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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
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Emitty

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Pa…

Apart from today being Father’s Day, I had in me to write this article after watching “breakthrough” a movie about the powerful prayer of a parent.

Also I write this because of the nickname Baba Mzazi that I recently found myself been given.

Being a father or a Male parent is never easy neither being a mother but a father is a figure that has a different point of being viewed.

This article can’t be expressed only by a single person but since its my version. What scares me most about being a father is ?

I know time will reach and I’ll be a father, having kids is a fantastic dream but is also scary that what if the kids dont turn out the way you want? Our fathers or parents nurtured us to the way that we are right now, I’m who I’m now just because they dared to take care and nurture me through this road.

I was a kid back then and I know without a doubt that I was very stubborn growing up and reaching this level definitely I know I was stubborn. No need to be told I was. But they took care of me .

My greatest fear of becoming a father is will my kid keep my teachings, what I will tell him or her also what will I teach her or him? How can I protect my kids around this world of technology with everything you seek being available at my kid’s hand??

If this is your worries then welcome to the team, fathers to be… I haven’t figured the dad ship yet but what I know is that kids are always gonna learn from what they see their parent figure always do. How do I know that this is from me I’m here because I grabbed what my father was doing so the insecurities that comes from you taking care of the kids that you have or going to have all lies on the way you are around them.

” an apple doesn’t fall far from the apple tree.” You are your kids.

In the above statements I haven’t said that being a father is easy I just said it’s easy for kids learning from what they are exposed too.

Being a father is not a part time job or something that you do when you’re free but it’s always being there for the kid you have. Building up memories with them and in the end believing they are grownup enough to be the better version of you. So never teach a kid to be as you but better than you.

Cheers to dads in heaven
Cheers to dads in earth
Cheers to dads to be..
Happy fathers day

Bless up
Emitty

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Descending triangles

Shapes isn’t really a concept that I can explain so much, but it’s always there and will always be there. Were you see it, it doesn’t matter because its everywhere and I can’t tell you to spot some shapes am not the google not robot verifier.

One thing that had me fascinated was the triangle, I remember one animation they show the power of a triangle has a base and a point direction.

Just from properties if a triangle we can gather alot of lessons from it, be of strong foundation and know where you heading and stuff related to it. But that will be of some other time.

We are in hurt mode, disappointment mode and healing process from alot of things that we have been through, a certain screenshot that was placed in somebody’s status said. “We are coordinated to face alot to learn and have a strong reference point not to give up but to move forward with experience”

Felt the quote but I came and saw that all our lives we have been going process that are similar it’s like we are moving in circles, how you’ll ask? Well its simple let me walk you through this

Once posted that we differ in schooling system but using the Tanzanian grade system, it’s more of 3-7-4-2-3/5 or 3-7-4-3-3/5 format. I know it’s not a football formation it’s more of classes you have to sit to move into next level and we have the primary level, secondary level and tertiary level.

Am not here for flashbacks but am here to tell you that all this long life has taught us about losing, just think of how many people we lost the connection to, from your grade one till now?

It’s a long list of people we lost touch since back then. So life is always telling us life is of a point headed but a bigger start.

Take note that always the beginning will be firm and you can have a clear goal In broad term but as you move on you’ll come to see some vision,people and some clear facts disintegrating to something else. When that happens just know that’s life and the pointy header will always be there

Bless up
Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

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Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
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Emitty

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We have reasons…

A few weeks ago, to be precise 28th and 29th of last month that’s November, me and the team got a nomination to participate in the universities and college awards and I was just the public figure who will present the team to the judge in the category of best volunteers.

the script was simple to get into the stage present a few projects, wait on the judges if they had any inquiries or questions about the team answer them drop down wait for the winner to be announced after every other contestant have to get on the stage.

In the process of waiting my turn, I asked my colleague for a speech that I’ll present that was a day before my presentation and she sent me this wonderful speech. But this was after a few dramatic episodes of asking what language she should write the speech.

Generally, the speech was centred on why do we do volunteering? her response was beautiful.

Saturday, 28 Nov 2020 03:54 PM

As humans, we are species of togetherness. No matter how much busy the world seems today it still needs people who are willing to give what they are blessed with for the joy of others and themselves.

I have chosen to be among the giving generation. Because I choose happiness. Because Volunteering is a two way street beneficiary to both the community and the volunteers themselves.

Because Volunteering gives me a purpose in life. It makes up a part of who I am, boosting up my self esteem and confidence. Bringing me close to the people and expanding my social base.

