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Build or Break

build (/bɪld/)
construct (something) by putting parts or material together.

Similar: construct, erect, put up, assemble, set up, raise, make, fabricate, form, manufacture, create, fashion, model, mould, shape, forge, knock together

Opposite: demolish, destroy,

make stronger or more intense.
“we built up confidence in our abilities”

Similar: boost, strengthen, increase, improve, invigorate, augment, raise, intensify, enhance, escalate, multiply, swell, beef up

the proportions of a person’s or animal’s body.
“she was of medium height and slim build”

Similar: physique, frame, body, figure,form, structure, shape, make-up, formation

All the above is inspired by a line of statement on a very good lovely friend I have, build or break that she wrote on her timeline.

In life we get alot of things that troubles us, I can share what I go through or even If we had a dialogue of what you going through honestly without any secrecy,I know I’ll hear alot from you.

Let’s not talk about that but what you go through can either BUILD or BREAK.

In college, there is an allowance offered by the government to students and most of the students are given the same amount of money for the whole semester. The money comes into two portion.

Most of us we are facing the financial balance difficulties but what makes us going is the fact that there is next time in two months and you’ll get money.

The situation of waiting builds  most of us into a stage of planning and placing of budget so that when the money comes it will be effectively. That’s to most of us

But in life everything may be off balance and everything hitting you may seem new to you and you thinking that everything is after you to break you..

Financial problems, health issues, social troubles,spiritual difficulties and many more these are many in the list of things that can really question  your mentality and make you feel broken. 

They say anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s what we should take out of any situation, we are here not for a smooth life, but to be tested and to know our limits.

Inorder to live and reach the point to know our capabilities we have to undergo the processes that will break us into ways we can’t even understand, but it’s in these situations we learn to build ourselves up better and stronger.

The good book says, no challenge comes to you too heavy for you to handle,  and through every challenge there is an exit. We need to build ourselves through challenges.

For the challenges are there to stay, they can’t go away all by them selves but through solving them. Just like building a LEGO one block at a time, so is the same as tackling challenges one problem at a time..

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Emitty…

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Pushin’ it

Don’t recall what game was it called but it involved a moving cart on unorganised railway where the goal of the player is to reach far but making sure there are no gaps in which it may lead the cart to fall due to unconnected rails.

Accuracy is at question in the game and also the quickness recover from mistake before the cart reaches the unconnected rail and falls off.

Ofcourse in the end of the game there rewards, and from this because its a mini game the rewards helps out with the main game. (Shout out goes to the TOWNSHIP games creators available on playstore)

Now see in life its all about extra forces, I know many ain’t believers but I know some forces are beyond our abilities to comprehend. We may be pushing on our side but deeply outside some process outside are the ones pushing. We may have all the necessary motives to push infront but our timing maybe not perfect and we may fail.

See when we started RTF back then, it was just after we were done with our first semester in university,  the founders were the same friend we had back since form one in our ordinary level education but we didn’t start it until we were done with our o level and A-level education.

It’s possible that we could have started it earlier but the timing would never favour us to spread out to the inches that we have covered till now.

Many of us think that things just happen, but in reality everything and each step taken gives us a more significant effect on the long run, this is because of some forces are set when we push right.

So in time of planning, never worry to start again just because of  a simple failure sometimes the bigger picture needs you to push the idea at the right time.

I’m no guru to know how to do the perfect timing but you should believe in timing. Time will always tell, with time all things fall in place.

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Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
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Emitty

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Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


Part 1
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Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

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Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

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Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
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Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

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Emitty

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Work out your Faith

Everyone under the sun has something that he or she believes in. Some societies believe in this and the other society believe in that, same applied to religion. Every religion has something that they believe in.

Whatever you believe in that’s Faith.

So I can simply define faith as the assurance of things to come and beyond the unseen. Why faith, why should you work out your faith? Most of us today run to be prayed for,run for prophecies that we believe and faith have in them that they will help us out and get us to somewhere better. But we forget that the faith we have is built in people, things,prophecies, prayers and so on and so forth, this makes the faith you have in you go low, forgetting that you can work out your own faith and things can get to work as they work with that faith you’ve kept over things or people. The good book says if you can only have faith as little as the mustard seed you can tell this mountain move and it moves. By saying this let me get to ask you a question how will you work out the little faith you have if you still put faith on other people to pray for you or on things or prophecies, why don’t you for once stand and say to yourself that from now on I got the authority of anything that’s around and we’ll yes of course you got the authority, you are given the authority. Instead of going to yo pastor or sheikh or whoever and ask him or her to pray for you maybe because you are sick, taking that as an example,you can just take a step and pray for yourself and have faith that it is done and you are healed. Well I don’t say that you really need not to go ask for help in prayer, you need that, I too need that, but whenever you find it not necessary for you to go and ask help from somebody to be prayed for just work your faith and see it happen. I assure you as you keep doing that from time to time and see things happen your faith will grow and grow and grow.

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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

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Emitty …

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