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Our Escape

Well the dictionary define escape as a narrow run or temporary displacement or distraction from a routine or reality.

The definition had something that caught my eye, the words such as temporary, distraction and reality.

We tend to search for escapes because of our temporary situation in life, and life can be a constituent of many things from social interaction to the mind of one self. Our economy, social life, spirituality, mentality, health and even a balance of all these can be what we call life..

Escape is temporary just as noted from the definition before, reason to create escape can vary but alot of people are in search of escape to get a way to numb pain, and the pain is mostly caused by over expectations.

See in life we tend to expect alot from people or even actions that we do. We expect fast money so we engage in illegal businesses to make quick money and we end up disappointed for a reason or two. We are always constantly putting overwhelming hopes forward and casting out reality in the name of faith.

Don’t quote me wrong, faith is a good thing but don’t disguise instant gratification or any thing related to fastering the process as faith, TRUST THE PROCESS they say but people don’t do that, the say maybe the process should start trusting their ways.

A failure to quit running towards escape will lead to addiction, and we all know what addictions do to a person. And there is no such thing as a good or bad addictions.

Addictions are addictions and people tend to color coat it because they are temporary pleasures that leads to an escape of reality..

Once posted it on our team timeline ” what’s your escape ?” And the response were alot, but people are troubled with alot that we have to agree to, but some problem they are not really a running problem, some problem are to be faced, but it’s easy to think on running more than thinking of facing it..

On a advisory scale, problems will constantly seem to add up and piling up problems will not be the solution. We have to fight our problems, the escape to our problems  doesn’t solve the problems they just forward them. So we are not running away from them we are just forwarding them…

Bless Up
Emitty

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Pushin’ it

Don’t recall what game was it called but it involved a moving cart on unorganised railway where the goal of the player is to reach far but making sure there are no gaps in which it may lead the cart to fall due to unconnected rails.

Accuracy is at question in the game and also the quickness recover from mistake before the cart reaches the unconnected rail and falls off.

Ofcourse in the end of the game there rewards, and from this because its a mini game the rewards helps out with the main game. (Shout out goes to the TOWNSHIP games creators available on playstore)

Now see in life its all about extra forces, I know many ain’t believers but I know some forces are beyond our abilities to comprehend. We may be pushing on our side but deeply outside some process outside are the ones pushing. We may have all the necessary motives to push infront but our timing maybe not perfect and we may fail.

See when we started RTF back then, it was just after we were done with our first semester in university,  the founders were the same friend we had back since form one in our ordinary level education but we didn’t start it until we were done with our o level and A-level education.

It’s possible that we could have started it earlier but the timing would never favour us to spread out to the inches that we have covered till now.

Many of us think that things just happen, but in reality everything and each step taken gives us a more significant effect on the long run, this is because of some forces are set when we push right.

So in time of planning, never worry to start again just because of  a simple failure sometimes the bigger picture needs you to push the idea at the right time.

I’m no guru to know how to do the perfect timing but you should believe in timing. Time will always tell, with time all things fall in place.

Bless up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

Life is too short, and we have to live it to the fullest so how do we define Life itself and then how do we fight to have a balance. How do we live to the fullest?

Life to some is more of people, many people think that life is a tendency of considering happiness of others before their own, and some conclude by linking love and life.

To some life is all about them having a total brand by defining their standards so it makes them easier to them to avoid unnecessary things in the end so this group links with the levels

So after that we have establish its more of a linear relationship between life, love and levels.

Love is all about a complex topic, If you decide to explain it that’s a broad topic to cover, but for some people love is just a simple topic. But on the long run we have to  accept that love has no formulae at all.


If ego, selflessness and pride takes over any particular party in any type of relationship whether its a friends or lovers the boyfriend and girlfriend thing. Love is intertwined to levels because all these ego stuff is all principles or standards set by people and hence the portion of love intersect to levels.


Some notable quotes are as follows,
We fail to distinguish between love and pity, we are scared to have to isolate ourselves in toxic relationship but we hold on in the name of patience.

Kila mtu ana path ake no matter how similar you’re with someone else…(life against life)

We should place ground rules for friendship, lazima kuwepo na ground rules
Standards you put on having people kwa circle yako
(Life against levels)


In love, what do you really look for?
Is it peace, money,  stability,  security, friendship?


