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Life = love + life

The Life, Love, and Leveling Up of an individuals
For most of us, it’s no secret that love conquers all. It makes life worth living—and it even lights up those dark corners of our hearts. But for those who are experiencing a difficult time in their relationship, the difficulties might be just what the doctor ordered — and not the end of the world. The truth is, most relationships don’t pan out as planned. And for those who do have a successful outcome, it’s often because they weren’t meant to be. In this article, we explore the six pillars of love: what they are and how to cultivate them in your life.

What is love?
Simply put, love is a feeling. It’s not a word, a concept, or even a thought. It’s an action. And the action is to connect with the one you love, no matter who that person is — whether that person is your spouse, your best friend, or your colleague. It’s to make space for them in your heart, mind, and calendar.

How to have love
To have love, you must have love. That’s it. That’s the entire situation. You don’t have to do anything else. It doesn’t matter if you spend your free time alone or with a partner — the very fact that you’re connected to another person makes you feel love.

Why do people have love?
There are two main factors that lead to the development of love. The first is mutual respect for one another. This is the foundation of any relationship. If someone doesn’t respect you — or, at the very least, doesn’t seem to appreciate what you have — then there’s no chance in hell of having love.

How to cultivate it in your life
There are a few ways to get your heart rate pumping and your mind thinking like an individual. It starts by choosing to love yourself first. Once you’ve validated that you are healthy and happy — then, it’s on to the question of how to love your partner. Here are a few ways to start: Express your love for yourself. Create a photo album with your love for yourself. Share it with anyone who’ll listen. Get involved in extracurricular activities or charitable causes that support your interests. Whatever it takes, make yourself happy. Improve your relationship with your partner. Spend more time together; read, write, and interact with each other; be more sensitive to one another’s needs; and show up more as a team.

Bottom line
Now that you’ve explored the six pillars of love, what are you waiting for? Start being you! When someone doesn’t love you back, it automatically suggests that they don’t want to be with you. That means it — and the challenges that come with it — are real. You’re not alone. The people in your life who struggle are the ones who need to connect with themselves and validate that they love themselves. Keep in mind that it’s okay to be imperfect — because being imperfect is who you are. And while you may feel bad for the way that you feel sometimes, it doesn’t mean that you have to put up with unfair or negative treatment from other people. In fact, that kind of behavior towards others can lead to feelings of inadequacy and self-blame. So, instead of feeling shame or shamefacedness, just realize that you’re just naturally attracted to those who you think have what you want in life — and who you think you can please. The more you connect with yourself and validate that you love yourself, the easier it will be for you to connect with your partner. Eventually, something will grow between you two and you’ll know you’re meant to be together.

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Build or Break

build (/bɪld/)
construct (something) by putting parts or material together.

Similar: construct, erect, put up, assemble, set up, raise, make, fabricate, form, manufacture, create, fashion, model, mould, shape, forge, knock together

Opposite: demolish, destroy,

make stronger or more intense.
“we built up confidence in our abilities”

Similar: boost, strengthen, increase, improve, invigorate, augment, raise, intensify, enhance, escalate, multiply, swell, beef up

the proportions of a person’s or animal’s body.
“she was of medium height and slim build”

Similar: physique, frame, body, figure,form, structure, shape, make-up, formation

All the above is inspired by a line of statement on a very good lovely friend I have, build or break that she wrote on her timeline.

In life we get alot of things that troubles us, I can share what I go through or even If we had a dialogue of what you going through honestly without any secrecy,I know I’ll hear alot from you.

Let’s not talk about that but what you go through can either BUILD or BREAK.

In college, there is an allowance offered by the government to students and most of the students are given the same amount of money for the whole semester. The money comes into two portion.

Most of us we are facing the financial balance difficulties but what makes us going is the fact that there is next time in two months and you’ll get money.

The situation of waiting builds  most of us into a stage of planning and placing of budget so that when the money comes it will be effectively. That’s to most of us

But in life everything may be off balance and everything hitting you may seem new to you and you thinking that everything is after you to break you..

Financial problems, health issues, social troubles,spiritual difficulties and many more these are many in the list of things that can really question  your mentality and make you feel broken. 

They say anything that doesn’t kill you makes you stronger, that’s what we should take out of any situation, we are here not for a smooth life, but to be tested and to know our limits.

Inorder to live and reach the point to know our capabilities we have to undergo the processes that will break us into ways we can’t even understand, but it’s in these situations we learn to build ourselves up better and stronger.

The good book says, no challenge comes to you too heavy for you to handle,  and through every challenge there is an exit. We need to build ourselves through challenges.

