layout for some templates for the training.

Then the issue of coverage and photo and memories keeping we needed a camera. Well the process was at first easy since I and the team were to move to a different region it would have been logical to go get a camera from the place we were going..

Well that wasn’t the best idea well the best move was us moving with our tools but we didn’t and that was fine at first . 

They say if you fail to prepare you prepare to fail, and that’s what happened, see we thought that it would be easy to get equipments just because once we had a project in that region and we were able to acquire equipments, little did we know that time is a varying factor ..

We failed to acquire equipments not because we didn’t have money to rent it but just because we didn’t have the right people to sign off as collateral for us to get it..

We even tried putting our items on bond but it didn’t  work out.. THAT’S A WORLD LESSON RIGHT HERE.

See its not what you have,it’s what people have on you. Some people have blackmail abilities just because what they have on you is too much for the world around you to know.

But let’s talk about TRUST, they failed to rent out the equipments we want just because they didn’t trust us, even though the one that sent us to the place knew the place but they fail to give us the equipments just because they didn’t trust us.

Trust is something we have to work for. You can’t just build trust out of the blues, we have to work for it..

How many times have we work for something in our lives ? What was that one thing you wanted on spot and failed to get it until you had to work for it..

Just as trust is, some other abstract concepts in life you’ve to work alot in life. That’s what is required. We have to work for it, nothing comes easy in life, easy is bad.

Bless up
Emitty

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Build or Break

build (/bɪld/)
construct (something) by putting parts or material together.

Similar: construct, erect, put up, assemble, set up, raise, make, fabricate, form, manufacture, create, fashion, model, mould, shape, forge, knock together

Opposite: demolish, destroy,

make stronger or more intense.
“we built up confidence in our abilities”

Similar: boost, strengthen, increase, improve, invigorate, augment, raise, intensify, enhance, escalate, multiply, swell, beef up

the proportions of a person’s or animal’s body.
“she was of medium height and slim build”

Similar: physique, frame, body, figure,form, structure, shape, make-up, formation

All the above is inspired by a line of statement on a very good lovely friend I have, build or break that she wrote on her timeline.

In life we get alot of things that troubles us, I can share what I go through or even If we had a dialogue of what you going through honestly without any secrecy,I know I’ll hear alot from you.

Let’s not talk about that but what you go through can either BUILD or BREAK.

In college, there is an allowance offered by the government to students and most of the students are given the same amount of money for the whole semester. The money comes into two portion.

Most of us we are facing the financial balance difficulties but what makes us going is the fact that there is next time in two months and you’ll get money.

The situation of waiting builds  most of us into a stage of planning and placing of budget so that when the money comes it will be effectively. That’s to most of us

But in life everything may be off balance and everything hitting you may seem new to you and you thinking that everything is after you to break you..

Financial problems, health issues, social troubles,spiritual difficulties and many more these are many in the list of things that can really question  your mentality and make you feel broken. 

They say anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s what we should take out of any situation, we are here not for a smooth life, but to be tested and to know our limits.

Inorder to live and reach the point to know our capabilities we have to undergo the processes that will break us into ways we can’t even understand, but it’s in these situations we learn to build ourselves up better and stronger.

The good book says, no challenge comes to you too heavy for you to handle,  and through every challenge there is an exit. We need to build ourselves through challenges.

For the challenges are there to stay, they can’t go away all by them selves but through solving them. Just like building a LEGO one block at a time, so is the same as tackling challenges one problem at a time..

