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Life = love + life

The Life, Love, and Leveling Up of an individuals
For most of us, it’s no secret that love conquers all. It makes life worth living—and it even lights up those dark corners of our hearts. But for those who are experiencing a difficult time in their relationship, the difficulties might be just what the doctor ordered — and not the end of the world. The truth is, most relationships don’t pan out as planned. And for those who do have a successful outcome, it’s often because they weren’t meant to be. In this article, we explore the six pillars of love: what they are and how to cultivate them in your life.

What is love?
Simply put, love is a feeling. It’s not a word, a concept, or even a thought. It’s an action. And the action is to connect with the one you love, no matter who that person is — whether that person is your spouse, your best friend, or your colleague. It’s to make space for them in your heart, mind, and calendar.

How to have love
To have love, you must have love. That’s it. That’s the entire situation. You don’t have to do anything else. It doesn’t matter if you spend your free time alone or with a partner — the very fact that you’re connected to another person makes you feel love.

Why do people have love?
There are two main factors that lead to the development of love. The first is mutual respect for one another. This is the foundation of any relationship. If someone doesn’t respect you — or, at the very least, doesn’t seem to appreciate what you have — then there’s no chance in hell of having love.

How to cultivate it in your life
There are a few ways to get your heart rate pumping and your mind thinking like an individual. It starts by choosing to love yourself first. Once you’ve validated that you are healthy and happy — then, it’s on to the question of how to love your partner. Here are a few ways to start: Express your love for yourself. Create a photo album with your love for yourself. Share it with anyone who’ll listen. Get involved in extracurricular activities or charitable causes that support your interests. Whatever it takes, make yourself happy. Improve your relationship with your partner. Spend more time together; read, write, and interact with each other; be more sensitive to one another’s needs; and show up more as a team.

Bottom line
Now that you’ve explored the six pillars of love, what are you waiting for? Start being you! When someone doesn’t love you back, it automatically suggests that they don’t want to be with you. That means it — and the challenges that come with it — are real. You’re not alone. The people in your life who struggle are the ones who need to connect with themselves and validate that they love themselves. Keep in mind that it’s okay to be imperfect — because being imperfect is who you are. And while you may feel bad for the way that you feel sometimes, it doesn’t mean that you have to put up with unfair or negative treatment from other people. In fact, that kind of behavior towards others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-blame. So, instead of feeling shame or shamefacedness, just realize that you’re just naturally attracted to those who you think have what you want in life — and who you think you can please. The more you connect with yourself and validate that you love yourself, the easier it will be for you to connect with your partner. Eventually, something will grow between you two and you’ll know you’re meant to be together.

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Why Do you do it ?

Based on all things people that people know or think they know what we do. The question will be why do you do it ??? Why do you do what you do ?

See the first answer from alot of people they will aim to go for love, I love what I do that’s why I do it.  This is an answer but it’s not very heavy to the intensity of the question asked.. 

Love is a feeling , feelings are best felt and not explained. So you can’t do something just because you feel it, there is more to that than  just love. By the way we accredit stupid things out of love, when someone does something stupid the common answer is  s/he did out of love ..

So in search of answers let’s ask ourselves this can we do something that we have never seen it before, larger portion is a no,  where we are, the environment will dictate what we do, because the environment plays a bigger portion into forcing us to do what we do.

In my neighbourhood I Live next to a couple actually were once a couple and were blessed a kid named X. They were happy at first and they were always in touch with us, a matter of fact we before moving to the place, the offered a portion of land inorder for as to make room for the construction materials

Also they were so generous a matter of facts some materials we used were stored at their spot. Time went on and we had this environment that we spend time with X play and fool around all these because the environment was fine

But then came dark times ( of course every good story must have a twist.) The father of X became a drunkard. I don’t know if its the movie drunkard master that gave him vibe but I guess the environment that he positioned himself to got him an alcohol addict..

After the house was done, wanted to know where the couple were, to find that the father sent away his wife and the kid had to dropout of school so he could take care of his siblings.

The point is that his environment changed and what he does is because of his environment..

Question: Why do you do ?
Me: Do what ??
Them: community stuff and all that?.
Me: No apparent reason…

But to be honest, I do that because I’m scared, scared of the fact that no one else can understand what I feel and see,  this is because of feelings are felt differently and nobody knows what I feel even if I tell them what I feel .

I’m scared that if I don’t fix the environment then my kids or their kids will live in a portion that I failed to create, a portion  I failed to correct, I do that because I’m scared of what I see the role that a changed environment has to the development of anything, to a change that has to be seen.

So I do what I do not out of love but to protect what I love and will come to love for them to find a smooth environment that won’t help them have to change inorder to survive…

Bless up
Emitty

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Who’s fault is it

Its another beautiful morning today. I thank God for giving the grace of attending the first service today. So when was on my way back home I was just walking along the road then over a sudden a guy from behind me just greeted, “Hi”. I had to turn back to know who that person was, it was a guy a know, just a guy around the neighborhood and I hied back to him. As we were walking the guy was smoking and I was like it’s so too early for him to be doing this, this was just in my head. So I had to ask him what’s the benefit of that he replied “it has no benefits honestly and I can’t stop smoking ” I was like “ooh really” then he said ” I got this friends of mine who taught me how to but I now wonder that they ain’t smoking anymore” and I told him so why can’t you stop and be just like them “No I can’t stop I just can’t” , do you know how bad it is for your health especially your lungs “Yes, nicotine I what I get from this and I can’t stop, it’s satan who is making me” and I was like whoa whoa whoa man hold it there satan! Are you for real? so Satan is the one who made you do this. You know you really don’t have to blame Satan in any of this because you are the who made such a decision to get to where you are now and to what you are doing right now

What am I trying to say here is

many of us have been blaming satan for the mistakes we do or for situations we get ourselves in and we be like it’s satan who made me do this on the contrary it’s been our fault all way long we get to decide without thinking of what the outcome would be. So sometimes we just have seat and look back to where we made it go wrong and get to fix it than just saying the statement it’s Satan who made me do this

You have a great day. Bless up

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Give it

Being in a world where every day the technology increase and the demand on the market is portable and slim designs in everything made.

