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As He teaches

Back in my primary school I remember my grammar school teacher usually had us Energize with some opposites of words.

He would have the class stand up and pick one at random then he starts by saying you what is the opposite of this and that and you’ll earn a seat when you answer the questions

Well back then we hated it and we usually didn’t raise our hands to answer the questions hoping the teacher will get bored and run out of words to ask us. But ooh boy that man had stamina he was always on the clock and he had alot of words for us to answer

So right now I don’t use any opposite in my life or neither do i use the grammar 100% but what I know today i can reflect in alot of lessons that can be derived from the quick stand up.

Some notable guidelines to some lessons are as follow.
1. Expecting the teacher to come and ask questions. See in life we are always in a surprise mode, but so far people are in a stage they even say for the point that life has thrown so much shades on me I can’t be surprised no more. This is not that s/he has gone through it all but it’s that s/he has gone through alot . Alot people of have a hidden story to tell. And all the stories mah all have a same beginning “it was out of no were, I didn’t plan this or I didn’t plan that but it happens and till it happens like that it means that if you didn’t plan for it then you had a different plan and that the opposite happened…
2. Our response some early they raise their hands but some of us we dont. The early response are similar to the way we live our lives some opportunities are randomly popin up always but its some few that make that fast decision and others will take time to take them but others will not take the opportunities at all that’s life. We waited for the teacher but some of us had already sat down earlier…
3. Hope and expectation for him to get bored. I really dont know if this has ever hit you up, you starting feeling a little left out want to life just pass you by, feeling like you’re the only one alone in this whole life passing a certain situation and life cant Get any worse than it was. You hope life will get bored and start being nice to you? If you’re in this just know life never get bored throwing shade its just mother nature making us hard and resilient to its methods.
4. Stamina for his consistency,life will always show you consistency more and more and it will always disappoint us, so life has the teacher’s consistency to throw shades. There is a trending statement good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people that’s nature the way to build the boldness out of ourselves.
5. Answers given. Whether we were asked the first round or last every question that the teacher had asked had answers so as life no matter what you going through, nonmatter tough,easy, crazy, logical or illogical then just know, no matter what time is threw at you it has an answer..
6. Topic on the table. The teacher had always had a particular theme he used while asking a question and we would have to tune ourselves into answering the particular theme that was very easy simply because the questions were easily predictable after the theme was known. So in life trying figure what wave to flow with in times of your greatest conflict..

I was told a good teacher teaches how the real world works on his lessons without even saying so, and by reflecting this it has clearly shown me that the teacher planted something positive in the lessons he taught..

Bless up
Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
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Emitty

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Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


Part 1
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Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Emitty

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Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Bless up
Emitty

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We have reasons…

A few weeks ago, to be precise 28th and 29th of last month that’s November, me and the team got a nomination to participate in the universities and college awards and I was just the public figure who will present the team to the judge in the category of best volunteers.

the script was simple to get into the stage present a few projects, wait on the judges if they had any inquiries or questions about the team answer them drop down wait for the winner to be announced after every other contestant have to get on the stage.

In the process of waiting my turn, I asked my colleague for a speech that I’ll present that was a day before my presentation and she sent me this wonderful speech. But this was after a few dramatic episodes of asking what language she should write the speech.

Generally, the speech was centred on why do we do volunteering? her response was beautiful.

Saturday, 28 Nov 2020 03:54 PM

As humans, we are species of togetherness. No matter how much busy the world seems today it still needs people who are willing to give what they are blessed with for the joy of others and themselves.

I have chosen to be among the giving generation. Because I choose happiness. Because Volunteering is a two way street beneficiary to both the community and the volunteers themselves.

Because Volunteering gives me a purpose in life. It makes up a part of who I am, boosting up my self esteem and confidence. Bringing me close to the people and expanding my social base.

Volunteering reminds me that no matter how odd things may be; as humans we are species of kindness and we have got two hands one for helping out the others and the second one for steadying ourselves up. (by @skylaurel)

What I want to show here isn’t my chats with my colleague but to tell you that anything you do or you have done has always had a reason and for us to do what we do that is volunteering is not that we have a lot but we know and understand the need to be loved and being acknowledged both our existence and needs.

we start small but in the long run, we want all people that are around us to give their time, love, and some portion of what their blessing to the environment around them. For we are nothing without them and they are a part of what we live for,for there is nothing we can do without them.

for a doctor needs a patient, a husband needs a wife, teachers need students and businesses need clients. Reaching out for them means creating a path for a feedback of blessing. Am not standing here to tell you to help all but help one or two because youre capable of it.

Someone cant help everyone but everyone can help someone. Join us to be the change we want to see in the community.

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No Straight Route

Never have I ever been on planes or any other airborne machine. I speak this out of what I have heard; it might be wrong, if so be the case I agree to be corrected.

Airplanes of long routes such as those from Tanzania, Kenya and Uganda to America or any other destination you could think of tend to take many hours on air. Mostly ranging from 11- 18+ hours and this is so interesting.

These planes have routes same as to the buses on land. Sometimes it might be a one way flight or an exchange where you’ll change flights. In most cases these changes could be in Amsterdam or UAE for flights. (am i correct ?)

I know most of us are just like me, not well experienced with air borne travel but I am sure that you have experienced the bus routes. Here in Tanzania (proud being one), we have “daladalas” which have mini routes within the region.

Well; for the routes taken, let’s say from town in Arusha to kikatiti (suburb place , far from town). There are a few options to complete the route, either you take a bus from Arusha to Moshi(Costa) and drop by Kikatiti or take a mini bus(daladala) from arusha straight to katiti bus stand or two mini buses from arusha to usariver then another to katiti.

Even for us using the mini buses, we have got our own Amsterdam. What I mean is the detours before we reach our desired destinations. An example of a simple route from town to katiti an exchange of buses can range from one to three or even four cars depending on the day itself.

What am trying to bring in mind is the minibus exchange and even the airplane exchange in Amsterdam.  c, disloyal people and even betrayal on the way.

Life without struggle or hardship of any kind is not that sweet, there’s a say that no pain no Gain… meaning you can’t gain something new without working for it. When I say working I mean struggling or fighting hardship, challenges, stress, disappointments, disloyal people and even betrayal on the way to achieve it all..

So having detours from your big picture or plan will always give you the advantage of learning lessons upon lessons such that when you reach the big picture you’ll appreciate what you have…

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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

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Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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What You Eat

In a restaurant or grocery there will always be a list of food, we can order all but we don’t. we decide to pick some and eat then leave.

There are a lot ot menus in the world, what I mean is there are a lot of foods to eat and to be cooked and they can all be cooked under different techniques to raise different taste.

we all have different taste on our cuisine. The foods used in one part of the globe can be different from the other part of the globe.

we can eat all that if we decide too, but we sometimes have placed standard on what we eat and what we don’t .

In real life we can say the information around the globe is the food we choose on eating or taste. there are a lot of information going around us. we can’t eat all the information That’s out there what we can do is choose the quantity of what we eat and even decided on what not to eat.

we luck standards of what we digest any information we digest on it without processing the depth of it.

we should accept that not every information out there is for us to take in and process it. not everything we hear are ours to process, many relationship and stable connection are cancelled or die due to what we hear and decide to process. Be careful with the information that goes around you.

We live in a world that we eat what is around us , digest it no matter how  and release it

Bless Up. Emitty

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