Wanawake wakiwa heartbroken wanaanza uza nguo status 😂😂😂😂




If we define what life is, love is, levels are we hope to have a best life ever, but that’s not it there are always problems.
Now question is how do you counteract your problems?

Some do panic, some take it easy knowing that problems are inevitable,  some take time to understand the bigger picture that comes with the problem

_” napata matatizo ila matatizo hayanipi matatizo … “_


Level yako unajua ww mwenyewe
Ila watu wanavyomuweka ni jinsi unavyojionyesha kwao.. ( What is your brand when your off the room, what do people say about you..?)

Love have no condition it come naturally
Upendo unaisha….

Take outs from
Nights shots
11th September


Unanswered questions
How do you identify toxic relationship?
How long should you hold on to a toxic relationship?
Why do men never let go of their ego easily ?

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Give it

Being in a world where every day the technology increase and the demand on the market is portable and slim designs in everything made.

There are always problems and the problems present needs solutions we all have to agree on that, if you can solve a problem then you make profit.

Technology, men that’s broad and that’s hard to explain. But all things that place in the tech industry are all made from observation made from the environment that is around us.

Let’s take an example of problems and the lesson drawn from it, have a file that you wanna send it from one computer to another the reasonable way its just to send using the flash drive or the ethernet and many more others.

The lesson drawn from all that is sharing. Well that’s not hard to define because it is more of a move of anything from one point to another, just its the movement.

The movement is not hard to define but the action is different its easy for us human beings to make demands that somethings have to be shared. But we can’t share what we have .

But people do share, and from a technical point of view there are alot of ways that define the way we share things.

Usb sharing: for the IT personnel this is a method of sharing and it’s grouped into one to multipoint. A single file in one computer can be placed inside a flash drive to be shared across many computers.

People’s way of sharing can be like a usb, we acquire what we want to share from one place and then share at a time. The problem is that this sharing needs alittle bit of patience. Since you need to share with one entity at a time and also the ability is limited, some people ability of receiving is limited and hence the sharing capabilities too.

Extension cable sharing: this is more of my a bridge it taps to a source or point and according to its slots it can then allow other devices to tap in a get power. Also it’s a bridge and can also act as a source to create another bridge

So this method Is mostly needed in the community but it’s not always there, people tend to receive first then give, which is a good thing but we have to understand that when you give you get a room to recieve it’s a basic math.. as you get you give is equals to a room empty available for receiving.

We have to learn and unlearn all about sharing its not a must to give interms of financial or material wise but also we can give the intangible things a smile, time love and alot of other things.

Someone cant reach everyone, but everyone can reach someone. We need to be more of an extension cable rather than a flash drive kinda people…

Bless up
Emitty

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Purposely Placed

I don’t know how to put this but before, when what I was seeking was social approval, instant gratification and peace from people around, life was tough, how?

Before we head there, ” let me place this what determines your peace determines your sadness and your level of disappointment – Pst Steven Furtick” In simple words where you place your happiness is where disappointment happens and also source of problems.

If it go cost my peace its an expensive shit don’t disturb me please ( I don’t know if I have captured it fresh but its from Adekunle Gold)

Back to the main story, I was easily moved to different spots, I used the same methods as they used some people before me to be gratify by the society or approved. I was so in pain when a person could outbeat me in something and I was super competitive just to be seen I’m present. I would have do anything just to be seen in a room full of People.

But have come to realise that when you’re not place to do something you’ll never find peace in what you do, disappointments will always be your portion.

Am I there yet no, why am I sharing then if am not there it’s just have come to learn you have to be open, to know that what you will always do no matter what scale it’s there will be a person doing bigger than you but yours is unique just because its done by you.

Never compare you with someone else and just know the aim of you is to have peace inside and not social gratification, that’s the main key keep that.

For there is a great reward in what you do alone and satisfied from inside than what you do and satisfy the societies around us. There is a great cost to satisfy a society than to satisfy yourself

Bless Up
Emitty

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As He teaches

Back in my primary school I remember my grammar school teacher usually had us Energize with some opposites of words.

