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Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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When to Pay

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If someone asks me, whats my take on life in terms of what we do and what we don’t do i would reply as follows

Everyone has used public transport here as in Tanzania that’s the common means of transportation and it has taken and employed a lot of people.

Now in public transport there will always be the driver and bus conductor and all of em sometimes we don’t know them.

And the means of collecting of the bus fare the bus conductor chooses whether to collect it in the beginning of the trip, middle of the trip or at the last stop of every passenger on the car..

Now, these are all cases of life one we sometimes don’t know our driving forces or at what time life will demand our potential at first.

We all forged in the first place with potentials that are hidden inside and we just wait until the bus conductor demands the fare.

All we have is that we have to accept that we are on a bus called life and at any point in our travel it will come around asking for what we are doing in the bus for ( the purpose of our being in ) the sole reason for our existence.

It’s within our power to agree that we all have destinations and we all have different lengths in our trip.

The driving force of our lives is not yet and somehow not knowing the driver.

Ever wondered what is my take when we don’t have enough but its necessary to take a bus with low cash on you ??? well next time.

Till then your life is full of scenarios that its best not questioning them but living them like it . for we don’t know what may come in front…

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Mind Your Standards

A Swahili line said “Usiwe kama jogoo akidhani kunakucha ili yeye tu Awike ” Translated to Don’t be like a cock thinking that the sun only rises for it to crow.

We say we have taste on different things, the taste we have are what we can call standards.

Life, aiiiiiiiii, Life has funny ways to prove us wrong and mostly it proves us wrong on what we have or what we are surrounded with. we put so much faith on what we have and we also put less faith sometimes from what we have too.

The first thing that life uses to prove us wrong is people, friends and family. We put standards due to our preference and taste we have undermine or underestimate people you meet, stay with, friends and even family. How many times have we been disappointed or been amazed by the people around us?

We judge, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate in the name of standards. These standards have create a blurry vision of making our selves righteous in-front of those who we have not give them chance to explain or prove them selves. we feel it’s right to do so but it’s not.

The funny thing about the standards we put on people are first way up and off the charts unreasonable. Second the standards we keep are not known to people, people fail to understand what we want from them or what they should do or how to interact with us.

A perfect example of what am saying is ever find a person angry with another person simply because the other person has not texted or call? The standard here place by the person is that the other person is responsible for finding them.

While the sad reality is You miss a person text or call never wait, you love a person tell them, you need something ask.

By doing so meaning by judging, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate we be like a cock and in our case we think we are a 100% perfect in-front of others.

Life does not work that way, we can’t live by putting standards that are not known we are all in a small circle called the globe with a lot of things in it. Don’t complicate life by adding more on the list and making headline to people’s problems

Eid – Mubarak

Bless up

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What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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BElieve YOUrself(Be You)

fruits

“You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life”

in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.

we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.

who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?

we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.

the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean  is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.

not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.

if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..

no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.

NF says the real you is when no one is watching,

it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are  not as we think people want us to address it.

Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex

One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.

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Its Not Permanent

Ever plan to do something and when in the process of doing it nothing is moving, have you ever had that one perfect plan laid out for you in your head and in turn to perfect it still doesn’t go through ?

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I know you have taken series of exams, test, assignment and more papers that were all done in a certain hall.

Few days back I went to my status and posted “what is the name you give to the place you did the exams?
The answers were restless and they were super amazing but also I learnt something…

What I wanna share to you is that in life everything is like an exam you are given a set of exams and boom your in a cage that is given to you a worker is given that work as an exam and the workplace is the hall that is given.  a driver is given an exams to drive without accident and reach the destination and the car is the hall where exams are done.

Now i know you have got this pictured but add this to your imagination its not the hall but its the exams that you have done. We have to learn that not all exams are the same but know that you can be in the same hall with your neighbor. And still the neighbor could be of no help, so in life you have to see that when you are in a situation you have to own it, it’s yours and there is no a Better way to fight it if you don’t take the initiative to fight it. Never complain when you don’t get help because each person has his ot her own exams to answer, challenge to react too.

The challenges you face in the exams  are the same as the ones that you fae in reality, the exams were designed to offer you a glimpse of what to expect in the real world. The fact you can panic and also fail to do anything in  the exam room is the same as what you can do in real life, when trouble hits and hits you bad its not time to panic nor stuck as a paralysed person you should collect your self, settle down and gather strength because its all that you gat the exams (challenges ).

With time involved everything else is temporary

David Benedict Zumbo

In life every situation you see is not permanent so lets not waste time thinking of a temporary situation but be of attention to it and learn what lesson it holds …

Bless up

Emitty…

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Sweep In…

Good day to you.  hope this finds you well, after what the world is going through i hope you are holding up good. in times like this is at when our faith and stability is tested be strong and keep the faith up…

This morning after along time at home without doing anything i decided to go outside the yard and try sweeping it up. I know that we all have once or very often sweep the yards

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What I have come to notice is that you can have a portion of yard that is yours and the other can be your neighbors portion and all can be dirty. we can take this act in two portions from the single side view and the other is multiple side view.

