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Who’s fault is it

Its another beautiful morning today. I thank God for giving the grace of attending the first service today. So when was on my way back home I was just walking along the road then over a sudden a guy from behind me just greeted, “Hi”. I had to turn back to know who that person was, it was a guy a know, just a guy around the neighborhood and I hied back to him. As we were walking the guy was smoking and I was like it’s so too early for him to be doing this, this was just in my head. So I had to ask him what’s the benefit of that he replied “it has no benefits honestly and I can’t stop smoking ” I was like “ooh really” then he said ” I got this friends of mine who taught me how to but I now wonder that they ain’t smoking anymore” and I told him so why can’t you stop and be just like them “No I can’t stop I just can’t” , do you know how bad it is for your health especially your lungs “Yes, nicotine I what I get from this and I can’t stop, it’s satan who is making me” and I was like whoa whoa whoa man hold it there satan! Are you for real? so Satan is the one who made you do this. You know you really don’t have to blame Satan in any of this because you are the who made such a decision to get to where you are now and to what you are doing right now

What am I trying to say here is

many of us have been blaming satan for the mistakes we do or for situations we get ourselves in and we be like it’s satan who made me do this on the contrary it’s been our fault all way long we get to decide without thinking of what the outcome would be. So sometimes we just have seat and look back to where we made it go wrong and get to fix it than just saying the statement it’s Satan who made me do this

You have a great day. Bless up

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge mentality and mental health season

Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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graduate's depression knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Chillax,Graduate (parte v)

Will start today’s article with my all time fave hindi movie namely three idiots, when the imperial college principle was addressing the students, he said life is a race, you either run or get squashed.

That statement applies to us but for today am not talking about running and talking about tolerance, life is a race yea but if you live in daressalaam you it’s not a race. This is because there will always be a traffic jam some place always.

Am not from there but we usually see and hear of traffic jams and so on. So in traffic jams is where I would like to set my theme for today’s title tolerance. In life is not all about running but it’s about maintaining pace between what you had, who you are and who you want to be.

See the same person has a past, present and future now tolerance is how you live now with learnt experience of the past making or creating a better future that’s tolerance.

Am not conflict with the one who said the past is past or bygones be bygones what am saying is that let all the past be a learnt experience which will help you make moves today that are not from scratch but from a reference that will help you reach point in the future.

In a traffic jam there is always a slow/gradual movement towards the common place, in life that’s how we are some people maybe going fast in the route and you going slow it doesn’t matter what matters is your tolerance to wait to finish because even after the jam what’s next is a smooth ride to compensate wasted time…

Learn to take time and tolerate what is thrown at you..

Bless up
Emitty..

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graduate's depression knowledge life mentality and mental health

Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


Part 1
Bless up
Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

Bless up
Emitty

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Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

Bless Up
Emitty

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Swahili Episodes

Naenda, Ila Panaboa

Je life la kitaa vipi?
Wakati wote tumeshazoea kuwa na mipango endelevu
Tunapenda kuwa na uwezo wa kuhimili shida zijazo mbele zetu.
lakini mara nyingi hatuna uwezo kwa asilimia zote kuzuia kwa asilimia 100
mara nyingi zinakuwa sio shida zetu ila ni mipango ambayo haijakaa fresh.

Mazoea yetu kila siku yanajenga tabia ambayo mara kwa mara inakuwa ngumu kukwepa au sahau mapema. Kwanza ni jambo la kushukuru Mungu kwa hapo ulipofika, uzima afya na nguvu ulionayo sio mipango yako ila kila kitu kinaenda poa. Tuna uwezo wa kujikinga dhidi ya magonjwa kwa kuthibiti vyakula tulavyo na hata kufanya mazoezi.

Nilipishana na mwanachuo aliyekuwa amepaki vitu vyake ili aende nyumbani,
nikamuuliza vipi mbona unaonekana hauna raha wala kama vile hutaki kwenda huko unapokwenda. ndiye aliyenijibu
ninaenda ila panaboa.

Baada ya kumaliza mitihani yangu nimekuwa na mud amrefu kusikiliza watu walionitangulia, walioko na hali kama mimi na hata kusikiliza watu na mawazo tofauti tofauti. kila mtu ana usemi wake juu ya mambo tofauti tofauti ni sisi kusikiliza nna kujifunza

Mwanzo nilicheka ila baada ya muda mawazo yakanijia ya kwanini anasema kuwa nyumbani kunaboa?
Naomba niongee na wewe uliyemaliza chuo kwa ngazi yeyote na hauna mwelekeo haswa upi unaweza kutumia ili utoboe kwanza mimi sipo hapa kukupa mchongo ila nakuambia nilichojifunza kati ya wiki moja au mbili.

Deadline:

Katika maisha ya kiwanafunzi tumezoea kuishi kwa deadline, naweza sema deadline ni hali au ka kamba kadogo ambacho tunajitahidi kufanikisha mambo huku tunaning’inia kwa hiyo kamba. mara nyingi ubora wa kazi hauwi mzuri kisa ya kufanya kazi kwa pressure. Muda hatuutumii ipasavyo na hili tumelichukulia sawa
tu kisa ni mazoea, mazoea ni vyema kuyajenga ila tuaangalie tunajenga nini na tunajengea wapi. Sasahivi inakuwa ngumu kuanza maisha mtaani kisa mtaani hamna deadline kama shule na pia hakuna mtu wa kusimamia au kuweka uzito ule kama wa shule, na hii hali unakuta mtu yuko radhi kutamani kurudi shule baadala ya kuhustle mtaani.

Kupokea Pokea:

Chuoni kama ulikuwa unapokea mkopo hapa naomba niongee na wewe sio mbaya ila mazoea yaambatanayo na maisha unayoishi ya mkopo ndo tunayangalia.
mkopo unatumia sawa na boom ulikuwa nalo so umejizoesha kwamba hela ipo. na wengi tumezizoeza kwamba hela ipo na mara nyingi ni rahisi kumiss chuo kisa ya hela kuingia kirahisi rahisi.Mtaani usiingie na mtazamo huo utakata maini mapema na kuona mtaa mchungu.

Connections:

Umemaliza shule na unategemea connection ndo zitakuweka mjini, sawa kama hizo connection umejijengea mwenyewe hapo sawa ila kama ni connections ambazo ni
ndugu au wazazi au watu wa karibu wamezitengeneza na wewe unategemea kuishi nazo embu acha kuweka matarajio makubwa hapo. ukiwa chuo hicho kizazi ulichonacho au watu wanaokuzunguka ndio hao watakutoa katika hali uliopo ndo muda haswa wakutengeneza michongo na dili za kuelekweka . na usije sema nyumbani utapata michongo. Nyumbani hakuna michingo ukikaa nyumbani utajipotezea uukaribu na hawa watu. Na mara nyingi tunakuwa na level tofauti katika maisha kisa ya kujitenga na wanafunzi wenzetu, walimu na hata watu wengine .

ITAENDELEA

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