He would have the class stand up and pick one at random then he starts by saying you what is the opposite of this and that and you’ll earn a seat when you answer the questions

Well back then we hated it and we usually didn’t raise our hands to answer the questions hoping the teacher will get bored and run out of words to ask us. But ooh boy that man had stamina he was always on the clock and he had alot of words for us to answer

So right now I don’t use any opposite in my life or neither do i use the grammar 100% but what I know today i can reflect in alot of lessons that can be derived from the quick stand up.

Some notable guidelines to some lessons are as follow.
1. Expecting the teacher to come and ask questions. See in life we are always in a surprise mode, but so far people are in a stage they even say for the point that life has thrown so much shades on me I can’t be surprised no more. This is not that s/he has gone through it all but it’s that s/he has gone through alot . Alot people of have a hidden story to tell. And all the stories mah all have a same beginning “it was out of no were, I didn’t plan this or I didn’t plan that but it happens and till it happens like that it means that if you didn’t plan for it then you had a different plan and that the opposite happened…
2. Our response some early they raise their hands but some of us we dont. The early response are similar to the way we live our lives some opportunities are randomly popin up always but its some few that make that fast decision and others will take time to take them but others will not take the opportunities at all that’s life. We waited for the teacher but some of us had already sat down earlier…
3. Hope and expectation for him to get bored. I really dont know if this has ever hit you up, you starting feeling a little left out want to life just pass you by, feeling like you’re the only one alone in this whole life passing a certain situation and life cant Get any worse than it was. You hope life will get bored and start being nice to you? If you’re in this just know life never get bored throwing shade its just mother nature making us hard and resilient to its methods.
4. Stamina for his consistency,life will always show you consistency more and more and it will always disappoint us, so life has the teacher’s consistency to throw shades. There is a trending statement good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people that’s nature the way to build the boldness out of ourselves.
5. Answers given. Whether we were asked the first round or last every question that the teacher had asked had answers so as life no matter what you going through, nonmatter tough,easy, crazy, logical or illogical then just know, no matter what time is threw at you it has an answer..
6. Topic on the table. The teacher had always had a particular theme he used while asking a question and we would have to tune ourselves into answering the particular theme that was very easy simply because the questions were easily predictable after the theme was known. So in life trying figure what wave to flow with in times of your greatest conflict..

I was told a good teacher teaches how the real world works on his lessons without even saying so, and by reflecting this it has clearly shown me that the teacher planted something positive in the lessons he taught..

Bless up
Emitty

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Chillax,Graduate (parte v)

Will start today’s article with my all time fave hindi movie namely three idiots, when the imperial college principle was addressing the students, he said life is a race, you either run or get squashed.

That statement applies to us but for today am not talking about running and talking about tolerance, life is a race yea but if you live in daressalaam you it’s not a race. This is because there will always be a traffic jam some place always.

Am not from there but we usually see and hear of traffic jams and so on. So in traffic jams is where I would like to set my theme for today’s title tolerance. In life is not all about running but it’s about maintaining pace between what you had, who you are and who you want to be.

See the same person has a past, present and future now tolerance is how you live now with learnt experience of the past making or creating a better future that’s tolerance.

Am not conflict with the one who said the past is past or bygones be bygones what am saying is that let all the past be a learnt experience which will help you make moves today that are not from scratch but from a reference that will help you reach point in the future.

In a traffic jam there is always a slow/gradual movement towards the common place, in life that’s how we are some people maybe going fast in the route and you going slow it doesn’t matter what matters is your tolerance to wait to finish because even after the jam what’s next is a smooth ride to compensate wasted time…

Learn to take time and tolerate what is thrown at you..

Bless up
Emitty..

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Chillax,Graduate (Parte IV)

With reference to simba vs yanga and also with reference to the article we wrote about reference. I would love to start of sending my greetings to all yanga fans for the win against the derby .

The Match has shown so much that I can use for the part IV the comparison. See there were some expectations that the team itself am talking about simba set or already had against yanga and yanga too. The people that are the fans had already set there expectations.

Am not a football fan to say much but I want you to move with something from the match, before the match there is always a H2H count. That is a head to head count against the two teams, and this is a comparison for what the teams have been lately prior to the match .

