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A Lil Island

Off the coast of Nova Scotia, Canada, lies a small island known as Oak Island. This unassuming piece of land has been the center of one of the most enduring mysteries in maritime history – the legend of the Money Pit.

According to the tale, in the late 18th century, three young boys discovered a peculiar depression on the island’s surface. Intrigued, they began to dig, and as they delved deeper, they encountered layers of logs and stone markers, leading them to believe that they were on the trail of a buried treasure.

Over the centuries, numerous treasure hunters, including famed explorers and engineers, have attempted to unearth the supposed riches, only to be met with a series of ingenious traps and elaborate flood tunnels. Despite the relentless efforts and significant excavations, the treasure, if it indeed exists, remains tantalizingly out of reach.

The mystery of Oak Island’s Money Pit has sparked the imagination of explorers and enthusiasts for generations, with theories ranging from hidden pirate loot to ancient manuscripts or even connections to the Holy Grail. To this day, the island continues to lure adventurous souls in pursuit of the elusive fortune, making it a captivating and enigmatic chapter in the annals of island lore.

Back to the real concept now, In  life we create a little island, were we isolate ourselves with what goes around us , we just want the noise to be finally over for a short period of time. Not fully shut but just for until we manage to work our way around things.

We set boundaries, standards and guidelines to point out the dos and donts just in order to buy ourselves time to get our shit straight.

See the boundaries and the artifical island ain’t perfect and to some they may feel like we are selfish and we are anti social never knowing what’s really going on..

To some they are well aware of what’s going on and why there is an island but they are the ones who want to take a boat and come this side, sometimes it’s a good trip but some times it’s for a bad cause to just Lower the gap between the waters and the land.

The problem that arise in our lives create isolation and the isolation is the island, we have different ways of accepting the problem at hand. We accept and draw a way to proceed with tackling the problem.

But to others our ways of solving them may be Alittle kinda different from how they will normally tackle it, and this gap between our way of doing versus the way they will do its what causes conflicts and causing us to dry our islands dry. The words spoken cause us to lower our beliefs on solving our problems in our own ways.

Don’t get it twisted, but there’s power in collaborative problem solving and also there is power in adaptive and solo problem solving, see sometimes problems come our way not to be collaboratively solved.

There is a verse from the Good book that says, when temptations come our way, are within our abilities to be solved by us, this statement alone may help when we’re facing problems only when we believe in it .

With problems comes solutions, with solutions comes experiences and with experience comes sucess, let not your way of dealing with problems be messed up just by the words, action or somebody else’s way of solving problems.

Bless up
Emitty …

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Build or Break

build (/bɪld/)
construct (something) by putting parts or material together.

Similar: construct, erect, put up, assemble, set up, raise, make, fabricate, form, manufacture, create, fashion, model, mould, shape, forge, knock together

Opposite: demolish, destroy,

make stronger or more intense.
“we built up confidence in our abilities”

Similar: boost, strengthen, increase, improve, invigorate, augment, raise, intensify, enhance, escalate, multiply, swell, beef up

the proportions of a person’s or animal’s body.
“she was of medium height and slim build”

Similar: physique, frame, body, figure,form, structure, shape, make-up, formation

All the above is inspired by a line of statement on a very good lovely friend I have, build or break that she wrote on her timeline.

In life we get alot of things that troubles us, I can share what I go through or even If we had a dialogue of what you going through honestly without any secrecy,I know I’ll hear alot from you.

Let’s not talk about that but what you go through can either BUILD or BREAK.

In college, there is an allowance offered by the government to students and most of the students are given the same amount of money for the whole semester. The money comes into two portion.

Most of us we are facing the financial balance difficulties but what makes us going is the fact that there is next time in two months and you’ll get money.

The situation of waiting builds  most of us into a stage of planning and placing of budget so that when the money comes it will be effectively. That’s to most of us

But in life everything may be off balance and everything hitting you may seem new to you and you thinking that everything is after you to break you..

Financial problems, health issues, social troubles,spiritual difficulties and many more these are many in the list of things that can really question  your mentality and make you feel broken. 

They say anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s what we should take out of any situation, we are here not for a smooth life, but to be tested and to know our limits.

