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A Lil Island

Off the coast of Nova Scotia, Canada, lies a small island known as Oak Island. This unassuming piece of land has been the center of one of the most enduring mysteries in maritime history – the legend of the Money Pit.

According to the tale, in the late 18th century, three young boys discovered a peculiar depression on the island’s surface. Intrigued, they began to dig, and as they delved deeper, they encountered layers of logs and stone markers, leading them to believe that they were on the trail of a buried treasure.

Over the centuries, numerous treasure hunters, including famed explorers and engineers, have attempted to unearth the supposed riches, only to be met with a series of ingenious traps and elaborate flood tunnels. Despite the relentless efforts and significant excavations, the treasure, if it indeed exists, remains tantalizingly out of reach.

The mystery of Oak Island’s Money Pit has sparked the imagination of explorers and enthusiasts for generations, with theories ranging from hidden pirate loot to ancient manuscripts or even connections to the Holy Grail. To this day, the island continues to lure adventurous souls in pursuit of the elusive fortune, making it a captivating and enigmatic chapter in the annals of island lore.

Back to the real concept now, In  life we create a little island, were we isolate ourselves with what goes around us , we just want the noise to be finally over for a short period of time. Not fully shut but just for until we manage to work our way around things.

We set boundaries, standards and guidelines to point out the dos and donts just in order to buy ourselves time to get our shit straight.

See the boundaries and the artifical island ain’t perfect and to some they may feel like we are selfish and we are anti social never knowing what’s really going on..

To some they are well aware of what’s going on and why there is an island but they are the ones who want to take a boat and come this side, sometimes it’s a good trip but some times it’s for a bad cause to just Lower the gap between the waters and the land.

The problem that arise in our lives create isolation and the isolation is the island, we have different ways of accepting the problem at hand. We accept and draw a way to proceed with tackling the problem.

But to others our ways of solving them may be Alittle kinda different from how they will normally tackle it, and this gap between our way of doing versus the way they will do its what causes conflicts and causing us to dry our islands dry. The words spoken cause us to lower our beliefs on solving our problems in our own ways.

Don’t get it twisted, but there’s power in collaborative problem solving and also there is power in adaptive and solo problem solving, see sometimes problems come our way not to be collaboratively solved.

There is a verse from the Good book that says, when temptations come our way, are within our abilities to be solved by us, this statement alone may help when we’re facing problems only when we believe in it .

With problems comes solutions, with solutions comes experiences and with experience comes sucess, let not your way of dealing with problems be messed up just by the words, action or somebody else’s way of solving problems.

Bless up
Emitty …

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Our Escape

Well the dictionary define escape as a narrow run or temporary displacement or distraction from a routine or reality.

The definition had something that caught my eye, the words such as temporary, distraction and reality.

We tend to search for escapes because of our temporary situation in life, and life can be a constituent of many things from social interaction to the mind of one self. Our economy, social life, spirituality, mentality, health and even a balance of all these can be what we call life..

Escape is temporary just as noted from the definition before, reason to create escape can vary but alot of people are in search of escape to get a way to numb pain, and the pain is mostly caused by over expectations.

See in life we tend to expect alot from people or even actions that we do. We expect fast money so we engage in illegal businesses to make quick money and we end up disappointed for a reason or two. We are always constantly putting overwhelming hopes forward and casting out reality in the name of faith.

Don’t quote me wrong, faith is a good thing but don’t disguise instant gratification or any thing related to fastering the process as faith, TRUST THE PROCESS they say but people don’t do that, the say maybe the process should start trusting their ways.

A failure to quit running towards escape will lead to addiction, and we all know what addictions do to a person. And there is no such thing as a good or bad addictions.

Addictions are addictions and people tend to color coat it because they are temporary pleasures that leads to an escape of reality..

Once posted it on our team timeline ” what’s your escape ?” And the response were alot, but people are troubled with alot that we have to agree to, but some problem they are not really a running problem, some problem are to be faced, but it’s easy to think on running more than thinking of facing it..

On a advisory scale, problems will constantly seem to add up and piling up problems will not be the solution. We have to fight our problems, the escape to our problems  doesn’t solve the problems they just forward them. So we are not running away from them we are just forwarding them…

Bless Up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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As He teaches

Back in my primary school I remember my grammar school teacher usually had us Energize with some opposites of words.

