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Chillax, Graduate (partè III)

For the past days, we have been going through from my point of view what is the graduate depression, so far we covered two parts but today is what I call a masterpiece dive of what eats us more and more

The points are easy to spot but hard to accept, for some of us it’s easy to spot them while others are doing so but on our own life its very hard to accept that we have or we lack some qualities. Or accepting that the following are eating us up.

@Jay shetty and many more speakers have been speaking on timing and even the holy books are saying something about it always. We may live in the same planet we call earth that doesn’t mean we have to be confined in how other people live it, but to some of us(graduates and non-graduates) we always want to or tempted to be jealous of how others live their lives.

We start with a piece of story that will aim to conclude on my point of Comparison, a car driver wishes he could fly just because of the road traffic and the standard of life he want to achieve meanwhile a motorcycle driver envies the car driver just because of the comfortability of the car to the driver and the motorbike driver is sick of the hardship he always go through chest pains just because of him always opposing the weather, air or rain. But also a normal bicycle person wants a motorbike and normal person walking along the road want to have just a bicycle. And a cripple man wish he could just even walk..

See in life we always have wishes, some being in the reach of our efforts, some not. But there is a swahili saying “Mungu hakupi vyote, wala hakunyimi vyote”

see you may have something and the something is what you suppose to be grateful for. In correlation to the title non graduates envy the graduates while the graduates envy those in work places and those working always want something that will let them stand on the own with the slogan being your own boss…

See we always are unsatisfied with the life we have, you may find someone with everything but still unhappy because s/he feels something is missing and so do everyone. We feel like we need something someone who is in front has. But we never understand that we all have our fixed destinies greater than what we are hoping for..

According to me there are types of comparison If not two there three of them.

1. Comparison set by the society against you.
2. Comparison of you against somebody else
3. Comparison of beliefs…

So let’s meet for part four to go with the types of comparison from the point of view of graduates

Bless up
Emitty.

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Pa…

Apart from today being Father’s Day, I had in me to write this article after watching “breakthrough” a movie about the powerful prayer of a parent.

Also I write this because of the nickname Baba Mzazi that I recently found myself been given.

Being a father or a Male parent is never easy neither being a mother but a father is a figure that has a different point of being viewed.

This article can’t be expressed only by a single person but since its my version. What scares me most about being a father is ?

I know time will reach and I’ll be a father, having kids is a fantastic dream but is also scary that what if the kids dont turn out the way you want? Our fathers or parents nurtured us to the way that we are right now, I’m who I’m now just because they dared to take care and nurture me through this road.

I was a kid back then and I know without a doubt that I was very stubborn growing up and reaching this level definitely I know I was stubborn. No need to be told I was. But they took care of me .

My greatest fear of becoming a father is will my kid keep my teachings, what I will tell him or her also what will I teach her or him? How can I protect my kids around this world of technology with everything you seek being available at my kid’s hand??

If this is your worries then welcome to the team, fathers to be… I haven’t figured the dad ship yet but what I know is that kids are always gonna learn from what they see their parent figure always do. How do I know that this is from me I’m here because I grabbed what my father was doing so the insecurities that comes from you taking care of the kids that you have or going to have all lies on the way you are around them.

” an apple doesn’t fall far from the apple tree.” You are your kids.

In the above statements I haven’t said that being a father is easy I just said it’s easy for kids learning from what they are exposed too.

Being a father is not a part time job or something that you do when you’re free but it’s always being there for the kid you have. Building up memories with them and in the end believing they are grownup enough to be the better version of you. So never teach a kid to be as you but better than you.

Cheers to dads in heaven
Cheers to dads in earth
Cheers to dads to be..
Happy fathers day

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Emitty

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The Drive

An empty cup can’t feel another cup, find your real purpose for yourself then serving others is minor purpose!!

A candle doesn’t loose anything by lighting another candle..

Two conflicting statements but on terms of accuracy that’s a 100 percent true. You can’t give what you dont have .

All my life have been asking what’s my purpose on earth, it’s not that I have found answers for that but still searching and the hustle of finding your life’s purpose you come and realize that you have some buttons that you previously didn’t know they exist.

Its when you agree to move from comfort zone and go out find your purpose, that’s when you understand your limits and your breaking point. Having all that in mind is a great thing because it makes you firstly experienced and second aware

Failure to meet your purpose is a wasted lifetime lived, you can think you’re on the right track to your purpose but you aren’t at all. You can be living someone’s else life in the name of it’s your purpose.

As I said I’m not there yet but what I know is purpose is placed on everyone the moment s/he has seen the light of earth.

And purpose will get you places that are you cannot reach when you haven’t discovered your purpose.

