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Who Are You ?

Somebody came up to me and said who you’re, the question was very hard to answer but inorder to answer the person, I wanted to see from their point of view, what or how much they think (key point think) they know me.

See the people around you can never understand or know you to the 100 percent level, because from time to time it depends on what they are viewing you from..

I wouldn’t place the answer they gave for my personal sanity because its something  I didn’t except to get from them. Put from there I learnt there are alot of definitions of Who you Are to the people around you.

Never expect to get a clear and uniform answer from the people around you. You’re not a mathematics question thay your answer will always be constant,  you ain’t pie (3.14) that you will always be constantly getting same answer to people, I know its confusing though one of you but the answer are infinite..

On  an intro of one of the songs in my playlist it was actually a spoken word by Dorah, she outline several ways that people can define you. Just simple question WHO ARE YOU? can have a infinite answer mind you from the other people point of view.. 

People define us on how they do Comparison between us and them, success, worth and strength or the way we appear, or the behaviour we show them or our weakness, what we can’t offer to them get us defined or what we work on or the Money and net worth we have. All this causes the infinite ♾ definition on who we are , but they ain’t answers.

Even parents themselves have a predefined definition of who you are , they want to have a perfect picture of you, that sweet lovely young kid they hard before you in your teenage..

The people Point of view doesn’t matter but what matters is what you think you are, an ancient quote said “Be careful for how you say or speak to yourself because the samurai inside will be mannered by it”.

That is to say your mind is a samurai, samurai where an elite soldiers to get the job done by that time,  they can be compared with the navy seals, the point is the mind is a powerful place what you tell it can affect it greatly..

We are not defined by how we look,make, create, or work on, the difference is what defines us . What really define us or answers who you are, lies on YOU. You get to define yourself whether you get a straight strong definition or answer on who you’re or let people answer that and let that sink the samurai inside ..

Bless Up
Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate (parte v)

Will start today’s article with my all time fave hindi movie namely three idiots, when the imperial college principle was addressing the students, he said life is a race, you either run or get squashed.

That statement applies to us but for today am not talking about running and talking about tolerance, life is a race yea but if you live in daressalaam you it’s not a race. This is because there will always be a traffic jam some place always.

Am not from there but we usually see and hear of traffic jams and so on. So in traffic jams is where I would like to set my theme for today’s title tolerance. In life is not all about running but it’s about maintaining pace between what you had, who you are and who you want to be.

See the same person has a past, present and future now tolerance is how you live now with learnt experience of the past making or creating a better future that’s tolerance.

Am not conflict with the one who said the past is past or bygones be bygones what am saying is that let all the past be a learnt experience which will help you make moves today that are not from scratch but from a reference that will help you reach point in the future.

In a traffic jam there is always a slow/gradual movement towards the common place, in life that’s how we are some people maybe going fast in the route and you going slow it doesn’t matter what matters is your tolerance to wait to finish because even after the jam what’s next is a smooth ride to compensate wasted time…

Learn to take time and tolerate what is thrown at you..

Bless up
Emitty..

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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
Bless up
Emitty

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
Bless up
Emitty

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Bonding

In light of my recent endeavour I undertook, a project coordinated by a certain group of people and I was just invited to it. I personally love projects but this one I did it out of strong persuasion of one of the coordinators..

“Now it’s not that hard, I would just go and enjoy the project and my day will be done ” that’s what came into my mind. But the story changed soon after. Reaching the rendezvous point( meeting point) the coordinators that invited me was not on the same bus.

I’ve never had ever thought of being in such situation where you fail to bond with the people around you. That’s my hardest and toughest feeling that I can beat and even shake it off. I hate being in this situations.

It took time until i met the coordinator that had persuaded me earlier to come along the project…

This triggered my mind to examine my point of focus, ask your self what is your point of entry or point of balance in life, do you expect a person or group of individuals to come rescue you ??

Well if yes you’re in a road to disappointment because people get tired and even get bored to hold you up. It’s a messed up world we live in.

Way out, it’s okay to depend on people from time to time and it’s also not okay to depend on them always. That’s a great mistake ever to be made by individual.

Try to balance what we call in swahili shobo.. the human help will always have an end and we can help once with no regrets, twice with a head looking the other side,third time with our complain mode and in murmur but in the end we come to the breaking point and we dont help no more

Learn to stand on your own to create that peace of mind within yourself and also boost your mindset .

