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Constructive thinking graduate's depression mentality and mental health

Jan “30” uary

School is hard that’s a fact,

From 8 to more hours, more than our minds can hold in classes

Plenty of subjects to study just because of the idea of getting employed or starting a business.

With all the ideas revolving around school Issa mess. Keeping up semester after semester just for graduation, the pressure building up and how we fight the fear of failing while listening to motivational speeches that success is created by failures and giving ourselves hope that AAL IS WELL.

Well, we develop a circle based on our day-to-day interaction and made ideas into reality just because got people to believe in the ideas. support is one thing I learn from these people in my circle.

See we have social media that keeps us close but yet creates distance with the people close to us.

I would like to introduce to you one undefined friend that I met back then, see back then she wasn’t that close, confused eeh (?)

I call her Dummy Ra I don’t know where this comes from but I know that this sounds better when we talk over the phone or just text.  Other names are Tutankhamun, sky laurel, Elle, and many more. She’s a lot of things but one that keeps popping is the POET inside her, she has her ways with lyrics and words that can heal souls and change lives

(is it true?) yes because she has changed mine on several occasions. 

What started as an academic competition got me tight and learning more from her without even knowing that. They say life Is better lived forward but can be understood backward. Many years after starting and living with Dummy I’ve been in a constant learning environment.

Top lessons learned from SKY LAUREL

1. Mental Health 

I started by saying the distance caused by social media, but let’s just say social media plays a great role.

A new use of social media is to associate what we feel to what we see in our feeds and also tagging a person on a post shows appreciation or a call for them to view the content faster.

Recently received a social tag from her, into a carousel post which explained some points that showed if a person was good for your mental health, six points on the carousel. 

Well was truly honored to receive the Tag, but deep down I would have replied to the carousel as follows. (* just teasing *)

Some of the points to recall were as follows

[ ] They don’t try to change you. (/ why change a grown person, muacheee 🤣 /)

[ ] You feel understood and safe around them (it’s because having guns isn’t legal, would you be feeling safe if  I had a gun ?)

[ ] They push you to do your best and overcome obstacles (very lucky that there are no cliffs in WhatsApp we would have pushed you more )

[ ] You feel comfortable sharing personal things  (I’ll pass on this with a no comment)

[ ] They don’t care about anything surface -money, looks, possessions.  (We don’t have anything no money no what so we have to settle for no money and no looks too. 🤣🤣🤣)

This just shows that there are things that we do that people take beneficial for their mental health but we fail to realize them. In a world that people are constantly battling anxiety, depression, and more you have you play your part and be the one person who is good for their mental health.

2. Commitment

Apart from her being a POET by hobby and interests she’s a 4th Year student taking Architecture Technology at a university that is termed as the most hardest institute in terms of academic stuff and she has survived there for four good years, I would personally share her CV here but lets leave that for another day, School aside cause the fact of that gets me goosebumps she’s a astro or anything related to astronomy  enthusiast, she might be short but her dreams and ideas are way over that height of hers and mine even. She’s also a verified smile giver and this came to light when she became the coordinator for our RESCUE THE FORGOTTEN projects in Mbeya with more than 5+ projects and counting done under her watch.

One might ask all these and she’s just a student, how does she do this, well the answer is Commitment, she’s one hell of a fighter and never makes a promise she can’t make it go through.

3. Society first

I feel like am stalking her, is it wrong? I don’t know. But here is the inside truth of this lesson being her friend for many years got me see and learn a lot from her. If I were kidnap here I would say the best way is just arrange a society-centered activity and call her to attend from there its easy just to kidnap her, this is because she’s super committed to put her community first.

In an academic level we hope that a normal student has to go through some stuff just in the name of graduating but she has made that her education is to make her community come first and she has made a last year research project about her community. With school breathing her neck she still organizes project that is society centered and society oriented.

4. Life is a gift.

During corona aka covid-19, was the hardest time for most of us because it being a new season and we weren’t ready for the new season. For some of us were not even over the fact that we were in at end of some season (this is because each season ends and the ends is where newthe  begins) CCOVID-19 got us winding our normal into some new normal

Will still rethinking my options a popped-up information from Dummy entered with a link to a YouTube clip titled WHO ARE YOU(?)

There are no words that can explain how that day I was off my chi and shaken from the core, with everything going just quick no schools and just chillaxing homat e. (You can relate) the clip title got Me pause and wanted me to answer that from my perspective. 

I won’t lie i dIdn’t got a suitable answer that day but it paved away for alot of uncomfortable conversations that I had with myself that made me comfortable to seek and use them from time to time and look where I’m, and all that is just because I want to answer this. “Who Are you?”

Have you found the answer to this simple but yet complicated question?