Purpose is yours and yours only, people will come to help you reach your purpose and not to help you in life , we getting in events such as heartbreaks and betrayal they are just lessons to be learnt and to redirect you to your purpose..

Find it…
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Emitty

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Descending triangles

Shapes isn’t really a concept that I can explain so much, but it’s always there and will always be there. Were you see it, it doesn’t matter because its everywhere and I can’t tell you to spot some shapes am not the google not robot verifier.

One thing that had me fascinated was the triangle, I remember one animation they show the power of a triangle has a base and a point direction.

Just from properties if a triangle we can gather alot of lessons from it, be of strong foundation and know where you heading and stuff related to it. But that will be of some other time.

We are in hurt mode, disappointment mode and healing process from alot of things that we have been through, a certain screenshot that was placed in somebody’s status said. “We are coordinated to face alot to learn and have a strong reference point not to give up but to move forward with experience”

Felt the quote but I came and saw that all our lives we have been going process that are similar it’s like we are moving in circles, how you’ll ask? Well its simple let me walk you through this

Once posted that we differ in schooling system but using the Tanzanian grade system, it’s more of 3-7-4-2-3/5 or 3-7-4-3-3/5 format. I know it’s not a football formation it’s more of classes you have to sit to move into next level and we have the primary level, secondary level and tertiary level.

Am not here for flashbacks but am here to tell you that all this long life has taught us about losing, just think of how many people we lost the connection to, from your grade one till now?

It’s a long list of people we lost touch since back then. So life is always telling us life is of a point headed but a bigger start.

Take note that always the beginning will be firm and you can have a clear goal In broad term but as you move on you’ll come to see some vision,people and some clear facts disintegrating to something else. When that happens just know that’s life and the pointy header will always be there

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Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Emitty

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Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

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Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

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Emitty

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Broken promises

A promise is a promise.

i bet we are all familiar with this say

many of us fall for promises and at the end of the day we end to be disappointed. Many promises are made to us, I ever made a promise, you ever made a promise and at some point in time probably things didn’t go right and forgot if you ever did make a promise to someone. And because things didn’t go right we tend to be like ah will they remember if I did promise them to come or to bring them something and just get to ignore them just like that, and when they come back to us we get to be like oh did I really say am gonna come over to stay, did I really say that I would buy you this, or would take you there?

Unknowingly we end up disappointing and breaking their hearts.

we really need to be faithful in this you know, let it reach a time we make promises that we can fulfill and make our loved ones happy, let us erase the broken promises and learn to apologize when we fail to fulfill them promises. If you think you can not make the promise happen it’s best to just stay silent and let it pass

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Loaded Gun

With what is going on around the world after being hit with the covid-19 and people wearing masks, I thought to my self it’s a great lessons that we are to learn, we limit our words and we wash off any associations we have carry as to just watch and listen which are great methods to learn.

Met with the questions 2 ears, 2 eyes but why 1 mouth.. ?

Pro 18:21 BBE Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.

A mans thought is build from what s/he heard but that doesn’t bring bigger changes like what you say,they say words are priceless but words out of a person’s can cost him.

So it’s clearly that what we say unto others and ourselves are always responsible for everything else

Mind clearly works by what is said, if you accept yourself as a failure then what the mind does its just a matter of bringing the correct amount of identifiers or symptoms that will bring the correct failure results.

There is a swahili swahili people saying “ukiwaza tu unakuwa” well the funny thing while growing was that we usually had to drink water that was not boiled because most of the times the boil water was always hot and the best option was water from the tap .

But having caring parent we usually were canned, when caught at the act of drink water from the tap.

We were always told that we will get diseases and they wont incur any cost to take us to an hospital or getting medicines. That didn’t affect us just because we always said that say “ukiwaza tu inakuwa”

Quoting my favourite artist NF “The point I’m makin’ is the mind is a powerful place
And what you feed it can affect you in a powerful way
It’s pretty cool, right? Yeah, but it’s not always safe
Just hang with me, this’ll only take a moment, okay?
Just think about it for a second, if you look at your face
Every day when you get up and think you’ll never be great
You’ll never be great, not because you’re not, but the hate
Will always find a way to cut you up and murder your faith (woo!) – THE SEARCH “

What am trying to say is that what really matters is how we control the words that come out of mouth, it’s easy to say a word but hard to return once said. It’s like living with loaded gun that the safety is off. Once its shot the bullet can’t be returned..

So whatever you are going through the trigger was once your words be careful. Though I dont have any proof of the connections between our mind, words that we say and reality, but i have lived to see what I say by mouth come to reality..

Bless up

Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
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Emitty

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