Bless Up.
Emitty…

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Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

Bless Up
Emitty

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Mawazo Huru

Watu wanasema mchezo kwa nje ni mrahisi , ila ingia ndani uone au ucheze.

pia kuna ka-msemo kapo kanasema ukikaa kimya utasikia mengi ukiongea utatoa tu yale uyajuayo. Kwenye usafiri wa umma mara nyingi ndipo tunasikiaga vitu vingi na mengine tunajifunza.

sasa Leo nimevutiwa na mada uliyokuwa inaendelea juu ya mifumo ya ajira na elimu, mada hyo ilikuwa inaongelewa huku mimi nikiwa nashauku kubwa ya kusikia na kujifunza na si kusema wala kuchangia.

Raha ya mada hii kila level ya watu iliwakilishwa, wazazi na wanafunzi na wahitimu wasaka ajira.

maoni yao ni kama yafuatayo.
wazazi wanasema kwamba watoto wao wanaondoka wakiwa wadogo na wanarudi nyumbani baada ya muda mrefu wakiwa wamemaliza elimu ya chuo wakiwa wakubwa ila shida wanarudi wanasubiria kuajiriwa. Akaendelea kusema ni bora kungekuwa na masomo ya ujasiriamali katika shule na vyuo vyao hukoo.

(mtazamo wangu ni sawa kuwaza ivyo na vyuo vingi wanafanya kufundisha elimu ya ujasiriamali japo wanafunzi ndo hawana mawazo ya kujiongeza ila juhudi za kujenga akili za kibunifu ni juu ya mwanafunzi. Mwanafunzi akijijenga juu ya connection hapo hatoboi ndo tunapata jamii ya kusubiri mambo yao yaende pasipo mafanikio.)

kwa upande wa wahitimu. wahitimu yapo makundi mawili waliotoka kutoka diploma na degree. sasa wengi wanalalamika ajira mtaani amna na haya yote ni kisa serikali na taasisi ziajirizo hazitoi nafasi, na endapo zitatoa zinataka watu wenye uzoefu wa miaka si chini. ya mitatu kuendelea.

(mtazamo wangu ni kwamba mimi pia nashangazwa na nafasi zitolewazo kudai uzoefu na pia nafasi huwa nyingi, ila wahitimu tunapaswa kuwa wavumilivu ni bora kujenga jina kwa kujitolea pasipo malipo, na pia wengi tunafeli kwa uwoga wa kujaribu kutafuta kazi. wengi kwa uwoga wa kutokuwa wazoefu, embu tujaribu kuomba nafasi halafu tukajitengenezee jina angalau tuweke cv zetu kwenye ofisi zao ili pindi ikitokea nafasi ingine, sura yako si ngeni.

soko la ajira sasa hivi sawa ni gumu na si rahisi kama zamani na tukae tukijua kuwa wazazi wetu au walezi hawajapitia zama za kukosa kazi kihivyo, kipindi chao walikuwa elimu ndogo na kazi zipo. kwa hyo wahitimu wajiandae kisaikolojia kwa kukabiliana na wazazi wao.)

kwa upande wa wanafunzi walioko kwenye maandalizi ya kuingia mtaani. walikuwa wako kimya kwenye mdahalo ila mtazamo wangu ni huu, chuoni ndo sehemu ya kujiconnect na wadau wako. usiache hao marafiki usipoteane hao ndio marafiki watakaokuweka mjini pale unaposaka ajira.

pia usisite kujitolea pale nafasi zinapotokea, kaa vizuri na walimu wako hao ndio watakao kuweka pia mjini , nafasi nyingi zinapitia kwao za kazi pia kuwa na namba zao.)

haya yote ni mawazo huru na ni mawazo yangu ni ruksa kupinga au kurekebisha.

Je ww uko kwa kundi gani kati ya haya tuongee kwenye kiboxi la maoni
. na pia sio kila kitu cha kuchukua katika hili chagua size yako beba fanyia kazi kama yanafaa..

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Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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BElieve YOUrself(Be You)

You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life

in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.

we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.

who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?

we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.

the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean  is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.

not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.

if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..

no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.

NF says the real you is when no one is watching,

it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are  not as we think people want us to address it.

Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex

One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.

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