5. Anchor and support.

With life never being fair, it’s easy to lose where you’re heading, focus fades and anxiety kicks in. Being a student isn’t all white, what is released is that it has more blacks more than it being white. You may have this perfect lay out of how you are going to go through one semester after the other and school life has a way to give you new set of fresh heepee jeepes.

But when assignments kick in, projects eating you up, unbalanced social life, your economic status is rough on ya, friends need support but then fail to be there for them, all things and resolutions that you’ve kept all going drain.

What do you do (?) Who’s your support where do you anchor all that (?)?

She has often show me the impact to have an anchor and a neutral point that always helps out when you’re constantly shaking and fighting anxiety and many more.

There is a lot to talk about in terms  of lesson about her but let me just say no matter who you will meet, never account her or his standards not his or her ability because we learn always from everyone we meet daily.

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As He teaches

Back in my primary school I remember my grammar school teacher usually had us Energize with some opposites of words.

He would have the class stand up and pick one at random then he starts by saying you what is the opposite of this and that and you’ll earn a seat when you answer the questions

Well back then we hated it and we usually didn’t raise our hands to answer the questions hoping the teacher will get bored and run out of words to ask us. But ooh boy that man had stamina he was always on the clock and he had alot of words for us to answer

So right now I don’t use any opposite in my life or neither do i use the grammar 100% but what I know today i can reflect in alot of lessons that can be derived from the quick stand up.

Some notable guidelines to some lessons are as follow.
1. Expecting the teacher to come and ask questions. See in life we are always in a surprise mode, but so far people are in a stage they even say for the point that life has thrown so much shades on me I can’t be surprised no more. This is not that s/he has gone through it all but it’s that s/he has gone through alot . Alot people of have a hidden story to tell. And all the stories mah all have a same beginning “it was out of no were, I didn’t plan this or I didn’t plan that but it happens and till it happens like that it means that if you didn’t plan for it then you had a different plan and that the opposite happened…
2. Our response some early they raise their hands but some of us we dont. The early response are similar to the way we live our lives some opportunities are randomly popin up always but its some few that make that fast decision and others will take time to take them but others will not take the opportunities at all that’s life. We waited for the teacher but some of us had already sat down earlier…
3. Hope and expectation for him to get bored. I really dont know if this has ever hit you up, you starting feeling a little left out want to life just pass you by, feeling like you’re the only one alone in this whole life passing a certain situation and life cant Get any worse than it was. You hope life will get bored and start being nice to you? If you’re in this just know life never get bored throwing shade its just mother nature making us hard and resilient to its methods.
4. Stamina for his consistency,life will always show you consistency more and more and it will always disappoint us, so life has the teacher’s consistency to throw shades. There is a trending statement good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people that’s nature the way to build the boldness out of ourselves.
5. Answers given. Whether we were asked the first round or last every question that the teacher had asked had answers so as life no matter what you going through, nonmatter tough,easy, crazy, logical or illogical then just know, no matter what time is threw at you it has an answer..
6. Topic on the table. The teacher had always had a particular theme he used while asking a question and we would have to tune ourselves into answering the particular theme that was very easy simply because the questions were easily predictable after the theme was known. So in life trying figure what wave to flow with in times of your greatest conflict..

I was told a good teacher teaches how the real world works on his lessons without even saying so, and by reflecting this it has clearly shown me that the teacher planted something positive in the lessons he taught..

Bless up
Emitty

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Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


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Bless up
Emitty

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The 32 you, The 64 you

growing up is never been easy, am sure there a lot of memories you have while you were a kid some you proud of and some you don’t.

That version of tinny you just peeing in bed Everytime that you sleep, the angry you and the parenting lies. (if you sleep in the afternoon you’ll watch tv tomorrow afternoon, not knowing that tomorrow the same scenario continues)

Same applies to school stuff while we were growing up. Don’t end up class seven there are a lot of stuffs you need to know inorder to stand very well financially. so you’ll add up the ordinary level education as form one to form four. when you are done with it you’ll hear them saying add another and so for it goes up to when you get a degree and then you land a job.

landing a job is just as computers executing applications. so there are many operating system (os) but the common one is the windows which has gain it’s market since the early 90s now the version has two architecture that is the 32-bits and 64-bits

in observation apps with 32bits can run in 64bit but vice versa ain’t possible. it’s is the same as a flat screwdriver can open a star screw but star screwdriver can’t open up a flat type screw.

sometimes upgrading what skill you have will play a greater advantage to you, because you’ll be marketable in terms of you can decide for both opportunities that comes that are your level or way below your level.

having the abilities that exceeds the required option gives you room to attain posts that are a lower level than you and the level that you on…

so upgrade and keep on upgrading yourself so as to give your self a firm standing point..

Bless up
Emitty

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