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Build or Break

build (/bɪld/)
construct (something) by putting parts or material together.

Similar: construct, erect, put up, assemble, set up, raise, make, fabricate, form, manufacture, create, fashion, model, mould, shape, forge, knock together

Opposite: demolish, destroy,

make stronger or more intense.
“we built up confidence in our abilities”

Similar: boost, strengthen, increase, improve, invigorate, augment, raise, intensify, enhance, escalate, multiply, swell, beef up

the proportions of a person’s or animal’s body.
“she was of medium height and slim build”

Similar: physique, frame, body, figure,form, structure, shape, make-up, formation

All the above is inspired by a line of statement on a very good lovely friend I have, build or break that she wrote on her timeline.

In life we get alot of things that troubles us, I can share what I go through or even If we had a dialogue of what you going through honestly without any secrecy,I know I’ll hear alot from you.

Let’s not talk about that but what you go through can either BUILD or BREAK.

In college, there is an allowance offered by the government to students and most of the students are given the same amount of money for the whole semester. The money comes into two portion.

Most of us we are facing the financial balance difficulties but what makes us going is the fact that there is next time in two months and you’ll get money.

The situation of waiting builds  most of us into a stage of planning and placing of budget so that when the money comes it will be effectively. That’s to most of us

But in life everything may be off balance and everything hitting you may seem new to you and you thinking that everything is after you to break you..

Financial problems, health issues, social troubles,spiritual difficulties and many more these are many in the list of things that can really question  your mentality and make you feel broken. 

They say anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s what we should take out of any situation, we are here not for a smooth life, but to be tested and to know our limits.

Inorder to live and reach the point to know our capabilities we have to undergo the processes that will break us into ways we can’t even understand, but it’s in these situations we learn to build ourselves up better and stronger.

The good book says, no challenge comes to you too heavy for you to handle,  and through every challenge there is an exit. We need to build ourselves through challenges.

For the challenges are there to stay, they can’t go away all by them selves but through solving them. Just like building a LEGO one block at a time, so is the same as tackling challenges one problem at a time..

Bless up
Emitty…

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Who Are You ?

Somebody came up to me and said who you’re, the question was very hard to answer but inorder to answer the person, I wanted to see from their point of view, what or how much they think (key point think) they know me.

See the people around you can never understand or know you to the 100 percent level, because from time to time it depends on what they are viewing you from..

I wouldn’t place the answer they gave for my personal sanity because its something  I didn’t except to get from them. Put from there I learnt there are alot of definitions of Who you Are to the people around you.

Never expect to get a clear and uniform answer from the people around you. You’re not a mathematics question thay your answer will always be constant,  you ain’t pie (3.14) that you will always be constantly getting same answer to people, I know its confusing though one of you but the answer are infinite..

On  an intro of one of the songs in my playlist it was actually a spoken word by Dorah, she outline several ways that people can define you. Just simple question WHO ARE YOU? can have a infinite answer mind you from the other people point of view.. 

People define us on how they do Comparison between us and them, success, worth and strength or the way we appear, or the behaviour we show them or our weakness, what we can’t offer to them get us defined or what we work on or the Money and net worth we have. All this causes the infinite ♾ definition on who we are , but they ain’t answers.

Even parents themselves have a predefined definition of who you are , they want to have a perfect picture of you, that sweet lovely young kid they hard before you in your teenage..

The people Point of view doesn’t matter but what matters is what you think you are, an ancient quote said “Be careful for how you say or speak to yourself because the samurai inside will be mannered by it”.

That is to say your mind is a samurai, samurai where an elite soldiers to get the job done by that time,  they can be compared with the navy seals, the point is the mind is a powerful place what you tell it can affect it greatly..

We are not defined by how we look,make, create, or work on, the difference is what defines us . What really define us or answers who you are, lies on YOU. You get to define yourself whether you get a straight strong definition or answer on who you’re or let people answer that and let that sink the samurai inside ..

Bless Up
Emitty

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Defined

School life has never been easy to some of us if not all of us,to the rest of us school has been a battleground constantly fighting. Whether for grades or social bonding, it was and still is a fight.