He would have the class stand up and pick one at random then he starts by saying you what is the opposite of this and that and you’ll earn a seat when you answer the questions

Well back then we hated it and we usually didn’t raise our hands to answer the questions hoping the teacher will get bored and run out of words to ask us. But ooh boy that man had stamina he was always on the clock and he had alot of words for us to answer

So right now I don’t use any opposite in my life or neither do i use the grammar 100% but what I know today i can reflect in alot of lessons that can be derived from the quick stand up.

Some notable guidelines to some lessons are as follow.
1. Expecting the teacher to come and ask questions. See in life we are always in a surprise mode, but so far people are in a stage they even say for the point that life has thrown so much shades on me I can’t be surprised no more. This is not that s/he has gone through it all but it’s that s/he has gone through alot . Alot people of have a hidden story to tell. And all the stories mah all have a same beginning “it was out of no were, I didn’t plan this or I didn’t plan that but it happens and till it happens like that it means that if you didn’t plan for it then you had a different plan and that the opposite happened…
2. Our response some early they raise their hands but some of us we dont. The early response are similar to the way we live our lives some opportunities are randomly popin up always but its some few that make that fast decision and others will take time to take them but others will not take the opportunities at all that’s life. We waited for the teacher but some of us had already sat down earlier…
3. Hope and expectation for him to get bored. I really dont know if this has ever hit you up, you starting feeling a little left out want to life just pass you by, feeling like you’re the only one alone in this whole life passing a certain situation and life cant Get any worse than it was. You hope life will get bored and start being nice to you? If you’re in this just know life never get bored throwing shade its just mother nature making us hard and resilient to its methods.
4. Stamina for his consistency,life will always show you consistency more and more and it will always disappoint us, so life has the teacher’s consistency to throw shades. There is a trending statement good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people that’s nature the way to build the boldness out of ourselves.
5. Answers given. Whether we were asked the first round or last every question that the teacher had asked had answers so as life no matter what you going through, nonmatter tough,easy, crazy, logical or illogical then just know, no matter what time is threw at you it has an answer..
6. Topic on the table. The teacher had always had a particular theme he used while asking a question and we would have to tune ourselves into answering the particular theme that was very easy simply because the questions were easily predictable after the theme was known. So in life trying figure what wave to flow with in times of your greatest conflict..

I was told a good teacher teaches how the real world works on his lessons without even saying so, and by reflecting this it has clearly shown me that the teacher planted something positive in the lessons he taught..

Bless up
Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate (Parte IV)

With reference to simba vs yanga and also with reference to the article we wrote about reference. I would love to start of sending my greetings to all yanga fans for the win against the derby .

The Match has shown so much that I can use for the part IV the comparison. See there were some expectations that the team itself am talking about simba set or already had against yanga and yanga too. The people that are the fans had already set there expectations.

Am not a football fan to say much but I want you to move with something from the match, before the match there is always a H2H count. That is a head to head count against the two teams, and this is a comparison for what the teams have been lately prior to the match .

Comparison that’s what its today, we’ll talk about comparison and last article we saw there are three types of comparisons and I would love to state one by one today …

The comparison based on the walkthrough title graduate depression…

Comparison set by the society against you. We all have guardians or family members that always think that they know all about school and all about you, and also even our parents have always been there in the loop of knowing everything about school simply because they work hard to get us the fees. They hope that we are always aware of what they go through and the only way to repay them is by us having a good life .

See they set an expectation between what they know and what we are, it’s super hard breaking this and if we are to give much thinking to this it’s a problem, we all fight against secret battles.

There is this feeling that when you are some how young and your parents have a point to compare you with it maybe a sibling or a relative that’s either the same point of academics as you or ahead of you a little, there is that atmosphere of where you are always behind in terms of performance and they have set that you have to be either like them or better than them, that situation eats up alot of as in terms of academics

The way through it is that life is yours its either you create your standards or someone else creates them for you. It’s simple as that.

Comparison of you against somebody else, after seeing the set by our guardians to us then there is what we so call standards when we set standard we can place a person as a role model but that role model may be a potential help but also a problem because if the difference between them and you if positively then you advance but if not then you are in problem of comparing you against them..

If you’re pursuing academic or doing anything never set your goals to outrun or beat something against somebody else. Swahili saying ” mhuni afeli anachelewa tu kufaulu ” we are always just late to succeed but we never fail. That’s us life to us. After you’re done it may take time to win but never ever compare yourself from somebody else.

You may be running the same race but that’s not the guarantee you have to move with them every move.