Volunteering reminds me that no matter how odd things may be; as humans we are species of kindness and we have got two hands one for helping out the others and the second one for steadying ourselves up. (by @skylaurel)

What I want to show here isn’t my chats with my colleague but to tell you that anything you do or you have done has always had a reason and for us to do what we do that is volunteering is not that we have a lot but we know and understand the need to be loved and being acknowledged both our existence and needs.

we start small but in the long run, we want all people that are around us to give their time, love, and some portion of what their blessing to the environment around them. For we are nothing without them and they are a part of what we live for,for there is nothing we can do without them.

for a doctor needs a patient, a husband needs a wife, teachers need students and businesses need clients. Reaching out for them means creating a path for a feedback of blessing. Am not standing here to tell you to help all but help one or two because youre capable of it.

Someone cant help everyone but everyone can help someone. Join us to be the change we want to see in the community.

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Mind Block

The pass few weeks have been in a state called writer’s block.

imagine it has when you drive or ride a car and you come to a dead end, or a point that you can’t go forward as the way you were going or think you would go.

so by definition given by Google, hehehe writers block is a condition, primarily associated with writing
in which an author loses the ability to produce new work or experiences a creative slowdown. This loss of ability to write and produce new work is not a result of commitment problems or the lack of writing skills. The condition ranges from difficulty in coming up with original ideas to being unable to produce a work for years. Writer’s block is not solely measured by time passing without writing. It is measured by time passing without productivity in the task at hand.

I’ve been falling to this situation not once not twice but more times than i remember and the funny part is that this is not a disease but its a mental state, its all in the head.

I’ve been having titles to many articles and even some of them writings half a paragraph then stuck but others only a single word, which it always works when i have noted down a single word ideas falls through and i start writing down but when in WB I mostly find myself staring at my notepad with no words to write down..

what i wanna show you is in the backstage to all our articles they lay alot of unpublished articles.

Some few times i usually pick my kid brother from school and in his school they have this tap where they drink the water, as i was taking him off school to home i felt thirsty and decided to go drink some water in found a very long line so i decided to join it and off it started to move slowly till it was my turn. as i was moving along it opened my eyes as if the people in front of me and behind me they were all unfinished projects.

they’re unfinished projects until the primary goal of drinking water has been completed, the line showed me i was that all projects were leading to the same goal so i should learn to make them move one at a time and also see them through one at a time not to hesitate. and if it reaches to a point that i should pile them up pile em in a manner that you can work them out to the end to the end.

See in life we come into deadblocks because of just piling alot of things in our plates thinking that its easy to just place them some where but in the end we have alot to handle all because of piling them up.

learn to regulate what is on your plate as what comes in your mind and execute on thing to the end never be fast to procrastinate what you have in your mind.

Bless up
Emitty

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Hohohohoo Mask Off…

lets keep the Halloween spirit running , Happy Halloween to y’all.

lets talk history, according to history.com. Halloween is a holiday celebrated each year on October 31, and Halloween 2020 will occur on Saturday, October 31. The tradition originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints. Soon, All Saints Day incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows Eve, and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a day of activities like trick-or-treating, carving jack-o-lanterns, festive gatherings, donning costumes and eating treats.

now let’s talk about masks and costumes, on a day like Halloween we dress up like some famous or some other people that had a positive or negative reputation,

on a robbery, the will put on something else, let us recall on trending series like money heist the robbers wore something to cover their faces and even other robbers wear masks to hide their identities.

for kids party we put on masks, masquerade and other costumes to make the kids happy.

now costumes and mask have played a great role in achieving many things it can be for enjoyment, amusement and even for bad deeds such as robberies and sometimes even mass killings.

some people use mask to create confidence and sometimes hide from the other people to avoid recognition.

come think of it, our lives are sometimes based on masks and costumes. you’ll say yes we put on for a good reason but what am improvising or what am saying it’s not the physical masks we put but its the PRETENCE and FAKING that we do daily inorder for people to see our version that we have decided to show them.

we fake life, pretend on emotions and sometimes imitating others, simply because we think its the right way to fit in. we long for acceptance but in the end we are dying inside for what we think is right turning not to be as what we expect.

we stay on characters while we are with people and we feed them some picture that is not real us.

Enough of the masks and costumes, lets just shade them off, be the real us. you know being you makes you comfortable and confident for anything that you’ll take or do because you are the always you. you’re familiar with you and you don’t need someone to tell you how to behave. Grow up your you is the only you needed for the world to see..

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Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

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