Inorder to live and reach the point to know our capabilities we have to undergo the processes that will break us into ways we can’t even understand, but it’s in these situations we learn to build ourselves up better and stronger.

The good book says, no challenge comes to you too heavy for you to handle,  and through every challenge there is an exit. We need to build ourselves through challenges.

For the challenges are there to stay, they can’t go away all by them selves but through solving them. Just like building a LEGO one block at a time, so is the same as tackling challenges one problem at a time..

Bless up
Emitty…

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Why Do you do it ?

Based on all things people that people know or think they know what we do. The question will be why do you do it ??? Why do you do what you do ?

See the first answer from alot of people they will aim to go for love, I love what I do that’s why I do it.  This is an answer but it’s not very heavy to the intensity of the question asked.. 

Love is a feeling , feelings are best felt and not explained. So you can’t do something just because you feel it, there is more to that than  just love. By the way we accredit stupid things out of love, when someone does something stupid the common answer is  s/he did out of love ..

So in search of answers let’s ask ourselves this can we do something that we have never seen it before, larger portion is a no,  where we are, the environment will dictate what we do, because the environment plays a bigger portion into forcing us to do what we do.

In my neighbourhood I Live next to a couple actually were once a couple and were blessed a kid named X. They were happy at first and they were always in touch with us, a matter of fact we before moving to the place, the offered a portion of land inorder for as to make room for the construction materials

Also they were so generous a matter of facts some materials we used were stored at their spot. Time went on and we had this environment that we spend time with X play and fool around all these because the environment was fine

But then came dark times ( of course every good story must have a twist.) The father of X became a drunkard. I don’t know if its the movie drunkard master that gave him vibe but I guess the environment that he positioned himself to got him an alcohol addict..

After the house was done, wanted to know where the couple were, to find that the father sent away his wife and the kid had to dropout of school so he could take care of his siblings.

The point is that his environment changed and what he does is because of his environment..

Question: Why do you do ?
Me: Do what ??
Them: community stuff and all that?.
Me: No apparent reason…

But to be honest, I do that because I’m scared, scared of the fact that no one else can understand what I feel and see,  this is because of feelings are felt differently and nobody knows what I feel even if I tell them what I feel .

I’m scared that if I don’t fix the environment then my kids or their kids will live in a portion that I failed to create, a portion  I failed to correct, I do that because I’m scared of what I see the role that a changed environment has to the development of anything, to a change that has to be seen.

So I do what I do not out of love but to protect what I love and will come to love for them to find a smooth environment that won’t help them have to change inorder to survive…

Bless up
Emitty

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Our Escape

Well the dictionary define escape as a narrow run or temporary displacement or distraction from a routine or reality.

The definition had something that caught my eye, the words such as temporary, distraction and reality.

We tend to search for escapes because of our temporary situation in life, and life can be a constituent of many things from social interaction to the mind of one self. Our economy, social life, spirituality, mentality, health and even a balance of all these can be what we call life..

Escape is temporary just as noted from the definition before, reason to create escape can vary but alot of people are in search of escape to get a way to numb pain, and the pain is mostly caused by over expectations.

See in life we tend to expect alot from people or even actions that we do. We expect fast money so we engage in illegal businesses to make quick money and we end up disappointed for a reason or two. We are always constantly putting overwhelming hopes forward and casting out reality in the name of faith.

Don’t quote me wrong, faith is a good thing but don’t disguise instant gratification or any thing related to fastering the process as faith, TRUST THE PROCESS they say but people don’t do that, the say maybe the process should start trusting their ways.

A failure to quit running towards escape will lead to addiction, and we all know what addictions do to a person. And there is no such thing as a good or bad addictions.

Addictions are addictions and people tend to color coat it because they are temporary pleasures that leads to an escape of reality..

Once posted it on our team timeline ” what’s your escape ?” And the response were alot, but people are troubled with alot that we have to agree to, but some problem they are not really a running problem, some problem are to be faced, but it’s easy to think on running more than thinking of facing it..

On a advisory scale, problems will constantly seem to add up and piling up problems will not be the solution. We have to fight our problems, the escape to our problems  doesn’t solve the problems they just forward them. So we are not running away from them we are just forwarding them…

Bless Up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate (Parte IV)

With reference to simba vs yanga and also with reference to the article we wrote about reference. I would love to start of sending my greetings to all yanga fans for the win against the derby .