Well the true fight comes on mastering your lecturer or teacher, his or her approaches the likes and the dislikes that’s where things becomes hasty..

Well a short story was, and I know this is common having that one teacher each semester wanting you answering questions just has s/he has teacher a line by line word to word..

Well if he defined something as A you can’t write it as small “a” and expecting to score a mark from him or her. Inorder to pass his or her module we have to abide and go a word to word with what s/he has offered.

In life we face similar situations, I call it playing dumb, we tend to know what’s right and what’s not right but we still find ourselves living line by line and word to word.

In parallel with their definition of what we are, what we should be and even what we should do and how we should behave, and we find it okay thinking that we can’t do anything about it even if we try..

We are scared to break toxic routine just because of what has been predefined on us by others. Well am not a teacher or lecturer to tell you that you need to overcome that.

But just know even in school the best things or knowledge that sticks out in our mind is always the one that we have defined ourselves .

So it’s easier to make a further step forward with our own definition of routine, what we are, who we are and where we are going and at what pace we are moving. We have to refine the definition that are set on us…

Bless up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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Chillax, Graduate (partè III)

For the past days, we have been going through from my point of view what is the graduate depression, so far we covered two parts but today is what I call a masterpiece dive of what eats us more and more

The points are easy to spot but hard to accept, for some of us it’s easy to spot them while others are doing so but on our own life its very hard to accept that we have or we lack some qualities. Or accepting that the following are eating us up.

@Jay shetty and many more speakers have been speaking on timing and even the holy books are saying something about it always. We may live in the same planet we call earth that doesn’t mean we have to be confined in how other people live it, but to some of us(graduates and non-graduates) we always want to or tempted to be jealous of how others live their lives.

We start with a piece of story that will aim to conclude on my point of Comparison, a car driver wishes he could fly just because of the road traffic and the standard of life he want to achieve meanwhile a motorcycle driver envies the car driver just because of the comfortability of the car to the driver and the motorbike driver is sick of the hardship he always go through chest pains just because of him always opposing the weather, air or rain. But also a normal bicycle person wants a motorbike and normal person walking along the road want to have just a bicycle. And a cripple man wish he could just even walk..

See in life we always have wishes, some being in the reach of our efforts, some not. But there is a swahili saying “Mungu hakupi vyote, wala hakunyimi vyote”

see you may have something and the something is what you suppose to be grateful for. In correlation to the title non graduates envy the graduates while the graduates envy those in work places and those working always want something that will let them stand on the own with the slogan being your own boss…

See we always are unsatisfied with the life we have, you may find someone with everything but still unhappy because s/he feels something is missing and so do everyone. We feel like we need something someone who is in front has. But we never understand that we all have our fixed destinies greater than what we are hoping for..

According to me there are types of comparison If not two there three of them.

1. Comparison set by the society against you.
2. Comparison of you against somebody else
3. Comparison of beliefs…

So let’s meet for part four to go with the types of comparison from the point of view of graduates

Bless up
Emitty.

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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
Bless up
Emitty

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
Bless up
Emitty

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Upside down

Hello there, as we celebrating the beginning of the new year, I wanna talk to a person who found him or her self worthless and took a decision to live someone else’s life, to a person who thought that he/she could not fit in a certain group of people, to a person who was or is in plans to do his or her stuff but still thinking on what people gonna say about it.

Let me ask you one thing, for how long will you live your life while driven with other people’s words or views?(“like they want you be like this be like that”). You really need to put an end to this because there’s no any day that you will really feel yourself because you’ll always be living some other people’s life in a way that it never gives you a chance to excel the you.

As now you in a new year, why don’t you just start appreciating the you and just help yourself to be you and do your own things in your own way coz there was never and there will never be someone who is there to remote control your life just because they want you to live the way they want you to. It’s some sort of slavery I can say. You have your unique ways of living your life or doing your things without caring what people gonna say about you . You just need to close your ears and eyes and put a step forward to what you want to do and you’ll see how great you are and even people who wanted you to live the way they wanted you, you’ll find respect in them and you’ll get them so surprised that you leave them mouth open and they may even come to you and ask how do you do, how did you make it happen. This is your year do your things in your way, make it be an upside down magic life.

Happy New year 2021

Bless up

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