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Why Do you do it ?

Based on all things people that people know or think they know what we do. The question will be why do you do it ??? Why do you do what you do ?

See the first answer from alot of people they will aim to go for love, I love what I do that’s why I do it.  This is an answer but it’s not very heavy to the intensity of the question asked.. 

Love is a feeling , feelings are best felt and not explained. So you can’t do something just because you feel it, there is more to that than  just love. By the way we accredit stupid things out of love, when someone does something stupid the common answer is  s/he did out of love ..

So in search of answers let’s ask ourselves this can we do something that we have never seen it before, larger portion is a no,  where we are, the environment will dictate what we do, because the environment plays a bigger portion into forcing us to do what we do.

In my neighbourhood I Live next to a couple actually were once a couple and were blessed a kid named X. They were happy at first and they were always in touch with us, a matter of fact we before moving to the place, the offered a portion of land inorder for as to make room for the construction materials

Also they were so generous a matter of facts some materials we used were stored at their spot. Time went on and we had this environment that we spend time with X play and fool around all these because the environment was fine

But then came dark times ( of course every good story must have a twist.) The father of X became a drunkard. I don’t know if its the movie drunkard master that gave him vibe but I guess the environment that he positioned himself to got him an alcohol addict..

After the house was done, wanted to know where the couple were, to find that the father sent away his wife and the kid had to dropout of school so he could take care of his siblings.

The point is that his environment changed and what he does is because of his environment..

Question: Why do you do ?
Me: Do what ??
Them: community stuff and all that?.
Me: No apparent reason…

But to be honest, I do that because I’m scared, scared of the fact that no one else can understand what I feel and see,  this is because of feelings are felt differently and nobody knows what I feel even if I tell them what I feel .

I’m scared that if I don’t fix the environment then my kids or their kids will live in a portion that I failed to create, a portion  I failed to correct, I do that because I’m scared of what I see the role that a changed environment has to the development of anything, to a change that has to be seen.

So I do what I do not out of love but to protect what I love and will come to love for them to find a smooth environment that won’t help them have to change inorder to survive…

Bless up
Emitty

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life season

Grieve

(To all soldiers rested after fighting a great war called life, we pray in one form and firm belief that you rest peacefully and the ways that you have shown us through the way you have lived, we shall live in accordance and just as the way you’ve shown it to us..)

Is it safe to say we differ interms of how we handle things? Whether it’s a good thing or bad thing we must differ.

Why? Simply is because feelings are felt and its just a state that we clearly have to differ in how we react.

A person being sad, or crying or even laughing in a grieving season that doesn’t mean the one who is laughing is not grieving. Or the one crying is the one with the most loss. Or the one sad is the neutrality.

As a fact, before any person can show emotion its by default interpreted by the brain and then  the outward expression is given. So sad news can come and a positive energy.

A person laughing its doesn’t mean s/he doesn’t feel the grieve but maybe the interpretation has brought some good memories worthy to be remembered and s/he smiles because it means they once enjoyed the moment.

A person can also cry because the interpretation has come with the memory is hard to replace the void created or the source of happiness is gone and it will take time to heal.

Same as all other things in life, we have to agree that we differ in interpretation, and hence we should stop comparison against each other, and just be ourselves .

In remembrance
Paschal Otto Bundala & other rested soldiers
(1974 – 2022)

Signed Emitty.

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

Bless Up
Emitty

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Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health

The 32 you, The 64 you

growing up is never been easy, am sure there a lot of memories you have while you were a kid some you proud of and some you don’t.

That version of tinny you just peeing in bed Everytime that you sleep, the angry you and the parenting lies. (if you sleep in the afternoon you’ll watch tv tomorrow afternoon, not knowing that tomorrow the same scenario continues)

Same applies to school stuff while we were growing up. Don’t end up class seven there are a lot of stuffs you need to know inorder to stand very well financially. so you’ll add up the ordinary level education as form one to form four. when you are done with it you’ll hear them saying add another and so for it goes up to when you get a degree and then you land a job.

landing a job is just as computers executing applications. so there are many operating system (os) but the common one is the windows which has gain it’s market since the early 90s now the version has two architecture that is the 32-bits and 64-bits

in observation apps with 32bits can run in 64bit but vice versa ain’t possible. it’s is the same as a flat screwdriver can open a star screw but star screwdriver can’t open up a flat type screw.

sometimes upgrading what skill you have will play a greater advantage to you, because you’ll be marketable in terms of you can decide for both opportunities that comes that are your level or way below your level.

having the abilities that exceeds the required option gives you room to attain posts that are a lower level than you and the level that you on…

so upgrade and keep on upgrading yourself so as to give your self a firm standing point..

Bless up
Emitty

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We Are Trees II

I know you don’t care but yes i was on a bus while writing this piece and what i recall was my biology class while I was thinking of what the education that I have and how i apply it to the real world.

I recall my biology teacher came in class and started to teach about transpiration and plants ways to do regulation and the terms i remember are like osmoregulation

Now there are four seasons which are summer, winter , autumn and spring. i don’t know much about the weather and that will be geography now.

but this seasons have a specific time or period to take into effect. And during dry season the trees shades it leaves to allow it’s existence to continue.

it’s the only way that it can ensure it total survival. plant losses water through small holes by means of transpiration. blah blah science . All these learnt at school..

in times like dry season the tree shades it’s leaves complete and after while starts afresh.