SINGLE SIDE VIEW
This view I want you to imagine as the  fallen grass and other waste as the objects that hinders your smile and happiness the baggage that you carry that hinders you to be seen as the real you. sweeping them makes you nourish and grow as the way it should be. Here am talking about the aftermath after the sweep nevertheless take consideration the tools that are used to sweep ( it can be friends and hobbies that keeps up to make sure your form goes back into place, in terms of friends they are ready to sacrifice there wellbeing as the sweep gets worn out just to make sure you’re clean and keep on nourished. This is a great sacrifice and you should acknowledge them because they are always there and ready to sweep you over and over again.  

MULTIPLE SIDE VIEW
The tools (friends that sweep you up when you are full of grudge and other baggages that life throws at you they are there ) just ready to sweep your portion but remember your yard once swept will be clean and the difference between your yard and the next yard close to you will be seen. What am implying is that you were in a situation that you were helped by a friend now its your time not to take their sacrifices for GRANTED  but cherish and you be a sweeping Brush to your neighbor. Never be satisfied just because you’re out of your baggage that doesn’t mean your neighbor should stay that way too..

All in all life is just life and you can’t sweep all the yards out there and also people around you wont be able to sweep all your fallen grasses on you but when you get few people that makes or even just start sweeping you should stand up and be of help to. Help not only to your self but also to the people around you. .

bless up
Emitty…

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Process and Patience

Trust the process, Endure and be Patient for all good things takes time ….

An awkward version inside a person is a case study for the lesson today.

Have you ever been in a situation where you were once doing great, your studies flowing greatly and your stuffs going accordingly. In this point of your life you enjoyed every tiny bit of it, then booom I don’t know where the hell do this stressful situations come from and life becomes tough…

If your answer is yes and your in the same journey of asking yourself the questions as I, then welcome aboard for I am just finding answers as you..

Games, let me use this as a way to create a common ground for the answer that i find comfort on, when on stress and when life is bring its heepie jeepies to me…

games have levels and one of the brothers i had told me in every game one challenge unlocks the other and the next challenge pose a great diffculty more than the previous challenge

And also in playing the game I want to introduce stuff that are the main content of the article the process and patience .

process, let the process be the act of playing and unlocking the new challenge. while playing we have the spirit and anxiety of seeing the game till the end and we even can try do the same level or when we seem stuck at the point we dont give up and quit the game but we find alternative to move further to the next stage.

Patience is the discipline that we give ourself and the hope that we keep giving ourselves in the challenge that we have that we will past it to a new challenge and the challenge ahead is more rewarding more than previous.

Should I go on? I know you have figured out where am taking this bus now if not lets just take the serious thing that we call LIFE and make it or picture it as a game and in it we have to trust the process and have the patience and also bear in mind that after a challenge it will rise a mew challenge and another and another and so on, so in life challenges will keep on rising.

As challenges rise we find that we get into stress and more stress than before and life seems harder and harder as we go further but you know that shit is just as a game as we have the patience of trying something new and have the endurance of waiting till the process is done then lets be of the same spirit in real life, we should trust the process and enjoy our patience as we go through challenges but we should not forget that as we are done with this there will and I repeat always will be another challenge hard and patience testing waiting ahead of us and i believe the first key of winning the next challenge is we filling our hearts and mind with enthusiasm and just be ready for we dont know what the next challenge will be ?

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Fame Vs Changes

Fame Vs Changes

When at a young age did you ever wanted to be a leader or did you want to be a game-changer? Did you imagine a position that will make you in a manner of making changes to your society? Have you ever sat down and think that

Position nor fame can grant you to make a difference… but health and the will to make a difference can.

How many are leaders and they don’t make a difference??? and how are not leaders and still make a difference ?? The ability to make a change comes from inside to the outside not outside to go inside…

Have you ever been with an idea a little spark inside of you that you know straight up when you offer them out to the general public there will be an impact made and through your idea many more can be inspired ??

Now did you do it or hesitated ? if you did that’s great if you didn’t what happened ? why did you hesitate ?

Was the fact that you are not a leader and you are not influential, was it ??

Most of us we think that position or influence is the key to make changes or difference but they are accelerators to make changes but in reality, it’s not. You don’t need the power to make a change you need the right reasons.

One wise person was once asked what will he need to be the change and make the difference that he wants to see in the society and he did not respond with leadership, but he said ” I only pray for health” the man knows and its a time for us to know to that we need only health and the will to do and be the difference we want to see around us.

For the world is awaiting the manifestation of your inborn, unseen characters let them out don’t wait to be a successful person or a leader to do so.

Bless up

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