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Our Escape

Well the dictionary define escape as a narrow run or temporary displacement or distraction from a routine or reality.

The definition had something that caught my eye, the words such as temporary, distraction and reality.

We tend to search for escapes because of our temporary situation in life, and life can be a constituent of many things from social interaction to the mind of one self. Our economy, social life, spirituality, mentality, health and even a balance of all these can be what we call life..

Escape is temporary just as noted from the definition before, reason to create escape can vary but alot of people are in search of escape to get a way to numb pain, and the pain is mostly caused by over expectations.

See in life we tend to expect alot from people or even actions that we do. We expect fast money so we engage in illegal businesses to make quick money and we end up disappointed for a reason or two. We are always constantly putting overwhelming hopes forward and casting out reality in the name of faith.

Don’t quote me wrong, faith is a good thing but don’t disguise instant gratification or any thing related to fastering the process as faith, TRUST THE PROCESS they say but people don’t do that, the say maybe the process should start trusting their ways.

A failure to quit running towards escape will lead to addiction, and we all know what addictions do to a person. And there is no such thing as a good or bad addictions.

Addictions are addictions and people tend to color coat it because they are temporary pleasures that leads to an escape of reality..

Once posted it on our team timeline ” what’s your escape ?” And the response were alot, but people are troubled with alot that we have to agree to, but some problem they are not really a running problem, some problem are to be faced, but it’s easy to think on running more than thinking of facing it..

On a advisory scale, problems will constantly seem to add up and piling up problems will not be the solution. We have to fight our problems, the escape to our problems  doesn’t solve the problems they just forward them. So we are not running away from them we are just forwarding them…

Bless Up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


Part 1
Bless up
Emitty

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Descending triangles

Shapes isn’t really a concept that I can explain so much, but it’s always there and will always be there. Were you see it, it doesn’t matter because its everywhere and I can’t tell you to spot some shapes am not the google not robot verifier.

One thing that had me fascinated was the triangle, I remember one animation they show the power of a triangle has a base and a point direction.

Just from properties if a triangle we can gather alot of lessons from it, be of strong foundation and know where you heading and stuff related to it. But that will be of some other time.

We are in hurt mode, disappointment mode and healing process from alot of things that we have been through, a certain screenshot that was placed in somebody’s status said. “We are coordinated to face alot to learn and have a strong reference point not to give up but to move forward with experience”

Felt the quote but I came and saw that all our lives we have been going process that are similar it’s like we are moving in circles, how you’ll ask? Well its simple let me walk you through this

Once posted that we differ in schooling system but using the Tanzanian grade system, it’s more of 3-7-4-2-3/5 or 3-7-4-3-3/5 format. I know it’s not a football formation it’s more of classes you have to sit to move into next level and we have the primary level, secondary level and tertiary level.

Am not here for flashbacks but am here to tell you that all this long life has taught us about losing, just think of how many people we lost the connection to, from your grade one till now?

It’s a long list of people we lost touch since back then. So life is always telling us life is of a point headed but a bigger start.

Take note that always the beginning will be firm and you can have a clear goal In broad term but as you move on you’ll come to see some vision,people and some clear facts disintegrating to something else. When that happens just know that’s life and the pointy header will always be there

Bless up
Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

Bless up
Emitty

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Game Saves

Let me start with this meme.

” You find a kid of 2000 saying don’t judge me by my past, which past mtoto, which one ?”

We have lived, whether it’s a year, ten, fifty or more we all have a term to compare and contrast about our life.

What am trying to develop here is just to show you that every single day you have lived it has come with a new challenge. No matter what state you grow up to either wealthy or poor it doesn’t matter , y’all have a piece of new experience daily you learn and experience..

For the wealthier one, you experienced wealthier problems and experiences and same applied to the poor ones.

Now from all these it comes a question Why are you quitting now ??

You have came these far to just give up now, and one might ask or say but I didn’t sign up for this, the pain and suffering it feels like the world is failing on me , yes you are experiencing what you are right now because there are alot of events that have taken it for you to reach here. You’ve been through alot so the easiest way out it’s to do reflections .

Reflections always gives you a praiseful head, this is because you just need to make up a flashback of what you have gone through, this will help you create a stronghold or a wall to bounce back a little and in the end move forward twice..

For the gamers there is always them game saves, were they act as starting point away from the beginning of the game, this allows you to pause and continue from there towards further parts of the games.

Now reflections may act as game saves in times that you are low and feeling down and you dont have the move-in power then just hold on to reflections

Basically reflections may be as simple as just a simple way of how you got out of a tough spot or tough time in some point of your life.

Life is yours take time to power yourself on, go forward never ever turn…

Bless up
Emitty

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Hohohohoo Mask Off…

lets keep the Halloween spirit running , Happy Halloween to y’all.

lets talk history, according to history.com. Halloween is a holiday celebrated each year on October 31, and Halloween 2020 will occur on Saturday, October 31. The tradition originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints. Soon, All Saints Day incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows Eve, and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a day of activities like trick-or-treating, carving jack-o-lanterns, festive gatherings, donning costumes and eating treats.

now let’s talk about masks and costumes, on a day like Halloween we dress up like some famous or some other people that had a positive or negative reputation,

on a robbery, the will put on something else, let us recall on trending series like money heist the robbers wore something to cover their faces and even other robbers wear masks to hide their identities.

for kids party we put on masks, masquerade and other costumes to make the kids happy.

now costumes and mask have played a great role in achieving many things it can be for enjoyment, amusement and even for bad deeds such as robberies and sometimes even mass killings.

some people use mask to create confidence and sometimes hide from the other people to avoid recognition.

come think of it, our lives are sometimes based on masks and costumes. you’ll say yes we put on for a good reason but what am improvising or what am saying it’s not the physical masks we put but its the PRETENCE and FAKING that we do daily inorder for people to see our version that we have decided to show them.

we fake life, pretend on emotions and sometimes imitating others, simply because we think its the right way to fit in. we long for acceptance but in the end we are dying inside for what we think is right turning not to be as what we expect.

we stay on characters while we are with people and we feed them some picture that is not real us.

Enough of the masks and costumes, lets just shade them off, be the real us. you know being you makes you comfortable and confident for anything that you’ll take or do because you are the always you. you’re familiar with you and you don’t need someone to tell you how to behave. Grow up your you is the only you needed for the world to see..

Bless Up
Emitty

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What You Eat

In a restaurant or grocery there will always be a list of food, we can order all but we don’t. we decide to pick some and eat then leave.

There are a lot ot menus in the world, what I mean is there are a lot of foods to eat and to be cooked and they can all be cooked under different techniques to raise different taste.

we all have different taste on our cuisine. The foods used in one part of the globe can be different from the other part of the globe.

we can eat all that if we decide too, but we sometimes have placed standard on what we eat and what we don’t .

In real life we can say the information around the globe is the food we choose on eating or taste. there are a lot of information going around us. we can’t eat all the information That’s out there what we can do is choose the quantity of what we eat and even decided on what not to eat.

we luck standards of what we digest any information we digest on it without processing the depth of it.

we should accept that not every information out there is for us to take in and process it. not everything we hear are ours to process, many relationship and stable connection are cancelled or die due to what we hear and decide to process. Be careful with the information that goes around you.

We live in a world that we eat what is around us , digest it no matter how  and release it

Bless Up. Emitty

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BElieve YOUrself(Be You)

fruits

“You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life”

in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.

we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.

who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?

we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.

the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean  is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.

not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.

if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..

no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.

NF says the real you is when no one is watching,

it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are  not as we think people want us to address it.

Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex

One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.

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