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Daily Chores

powered by a long boring travel back home.

Daily chores, there are a lot of chores that we do , these chores can’t be escaped, we repeat em over and over and over. Making coffee or breakfast, lunch and even dinner, washing dishes, laundry and general cleanliness.

In doing these chores sometimes we do everyday or weekly. chores are always there to be done and if we ignore them they always will keep on piling until you have no options but to perform them.

utensils washing to be honest i hate Washing them but everyday we have to wash them now. what I’ve observed it’s that we all have our styles to approach this task.

its by either when we done using the utensil we wash em. that’s use and wash procedure. this is approach one

approach two, wait them to pile up and boom wash it in the morning or after the day has ended.

Now all these approaches are acceptable but we can apply this into real life. sometimes in life we have daily problems and stuff that are generated daily as we live with people around us.

the use utensils (frustrations, depression, anxiety , fears, worries, doubt, dilemma and every other related problems all happen and the two approaches can be used here.

take a moment and evaluate yourself what approach do you use in tackling your problems do you deal with them as they happen or you wait and pile problems to problems ?

i don’t mean to judge or anything but if you are dealing with them as it appears, well and fine. but some of us we wait a problem to have uncles and aunties as we wait on an problem to be huge to carry and handle to such an extent of being a bigger issue to deal with…

so examine your method am not a doctor or therapist to tell you how to deal with your issues, but i once read that ignoring your problems doesn’t mean you have solve your problems. in other words piling up your problems doesn’t mean you have solved them.

the bigger the burden the more you’ll have troubles finish and compiling all of them.

so today want to say evaluate your methods eliminate problems as they come, never let them pile but work your way through problems not running by piling.

Bless Up
Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life

We as Trees..

Ever wanted to be born in a different family, region or country than the one you are in right now? Have you ever wished you could apply for a change pf parents?

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Some of us love our environment and we would do campaigns to influence people to plant trees and preserve the natural vegetation.

If you are one of them well and good, i personally appreciate your efforts but today am raising a topic from that side of view.

In order for a tree to survive or to grow it needs water or moisture, soil and also sunshine helps with the photosynthesis which is the process of making its own food. I’ll not go in deep into the biology but this is the basic concept.

Now also we need all the similar facts for growth we need water in terms of knowledge, this will allow us to not only develop but to get off the seed of ignorance. when we are watered as in terms of acquiring knowledge we will grow.

Soil is the environment that we are the parents, friends and relatives they play the role of soil as in trees.

Sunshine in this perspective let me give the opportunities around us, sunshine help the tree grow also opportunity help to move from one point to another, level to level and so forth. grab all opportunity that arise daily. Because if a tree fails to get sunshine it remains the same level.

After a tree is full grown its either used for shade and also fruits and oxygen provision also accumulation of carbon dioxide in the daylight and oxygen at night.

After we grow its not only useful for us but also we are useful to the surrounding too. we can be a source of replica of ourselves where we train others to be as us.

But let also know that when we are too much good for the environment the surrounding will try to cut us down and make us into other products

Well the above are facts that are well known and now some facts that are known but not taken into consideration seriously.

The tree or the seed that brings the tree doesn’t choose were it should grow, it accepts the ground and try to fight so it can grow.

The good book once said of a man who wanted to plant seed on the farm and some seeds failed to get into the good soil while some seeds made it to the good soil some were eaten by birds, some went into thorns.

The concept here is the seed has to realize that its of great potential even if is at the stage of seed or a tree and if it realizes that its the first stage to fight more to grow more

Same as us we can’t choose were to be born. that is why earlier the question was did you ever wanted to change where you were born, the family you are into ?

A tree has to deal with the condition that has been planted on. It cant complain that ooh i have been planted in no good condition, i can’t grow better. but it still grow

It does not need you to complain but it only require you to shift your mind into what you are surrounded with and then just work with…

Bless Up

Emitty
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changes Constructive thinking life season

Sweep In…

Good day to you.  hope this finds you well, after what the world is going through i hope you are holding up good. in times like this is at when our faith and stability is tested be strong and keep the faith up…

This morning after along time at home without doing anything i decided to go outside the yard and try sweeping it up. I know that we all have once or very often sweep the yards

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What I have come to notice is that you can have a portion of yard that is yours and the other can be your neighbors portion and all can be dirty. we can take this act in two portions from the single side view and the other is multiple side view.

SINGLE SIDE VIEW
This view I want you to imagine as the  fallen grass and other waste as the objects that hinders your smile and happiness the baggage that you carry that hinders you to be seen as the real you. sweeping them makes you nourish and grow as the way it should be. Here am talking about the aftermath after the sweep nevertheless take consideration the tools that are used to sweep ( it can be friends and hobbies that keeps up to make sure your form goes back into place, in terms of friends they are ready to sacrifice there wellbeing as the sweep gets worn out just to make sure you’re clean and keep on nourished. This is a great sacrifice and you should acknowledge them because they are always there and ready to sweep you over and over again.  

MULTIPLE SIDE VIEW
The tools (friends that sweep you up when you are full of grudge and other baggages that life throws at you they are there ) just ready to sweep your portion but remember your yard once swept will be clean and the difference between your yard and the next yard close to you will be seen. What am implying is that you were in a situation that you were helped by a friend now its your time not to take their sacrifices for GRANTED  but cherish and you be a sweeping Brush to your neighbor. Never be satisfied just because you’re out of your baggage that doesn’t mean your neighbor should stay that way too..

All in all life is just life and you can’t sweep all the yards out there and also people around you wont be able to sweep all your fallen grasses on you but when you get few people that makes or even just start sweeping you should stand up and be of help to. Help not only to your self but also to the people around you. .

bless up
Emitty…

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festivity life season

Festive Season

be a helper to the needy..

Merry Christmas is the most trending text sent all over the globe since its the festive season. A matter of fact MERRY CHRISTMAS to you reading this post hope you enjoy this day, after the Merry Christmas it will come Happy New Year definitely.

But the Question comes what is new or what is happy for this Christmas and the coming year, while there is nothing that we have change its just as same as last year Christmas, we fail to look for the ones that need our help, time, love and support and we lock up ourselves and just eat and enjoy. Don’t quote me wrongly eating and getting some lone time is good but we should be considerate for the ones out the streets that a constantly searching for food and shelter. I know some say the government will help but the government has a lot of stuffs in their own plate and cant reach all of them

I call upon all individual to take up to this request to care for the less privilege and offer their support not only this Christmas but also other normal days the non festive days. All changes we wanna see in the world starts with us taking the small changes daily and removing the daily routine ignorance of ungodly doing

Merry Christmas but make it a different Christmas to remember, be a santa to someone that is in need.

Bless Up

Emitty

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