Bless up
Emitty…

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who will stand

We living in a world where we get to hear new things been invented everyday a world where people don’t like to seem out of date a world where technology has taken much of everything a world we really don’t know this is ending a world where people get to live life forgetting that there are children to stand for in time to come

have you sit down and ask yourself one day that “WHAT PARENT WILL I MAKE?”

one day when I was in the sitting room was talking to my mom and she told me “you have to live in peace with your siblings,love them take good care of them, you are like a mother to them when am gone there eyes will be on you so you need to he good too and strong and a person who sees beyond”, these words made me think of something, probably you who is reading this you are a parent already or maybe parent to be or maybe you in plans of becoming one this is for you. So my thought were,

i am where I am now because my mom stood for me, prayed for me taught be and raised me by the Bible’s words. She never got tired praying, kneeling and crying just to pray for m, she never stopped talking and yelling and warn me by the word that this is bad and that this stop that do this don’t do that to become a better person. And here I am now it’s not by my own strength nor will but the prayers that I was prayed for and the teaching I was raised by . Now let’s get back to today, the lives we living the way things go, are we really in position to be better parents for them who are coming? It’s terrifying really, most of parents right now got no time with their children most of parents right now are too much into social media and all that technology has brought forgetting that they need time to stay with their children and teach them and warn them to make them good later. Nowadays a kid do something wrong and a parent will just take a look at him or her and be like “ah that’s how the kid is” really!! Are you just gonna stand and watch yo kid going astray and have nothing to do for him or her ?

What generation are making or are going to make, who will stand for them if only we can’t even stand for us, Let it not reach the time in the Bible where it will come a generation which won’t know God. Parents, parents to be and the upcoming we have to look out our ways we have to remember how we were raised not just because it’s a globalized world then we forget all about how we were taught and raised, yes there are things or ways used that were not appropriate just see how you can modify and help your child or children. We need to stand for them to be better, better than us.

If we won’t stand for them who will?

Bless up

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Defined

School life has never been easy to some of us if not all of us,to the rest of us school has been a battleground constantly fighting. Whether for grades or social bonding, it was and still is a fight.

Well the true fight comes on mastering your lecturer or teacher, his or her approaches the likes and the dislikes that’s where things becomes hasty..

Well a short story was, and I know this is common having that one teacher each semester wanting you answering questions just has s/he has teacher a line by line word to word..

Well if he defined something as A you can’t write it as small “a” and expecting to score a mark from him or her. Inorder to pass his or her module we have to abide and go a word to word with what s/he has offered.

In life we face similar situations, I call it playing dumb, we tend to know what’s right and what’s not right but we still find ourselves living line by line and word to word.

In parallel with their definition of what we are, what we should be and even what we should do and how we should behave, and we find it okay thinking that we can’t do anything about it even if we try..

We are scared to break toxic routine just because of what has been predefined on us by others. Well am not a teacher or lecturer to tell you that you need to overcome that.

But just know even in school the best things or knowledge that sticks out in our mind is always the one that we have defined ourselves .

So it’s easier to make a further step forward with our own definition of routine, what we are, who we are and where we are going and at what pace we are moving. We have to refine the definition that are set on us…

Bless up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Who’s fault is it

Its another beautiful morning today. I thank God for giving the grace of attending the first service today. So when was on my way back home I was just walking along the road then over a sudden a guy from behind me just greeted, “Hi”. I had to turn back to know who that person was, it was a guy a know, just a guy around the neighborhood and I hied back to him. As we were walking the guy was smoking and I was like it’s so too early for him to be doing this, this was just in my head. So I had to ask him what’s the benefit of that he replied “it has no benefits honestly and I can’t stop smoking ” I was like “ooh really” then he said ” I got this friends of mine who taught me how to but I now wonder that they ain’t smoking anymore” and I told him so why can’t you stop and be just like them “No I can’t stop I just can’t” , do you know how bad it is for your health especially your lungs “Yes, nicotine I what I get from this and I can’t stop, it’s satan who is making me” and I was like whoa whoa whoa man hold it there satan! Are you for real? so Satan is the one who made you do this. You know you really don’t have to blame Satan in any of this because you are the who made such a decision to get to where you are now and to what you are doing right now

What am I trying to say here is

many of us have been blaming satan for the mistakes we do or for situations we get ourselves in and we be like it’s satan who made me do this on the contrary it’s been our fault all way long we get to decide without thinking of what the outcome would be. So sometimes we just have seat and look back to where we made it go wrong and get to fix it than just saying the statement it’s Satan who made me do this

You have a great day. Bless up

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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