The Match has shown so much that I can use for the part IV the comparison. See there were some expectations that the team itself am talking about simba set or already had against yanga and yanga too. The people that are the fans had already set there expectations.

Am not a football fan to say much but I want you to move with something from the match, before the match there is always a H2H count. That is a head to head count against the two teams, and this is a comparison for what the teams have been lately prior to the match .

Comparison that’s what its today, we’ll talk about comparison and last article we saw there are three types of comparisons and I would love to state one by one today …

The comparison based on the walkthrough title graduate depression…

Comparison set by the society against you. We all have guardians or family members that always think that they know all about school and all about you, and also even our parents have always been there in the loop of knowing everything about school simply because they work hard to get us the fees. They hope that we are always aware of what they go through and the only way to repay them is by us having a good life .

See they set an expectation between what they know and what we are, it’s super hard breaking this and if we are to give much thinking to this it’s a problem, we all fight against secret battles.

There is this feeling that when you are some how young and your parents have a point to compare you with it maybe a sibling or a relative that’s either the same point of academics as you or ahead of you a little, there is that atmosphere of where you are always behind in terms of performance and they have set that you have to be either like them or better than them, that situation eats up alot of as in terms of academics

The way through it is that life is yours its either you create your standards or someone else creates them for you. It’s simple as that.

Comparison of you against somebody else, after seeing the set by our guardians to us then there is what we so call standards when we set standard we can place a person as a role model but that role model may be a potential help but also a problem because if the difference between them and you if positively then you advance but if not then you are in problem of comparing you against them..

If you’re pursuing academic or doing anything never set your goals to outrun or beat something against somebody else. Swahili saying ” mhuni afeli anachelewa tu kufaulu ” we are always just late to succeed but we never fail. That’s us life to us. After you’re done it may take time to win but never ever compare yourself from somebody else.

You may be running the same race but that’s not the guarantee you have to move with them every move.

We can’t move if we move by beef or comparison that’s the easiest life principle but we fail to understand that. Always be you never compare yourself to others…

Comparison of beliefs, this is my personal favourite you can outrun the comparison your guardians have placed against you, you can outrun your standards you place your self against people but its very hard to outrun your beliefs

The funny thing about beliefs is that you think them throughly then it becomes your routine through the manifestation of it in the outside. Now that’s not a bad thing.

It will be a bad thing when your standards are tested to a limit they need to be broken, when you set something inside your mind gives you a certain vibe but when you’re in a conflict of interest to fight it or to let it go, that eats you up. So always be careful of what standards you put for yourself..

Coming parte V: tolerance, how to fight against your own standards and how to balance as world claws it off on you?

Bless up
Emitty

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Chillax, Graduate (partè III)

For the past days, we have been going through from my point of view what is the graduate depression, so far we covered two parts but today is what I call a masterpiece dive of what eats us more and more

The points are easy to spot but hard to accept, for some of us it’s easy to spot them while others are doing so but on our own life its very hard to accept that we have or we lack some qualities. Or accepting that the following are eating us up.

@Jay shetty and many more speakers have been speaking on timing and even the holy books are saying something about it always. We may live in the same planet we call earth that doesn’t mean we have to be confined in how other people live it, but to some of us(graduates and non-graduates) we always want to or tempted to be jealous of how others live their lives.

We start with a piece of story that will aim to conclude on my point of Comparison, a car driver wishes he could fly just because of the road traffic and the standard of life he want to achieve meanwhile a motorcycle driver envies the car driver just because of the comfortability of the car to the driver and the motorbike driver is sick of the hardship he always go through chest pains just because of him always opposing the weather, air or rain. But also a normal bicycle person wants a motorbike and normal person walking along the road want to have just a bicycle. And a cripple man wish he could just even walk..

