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Grieve

(To all soldiers rested after fighting a great war called life, we pray in one form and firm belief that you rest peacefully and the ways that you have shown us through the way you have lived, we shall live in accordance and just as the way you’ve shown it to us..)

Is it safe to say we differ interms of how we handle things? Whether it’s a good thing or bad thing we must differ.

Why? Simply is because feelings are felt and its just a state that we clearly have to differ in how we react.

A person being sad, or crying or even laughing in a grieving season that doesn’t mean the one who is laughing is not grieving. Or the one crying is the one with the most loss. Or the one sad is the neutrality.

As a fact, before any person can show emotion its by default interpreted by the brain and then  the outward expression is given. So sad news can come and a positive energy.

A person laughing its doesn’t mean s/he doesn’t feel the grieve but maybe the interpretation has brought some good memories worthy to be remembered and s/he smiles because it means they once enjoyed the moment.

A person can also cry because the interpretation has come with the memory is hard to replace the void created or the source of happiness is gone and it will take time to heal.

Same as all other things in life, we have to agree that we differ in interpretation, and hence we should stop comparison against each other, and just be ourselves .

In remembrance
Paschal Otto Bundala & other rested soldiers
(1974 – 2022)

Signed Emitty.

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Chillax,Graduate (parte v)

Will start today’s article with my all time fave hindi movie namely three idiots, when the imperial college principle was addressing the students, he said life is a race, you either run or get squashed.

That statement applies to us but for today am not talking about running and talking about tolerance, life is a race yea but if you live in daressalaam you it’s not a race. This is because there will always be a traffic jam some place always.

Am not from there but we usually see and hear of traffic jams and so on. So in traffic jams is where I would like to set my theme for today’s title tolerance. In life is not all about running but it’s about maintaining pace between what you had, who you are and who you want to be.

See the same person has a past, present and future now tolerance is how you live now with learnt experience of the past making or creating a better future that’s tolerance.

Am not conflict with the one who said the past is past or bygones be bygones what am saying is that let all the past be a learnt experience which will help you make moves today that are not from scratch but from a reference that will help you reach point in the future.

In a traffic jam there is always a slow/gradual movement towards the common place, in life that’s how we are some people maybe going fast in the route and you going slow it doesn’t matter what matters is your tolerance to wait to finish because even after the jam what’s next is a smooth ride to compensate wasted time…

Learn to take time and tolerate what is thrown at you..

Bless up
Emitty..

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Constructive thinking life mentality and mental health

I speak MENtal – II

according to havard health magazine

on average, women live longer than men. In fact, 57% of all those ages 65 and older are female. By age 85, 67% are women. The average lifespan is about 5 years longer for women than men in the U.S., and about 7 years longer worldwide.

It’s not hard to see the gender gap among the elderly. A glance around most nursing homes or assisted living facilities in the U.S. often tells the story: women will usually outnumber men, and the magnitude of the difference is often striking. I’m also told that when a man moves into a residential setting dominated by the geriatric set, he tends to be popular; and that’s especially true if he still drives.

Advertisers know this as well. I recently saw an ad for an organization called “A Place for Mom” that helps families find assisted living or other services for senior citizens. And while they help men as well as women, the name of the company reflects how much bigger the elderly female market is.

So why do men, on average, die first?

There are many reasons why the ratio of men to women (which is roughly equal in young adulthood) starts to favor women over time. Among the most powerful factors? Men tend to

take bigger risks. Some of the reason seems to be “biological destiny.” The frontal lobe of the brain — the part that controls judgment and consideration of an action’s consequences — develops more slowly in boys and young men than in their female counterparts. This may contribute to the fact that far more boys and men die in accidents or due to violence than girls and women. Examples include biking, driving drunk, and homicide. This tendency toward lack of judgment and consideration of consequences may also contribute to detrimental lifestyle decisions among young men, such as smoking or drinking to excess.

have more dangerous jobs. Men far outnumber women in some of the riskiest occupations, including military combat, firefighting, and working at construction sites.

die of heart disease more often and at a younger age. In fact, men are 50% more likely than women to die of heart disease. The fact that men have lower estrogen levels than women may be part of the reason. But medical risks, such as poorly treated high blood pressure or unfavorable cholesterol levels, may contribute as well.

be larger than women. Across many species, larger animals tend to die younger than smaller ones. Although the magnitude of this effect is uncertain in humans, it may work against male longevity.

commit suicide more often than women. This is true despite the fact that depression is considered more common among women and women make more (non-fatal) suicide attempts. Some attribute this to the tendency for men to avoid seeking care for depression and the cultural norms that discourage men from seeking help for mental illness.

be less socially connected. For reasons that aren’t entirely clear, people with fewer and weaker social connections (which tends to include men more often than women) tend to have higher death rates.

avoid doctors. According to the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality, men are far more likely to skip routine health screens and far less likely than women to have seen a doctor of any kind during the previous year.

The uneven playing field for boys starts early. The Y chromosome tends to develop mutations more often than X chromosomes and the lack of a second X chromosome in men means that X-linked abnormalities among boys are not “masked” by a second, normal version. Survival in the womb is also less reliable for male fetuses (for uncertain, and probably multiple, reasons). Developmental disorders are also more common among boys; some of these could shorten life expectancy.

What we can do to help men live longer

While there’s not much that can be done about some of these factors, others are modifiable. For example, since men tend to avoid medical care far more often than women, getting men to report symptoms (including depression) and go for regular follow-up for chronic medical problems (such as high blood pressure) could counter some of the tendency for them to die younger.

It’s also worth noting that the survival gap between men and women reflects an average tendency among large numbers of people. In fact, plenty of wives predecease their husbands. Individual risk factors, such as smoking, diabetes, or a strong family history of breast cancer, can outweigh the general tendency for women to live longer.

Perhaps we’ll be more successful in the future in avoiding preventable, premature death among men (and women) — and, because many of these efforts will have a bigger impact on men, the gender gap among the elderly may eventually narrow.

That’s according to Harvard health but my reasons on to why we die is coming soon on the next article .. credits to ha

Bless Up

Emitty

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