We can’t move if we move by beef or comparison that’s the easiest life principle but we fail to understand that. Always be you never compare yourself to others…

Comparison of beliefs, this is my personal favourite you can outrun the comparison your guardians have placed against you, you can outrun your standards you place your self against people but its very hard to outrun your beliefs

The funny thing about beliefs is that you think them throughly then it becomes your routine through the manifestation of it in the outside. Now that’s not a bad thing.

It will be a bad thing when your standards are tested to a limit they need to be broken, when you set something inside your mind gives you a certain vibe but when you’re in a conflict of interest to fight it or to let it go, that eats you up. So always be careful of what standards you put for yourself..

Coming parte V: tolerance, how to fight against your own standards and how to balance as world claws it off on you?

Bless up
Emitty

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Pa…

Apart from today being Father’s Day, I had in me to write this article after watching “breakthrough” a movie about the powerful prayer of a parent.

Also I write this because of the nickname Baba Mzazi that I recently found myself been given.

Being a father or a Male parent is never easy neither being a mother but a father is a figure that has a different point of being viewed.

This article can’t be expressed only by a single person but since its my version. What scares me most about being a father is ?

I know time will reach and I’ll be a father, having kids is a fantastic dream but is also scary that what if the kids dont turn out the way you want? Our fathers or parents nurtured us to the way that we are right now, I’m who I’m now just because they dared to take care and nurture me through this road.

I was a kid back then and I know without a doubt that I was very stubborn growing up and reaching this level definitely I know I was stubborn. No need to be told I was. But they took care of me .

My greatest fear of becoming a father is will my kid keep my teachings, what I will tell him or her also what will I teach her or him? How can I protect my kids around this world of technology with everything you seek being available at my kid’s hand??

If this is your worries then welcome to the team, fathers to be… I haven’t figured the dad ship yet but what I know is that kids are always gonna learn from what they see their parent figure always do. How do I know that this is from me I’m here because I grabbed what my father was doing so the insecurities that comes from you taking care of the kids that you have or going to have all lies on the way you are around them.

” an apple doesn’t fall far from the apple tree.” You are your kids.

In the above statements I haven’t said that being a father is easy I just said it’s easy for kids learning from what they are exposed too.

Being a father is not a part time job or something that you do when you’re free but it’s always being there for the kid you have. Building up memories with them and in the end believing they are grownup enough to be the better version of you. So never teach a kid to be as you but better than you.

Cheers to dads in heaven
Cheers to dads in earth
Cheers to dads to be..
Happy fathers day

Bless up
Emitty

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
Bless up
Emitty

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Loaded Gun

With what is going on around the world after being hit with the covid-19 and people wearing masks, I thought to my self it’s a great lessons that we are to learn, we limit our words and we wash off any associations we have carry as to just watch and listen which are great methods to learn.

Met with the questions 2 ears, 2 eyes but why 1 mouth.. ?

Pro 18:21 BBE Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.

A mans thought is build from what s/he heard but that doesn’t bring bigger changes like what you say,they say words are priceless but words out of a person’s can cost him.

So it’s clearly that what we say unto others and ourselves are always responsible for everything else

Mind clearly works by what is said, if you accept yourself as a failure then what the mind does its just a matter of bringing the correct amount of identifiers or symptoms that will bring the correct failure results.

There is a swahili swahili people saying “ukiwaza tu unakuwa” well the funny thing while growing was that we usually had to drink water that was not boiled because most of the times the boil water was always hot and the best option was water from the tap .

But having caring parent we usually were canned, when caught at the act of drink water from the tap.

We were always told that we will get diseases and they wont incur any cost to take us to an hospital or getting medicines. That didn’t affect us just because we always said that say “ukiwaza tu inakuwa”

Quoting my favourite artist NF “The point I’m makin’ is the mind is a powerful place
And what you feed it can affect you in a powerful way
It’s pretty cool, right? Yeah, but it’s not always safe
Just hang with me, this’ll only take a moment, okay?
Just think about it for a second, if you look at your face
Every day when you get up and think you’ll never be great
You’ll never be great, not because you’re not, but the hate
Will always find a way to cut you up and murder your faith (woo!) – THE SEARCH “

What am trying to say is that what really matters is how we control the words that come out of mouth, it’s easy to say a word but hard to return once said. It’s like living with loaded gun that the safety is off. Once its shot the bullet can’t be returned..

So whatever you are going through the trigger was once your words be careful. Though I dont have any proof of the connections between our mind, words that we say and reality, but i have lived to see what I say by mouth come to reality..

Bless up

Emitty

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