See in life we always have wishes, some being in the reach of our efforts, some not. But there is a swahili saying “Mungu hakupi vyote, wala hakunyimi vyote”

see you may have something and the something is what you suppose to be grateful for. In correlation to the title non graduates envy the graduates while the graduates envy those in work places and those working always want something that will let them stand on the own with the slogan being your own boss…

See we always are unsatisfied with the life we have, you may find someone with everything but still unhappy because s/he feels something is missing and so do everyone. We feel like we need something someone who is in front has. But we never understand that we all have our fixed destinies greater than what we are hoping for..

According to me there are types of comparison If not two there three of them.

1. Comparison set by the society against you.
2. Comparison of you against somebody else
3. Comparison of beliefs…

So let’s meet for part four to go with the types of comparison from the point of view of graduates

Bless up
Emitty.

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Chill,Graduate. (Parte I)

The problem starts with the point of views, as you grow up the point of views change.

Have you asked yourself why as you grow and your grades become simpler but hard to get, well ask a kid what’s his or her grade in grade I or II, you’ll find out that it ranges over 90-100. That’s very normal.

As time goes on the idea of grades start to fall and this is okay to us, but hard to our parents and guardians.

They get unpleased with our fall in grades, to such a point that we force ourselves to fit in their dreams.

Case I: Scenarios to many people that are on my circle start when they are passionate with something else and forced to study with something else, the bad thing is that you grow accepting what you are doing without loving it, just to satisfy your guardians. In the long run when it comes to stand on your own you’re clouded with the feeling that it wasn’t your decision so you dont have to struggle hard to get a job, just to show them the I TOLD YOU SO FACE…

Case II: too much expectation Previous love with a certain hobby but as time goes on your hobbies are gone, you develop new interest but you find yourself in confusion simply because your hobbies made you make a choice that by the time you realise it can’t be change you’re already late. And thus when you’re done studying for you have nothing but hate and useless certification.

Case III: Our guardians definition of how life is in the university against our real life that we live. The point of views change, education system change and the education system is a fixed deduction system, what I mean is that its created to force people out, I did a piece about our education system

But also today I was reading a system whereby the life at school and university doesn’t match the real life situations and hence it’s hard for us graduates and students to adopt a new lifestyle over 21 years or 18years developed habits created by studying ..

The 18-21 years are the years that we spend in school. And the years are covered by hectic assignments, teachers and students beefs, unsupportive circle and fear of real world ..


Part 1
Bless up
Emitty

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Loaded Gun

With what is going on around the world after being hit with the covid-19 and people wearing masks, I thought to my self it’s a great lessons that we are to learn, we limit our words and we wash off any associations we have carry as to just watch and listen which are great methods to learn.

Met with the questions 2 ears, 2 eyes but why 1 mouth.. ?

Pro 18:21 BBE Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.

A mans thought is build from what s/he heard but that doesn’t bring bigger changes like what you say,they say words are priceless but words out of a person’s can cost him.

So it’s clearly that what we say unto others and ourselves are always responsible for everything else

Mind clearly works by what is said, if you accept yourself as a failure then what the mind does its just a matter of bringing the correct amount of identifiers or symptoms that will bring the correct failure results.

There is a swahili swahili people saying “ukiwaza tu unakuwa” well the funny thing while growing was that we usually had to drink water that was not boiled because most of the times the boil water was always hot and the best option was water from the tap .

But having caring parent we usually were canned, when caught at the act of drink water from the tap.

We were always told that we will get diseases and they wont incur any cost to take us to an hospital or getting medicines. That didn’t affect us just because we always said that say “ukiwaza tu inakuwa”

Quoting my favourite artist NF “The point I’m makin’ is the mind is a powerful place
And what you feed it can affect you in a powerful way
It’s pretty cool, right? Yeah, but it’s not always safe
Just hang with me, this’ll only take a moment, okay?
Just think about it for a second, if you look at your face
Every day when you get up and think you’ll never be great
You’ll never be great, not because you’re not, but the hate
Will always find a way to cut you up and murder your faith (woo!) – THE SEARCH “

What am trying to say is that what really matters is how we control the words that come out of mouth, it’s easy to say a word but hard to return once said. It’s like living with loaded gun that the safety is off. Once its shot the bullet can’t be returned..

So whatever you are going through the trigger was once your words be careful. Though I dont have any proof of the connections between our mind, words that we say and reality, but i have lived to see what I say by mouth come to reality..

Bless up

Emitty

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