For the challenges are there to stay, they can’t go away all by them selves but through solving them. Just like building a LEGO one block at a time, so is the same as tackling challenges one problem at a time..

Bless up
Emitty…

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Who Are You ?

Somebody came up to me and said who you’re, the question was very hard to answer but inorder to answer the person, I wanted to see from their point of view, what or how much they think (key point think) they know me.

See the people around you can never understand or know you to the 100 percent level, because from time to time it depends on what they are viewing you from..

I wouldn’t place the answer they gave for my personal sanity because its something  I didn’t except to get from them. Put from there I learnt there are alot of definitions of Who you Are to the people around you.

Never expect to get a clear and uniform answer from the people around you. You’re not a mathematics question thay your answer will always be constant,  you ain’t pie (3.14) that you will always be constantly getting same answer to people, I know its confusing though one of you but the answer are infinite..

On  an intro of one of the songs in my playlist it was actually a spoken word by Dorah, she outline several ways that people can define you. Just simple question WHO ARE YOU? can have a infinite answer mind you from the other people point of view.. 

People define us on how they do Comparison between us and them, success, worth and strength or the way we appear, or the behaviour we show them or our weakness, what we can’t offer to them get us defined or what we work on or the Money and net worth we have. All this causes the infinite ♾ definition on who we are , but they ain’t answers.

Even parents themselves have a predefined definition of who you are , they want to have a perfect picture of you, that sweet lovely young kid they hard before you in your teenage..

The people Point of view doesn’t matter but what matters is what you think you are, an ancient quote said “Be careful for how you say or speak to yourself because the samurai inside will be mannered by it”.

That is to say your mind is a samurai, samurai where an elite soldiers to get the job done by that time,  they can be compared with the navy seals, the point is the mind is a powerful place what you tell it can affect it greatly..

We are not defined by how we look,make, create, or work on, the difference is what defines us . What really define us or answers who you are, lies on YOU. You get to define yourself whether you get a straight strong definition or answer on who you’re or let people answer that and let that sink the samurai inside ..

Bless Up
Emitty

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Who’s fault is it

Its another beautiful morning today. I thank God for giving the grace of attending the first service today. So when was on my way back home I was just walking along the road then over a sudden a guy from behind me just greeted, “Hi”. I had to turn back to know who that person was, it was a guy a know, just a guy around the neighborhood and I hied back to him. As we were walking the guy was smoking and I was like it’s so too early for him to be doing this, this was just in my head. So I had to ask him what’s the benefit of that he replied “it has no benefits honestly and I can’t stop smoking ” I was like “ooh really” then he said ” I got this friends of mine who taught me how to but I now wonder that they ain’t smoking anymore” and I told him so why can’t you stop and be just like them “No I can’t stop I just can’t” , do you know how bad it is for your health especially your lungs “Yes, nicotine I what I get from this and I can’t stop, it’s satan who is making me” and I was like whoa whoa whoa man hold it there satan! Are you for real? so Satan is the one who made you do this. You know you really don’t have to blame Satan in any of this because you are the who made such a decision to get to where you are now and to what you are doing right now

What am I trying to say here is

many of us have been blaming satan for the mistakes we do or for situations we get ourselves in and we be like it’s satan who made me do this on the contrary it’s been our fault all way long we get to decide without thinking of what the outcome would be. So sometimes we just have seat and look back to where we made it go wrong and get to fix it than just saying the statement it’s Satan who made me do this

You have a great day. Bless up

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
Bless up
Emitty

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Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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What You Eat

In a restaurant or grocery there will always be a list of food, we can order all but we don’t. we decide to pick some and eat then leave.

There are a lot ot menus in the world, what I mean is there are a lot of foods to eat and to be cooked and they can all be cooked under different techniques to raise different taste.

we all have different taste on our cuisine. The foods used in one part of the globe can be different from the other part of the globe.

we can eat all that if we decide too, but we sometimes have placed standard on what we eat and what we don’t .

In real life we can say the information around the globe is the food we choose on eating or taste. there are a lot of information going around us. we can’t eat all the information That’s out there what we can do is choose the quantity of what we eat and even decided on what not to eat.

we luck standards of what we digest any information we digest on it without processing the depth of it.

we should accept that not every information out there is for us to take in and process it. not everything we hear are ours to process, many relationship and stable connection are cancelled or die due to what we hear and decide to process. Be careful with the information that goes around you.

We live in a world that we eat what is around us , digest it no matter how  and release it

Bless Up. Emitty

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