All these got me thinking of our lives some times we are trees and sometimes we fail to be like trees. we hold on to people draining and undermining our ability, we hold on to toxic people. we hold on to them in the name of not destroying a friendship built for long time.

we hold on to them afraid of starting a fresh with new people. what we hold will surely be the death of us. we should understand that there people in seasons and most of the people we have are just leaves on a big tree.

For our survival we need to let some people that are merely just leaves on a tree to fall off…

what kind of people am i trying to say to you to let them off. Friends that can’t place your name in a room full of opportunity, friends that leave in moment of need, friends who hold you back from success, friend who discourages you not to reach your full potential.

summing it up trees are not told that it’s time to shade off or its time to grow again. they understand their environment and so do we, we are supposed to understand our environment we should know when to grow new friends and when to shade some old friends..

Bless Up
Emitty

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We as Trees..

Ever wanted to be born in a different family, region or country than the one you are in right now? Have you ever wished you could apply for a change pf parents?

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Some of us love our environment and we would do campaigns to influence people to plant trees and preserve the natural vegetation.

If you are one of them well and good, i personally appreciate your efforts but today am raising a topic from that side of view.

In order for a tree to survive or to grow it needs water or moisture, soil and also sunshine helps with the photosynthesis which is the process of making its own food. I’ll not go in deep into the biology but this is the basic concept.

Now also we need all the similar facts for growth we need water in terms of knowledge, this will allow us to not only develop but to get off the seed of ignorance. when we are watered as in terms of acquiring knowledge we will grow.

Soil is the environment that we are the parents, friends and relatives they play the role of soil as in trees.

Sunshine in this perspective let me give the opportunities around us, sunshine help the tree grow also opportunity help to move from one point to another, level to level and so forth. grab all opportunity that arise daily. Because if a tree fails to get sunshine it remains the same level.

After a tree is full grown its either used for shade and also fruits and oxygen provision also accumulation of carbon dioxide in the daylight and oxygen at night.

After we grow its not only useful for us but also we are useful to the surrounding too. we can be a source of replica of ourselves where we train others to be as us.

But let also know that when we are too much good for the environment the surrounding will try to cut us down and make us into other products

Well the above are facts that are well known and now some facts that are known but not taken into consideration seriously.

The tree or the seed that brings the tree doesn’t choose were it should grow, it accepts the ground and try to fight so it can grow.

The good book once said of a man who wanted to plant seed on the farm and some seeds failed to get into the good soil while some seeds made it to the good soil some were eaten by birds, some went into thorns.

The concept here is the seed has to realize that its of great potential even if is at the stage of seed or a tree and if it realizes that its the first stage to fight more to grow more

Same as us we can’t choose were to be born. that is why earlier the question was did you ever wanted to change where you were born, the family you are into ?

A tree has to deal with the condition that has been planted on. It cant complain that ooh i have been planted in no good condition, i can’t grow better. but it still grow

It does not need you to complain but it only require you to shift your mind into what you are surrounded with and then just work with…

Bless Up

Emitty
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Its Not Permanent

Ever plan to do something and when in the process of doing it nothing is moving, have you ever had that one perfect plan laid out for you in your head and in turn to perfect it still doesn’t go through ?

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I know you have taken series of exams, test, assignment and more papers that were all done in a certain hall.

Few days back I went to my status and posted “what is the name you give to the place you did the exams?
The answers were restless and they were super amazing but also I learnt something…

What I wanna share to you is that in life everything is like an exam you are given a set of exams and boom your in a cage that is given to you a worker is given that work as an exam and the workplace is the hall that is given.  a driver is given an exams to drive without accident and reach the destination and the car is the hall where exams are done.

Now i know you have got this pictured but add this to your imagination its not the hall but its the exams that you have done. We have to learn that not all exams are the same but know that you can be in the same hall with your neighbor. And still the neighbor could be of no help, so in life you have to see that when you are in a situation you have to own it, it’s yours and there is no a Better way to fight it if you don’t take the initiative to fight it. Never complain when you don’t get help because each person has his ot her own exams to answer, challenge to react too.

The challenges you face in the exams  are the same as the ones that you fae in reality, the exams were designed to offer you a glimpse of what to expect in the real world. The fact you can panic and also fail to do anything in  the exam room is the same as what you can do in real life, when trouble hits and hits you bad its not time to panic nor stuck as a paralysed person you should collect your self, settle down and gather strength because its all that you gat the exams (challenges ).

With time involved everything else is temporary

David Benedict Zumbo

In life every situation you see is not permanent so lets not waste time thinking of a temporary situation but be of attention to it and learn what lesson it holds …

Bless up

Emitty…

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Opposite Sides…

Every one has a path to go through alone…

Have you ever gone to a place where you know the location partially and all the odd of getting lost are 1 to nil of getting there.

You hook yourself up with Google map and still you fail to get the right location. Ask for directions and many ways to get there and yet fail.

In this state is where you can try going any way that your guts tells you to go. Go left you go left, Go right you go left without hesitation or with lesser hesitation and if you get lost you go back to the junction you made the wrong turn and go opposite…

Now that’s a very vivid illustration that brings us to the following questions…

We make friends and the friends made are very great of an influence to our decision.

I know you know where am going with this. why don’t we follow our guts and just go the opposite way even if it doesn’t add up. why should follow somebody else’s direction ?

How many times have you got lost in your way, its much better to get lost in your way rather than getting lost in someone else way..

Our guts never gets us lost. follow your path.. Everyone has that one path you should go through alone.
Never allow anyone to chose your path…

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