There are always problems and the problems present needs solutions we all have to agree on that, if you can solve a problem then you make profit.

Technology, men that’s broad and that’s hard to explain. But all things that place in the tech industry are all made from observation made from the environment that is around us.

Let’s take an example of problems and the lesson drawn from it, have a file that you wanna send it from one computer to another the reasonable way its just to send using the flash drive or the ethernet and many more others.

The lesson drawn from all that is sharing. Well that’s not hard to define because it is more of a move of anything from one point to another, just its the movement.

The movement is not hard to define but the action is different its easy for us human beings to make demands that somethings have to be shared. But we can’t share what we have .

But people do share, and from a technical point of view there are alot of ways that define the way we share things.

Usb sharing: for the IT personnel this is a method of sharing and it’s grouped into one to multipoint. A single file in one computer can be placed inside a flash drive to be shared across many computers.

People’s way of sharing can be like a usb, we acquire what we want to share from one place and then share at a time. The problem is that this sharing needs alittle bit of patience. Since you need to share with one entity at a time and also the ability is limited, some people ability of receiving is limited and hence the sharing capabilities too.

Extension cable sharing: this is more of my a bridge it taps to a source or point and according to its slots it can then allow other devices to tap in a get power. Also it’s a bridge and can also act as a source to create another bridge

So this method Is mostly needed in the community but it’s not always there, people tend to receive first then give, which is a good thing but we have to understand that when you give you get a room to recieve it’s a basic math.. as you get you give is equals to a room empty available for receiving.

We have to learn and unlearn all about sharing its not a must to give interms of financial or material wise but also we can give the intangible things a smile, time love and alot of other things.

Someone cant reach everyone, but everyone can reach someone. We need to be more of an extension cable rather than a flash drive kinda people…

Bless up
Emitty

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
Bless up
Emitty

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Bonding

In light of my recent endeavour I undertook, a project coordinated by a certain group of people and I was just invited to it. I personally love projects but this one I did it out of strong persuasion of one of the coordinators..

“Now it’s not that hard, I would just go and enjoy the project and my day will be done ” that’s what came into my mind. But the story changed soon after. Reaching the rendezvous point( meeting point) the coordinators that invited me was not on the same bus.

I’ve never had ever thought of being in such situation where you fail to bond with the people around you. That’s my hardest and toughest feeling that I can beat and even shake it off. I hate being in this situations.

It took time until i met the coordinator that had persuaded me earlier to come along the project…

This triggered my mind to examine my point of focus, ask your self what is your point of entry or point of balance in life, do you expect a person or group of individuals to come rescue you ??

Well if yes you’re in a road to disappointment because people get tired and even get bored to hold you up. It’s a messed up world we live in.

Way out, it’s okay to depend on people from time to time and it’s also not okay to depend on them always. That’s a great mistake ever to be made by individual.

Try to balance what we call in swahili shobo.. the human help will always have an end and we can help once with no regrets, twice with a head looking the other side,third time with our complain mode and in murmur but in the end we come to the breaking point and we dont help no more

Learn to stand on your own to create that peace of mind within yourself and also boost your mindset .

Bless Up.
Emitty…

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We have reasons…

A few weeks ago, to be precise 28th and 29th of last month that’s November, me and the team got a nomination to participate in the universities and college awards and I was just the public figure who will present the team to the judge in the category of best volunteers.

the script was simple to get into the stage present a few projects, wait on the judges if they had any inquiries or questions about the team answer them drop down wait for the winner to be announced after every other contestant have to get on the stage.

In the process of waiting my turn, I asked my colleague for a speech that I’ll present that was a day before my presentation and she sent me this wonderful speech. But this was after a few dramatic episodes of asking what language she should write the speech.

Generally, the speech was centred on why do we do volunteering? her response was beautiful.

Saturday, 28 Nov 2020 03:54 PM

As humans, we are species of togetherness. No matter how much busy the world seems today it still needs people who are willing to give what they are blessed with for the joy of others and themselves.

I have chosen to be among the giving generation. Because I choose happiness. Because Volunteering is a two way street beneficiary to both the community and the volunteers themselves.

Because Volunteering gives me a purpose in life. It makes up a part of who I am, boosting up my self esteem and confidence. Bringing me close to the people and expanding my social base.

Volunteering reminds me that no matter how odd things may be; as humans we are species of kindness and we have got two hands one for helping out the others and the second one for steadying ourselves up. (by @skylaurel)

What I want to show here isn’t my chats with my colleague but to tell you that anything you do or you have done has always had a reason and for us to do what we do that is volunteering is not that we have a lot but we know and understand the need to be loved and being acknowledged both our existence and needs.

we start small but in the long run, we want all people that are around us to give their time, love, and some portion of what their blessing to the environment around them. For we are nothing without them and they are a part of what we live for,for there is nothing we can do without them.

for a doctor needs a patient, a husband needs a wife, teachers need students and businesses need clients. Reaching out for them means creating a path for a feedback of blessing. Am not standing here to tell you to help all but help one or two because youre capable of it.

Someone cant help everyone but everyone can help someone. Join us to be the change we want to see in the community.

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