Comparison that’s what its today, we’ll talk about comparison and last article we saw there are three types of comparisons and I would love to state one by one today …

The comparison based on the walkthrough title graduate depression…

Comparison set by the society against you. We all have guardians or family members that always think that they know all about school and all about you, and also even our parents have always been there in the loop of knowing everything about school simply because they work hard to get us the fees. They hope that we are always aware of what they go through and the only way to repay them is by us having a good life .

See they set an expectation between what they know and what we are, it’s super hard breaking this and if we are to give much thinking to this it’s a problem, we all fight against secret battles.

There is this feeling that when you are some how young and your parents have a point to compare you with it maybe a sibling or a relative that’s either the same point of academics as you or ahead of you a little, there is that atmosphere of where you are always behind in terms of performance and they have set that you have to be either like them or better than them, that situation eats up alot of as in terms of academics

The way through it is that life is yours its either you create your standards or someone else creates them for you. It’s simple as that.

Comparison of you against somebody else, after seeing the set by our guardians to us then there is what we so call standards when we set standard we can place a person as a role model but that role model may be a potential help but also a problem because if the difference between them and you if positively then you advance but if not then you are in problem of comparing you against them..

If you’re pursuing academic or doing anything never set your goals to outrun or beat something against somebody else. Swahili saying ” mhuni afeli anachelewa tu kufaulu ” we are always just late to succeed but we never fail. That’s us life to us. After you’re done it may take time to win but never ever compare yourself from somebody else.

You may be running the same race but that’s not the guarantee you have to move with them every move.

We can’t move if we move by beef or comparison that’s the easiest life principle but we fail to understand that. Always be you never compare yourself to others…

Comparison of beliefs, this is my personal favourite you can outrun the comparison your guardians have placed against you, you can outrun your standards you place your self against people but its very hard to outrun your beliefs

The funny thing about beliefs is that you think them throughly then it becomes your routine through the manifestation of it in the outside. Now that’s not a bad thing.

It will be a bad thing when your standards are tested to a limit they need to be broken, when you set something inside your mind gives you a certain vibe but when you’re in a conflict of interest to fight it or to let it go, that eats you up. So always be careful of what standards you put for yourself..

Coming parte V: tolerance, how to fight against your own standards and how to balance as world claws it off on you?

Bless up
Emitty

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Chillax, Graduate (partè III)

For the past days, we have been going through from my point of view what is the graduate depression, so far we covered two parts but today is what I call a masterpiece dive of what eats us more and more

The points are easy to spot but hard to accept, for some of us it’s easy to spot them while others are doing so but on our own life its very hard to accept that we have or we lack some qualities. Or accepting that the following are eating us up.

@Jay shetty and many more speakers have been speaking on timing and even the holy books are saying something about it always. We may live in the same planet we call earth that doesn’t mean we have to be confined in how other people live it, but to some of us(graduates and non-graduates) we always want to or tempted to be jealous of how others live their lives.

We start with a piece of story that will aim to conclude on my point of Comparison, a car driver wishes he could fly just because of the road traffic and the standard of life he want to achieve meanwhile a motorcycle driver envies the car driver just because of the comfortability of the car to the driver and the motorbike driver is sick of the hardship he always go through chest pains just because of him always opposing the weather, air or rain. But also a normal bicycle person wants a motorbike and normal person walking along the road want to have just a bicycle. And a cripple man wish he could just even walk..

See in life we always have wishes, some being in the reach of our efforts, some not. But there is a swahili saying “Mungu hakupi vyote, wala hakunyimi vyote”

see you may have something and the something is what you suppose to be grateful for. In correlation to the title non graduates envy the graduates while the graduates envy those in work places and those working always want something that will let them stand on the own with the slogan being your own boss…

See we always are unsatisfied with the life we have, you may find someone with everything but still unhappy because s/he feels something is missing and so do everyone. We feel like we need something someone who is in front has. But we never understand that we all have our fixed destinies greater than what we are hoping for..

According to me there are types of comparison If not two there three of them.

1. Comparison set by the society against you.
2. Comparison of you against somebody else
3. Comparison of beliefs…

So let’s meet for part four to go with the types of comparison from the point of view of graduates

Bless up
Emitty.

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Chillax,Graduate. (Parte II)

We live in a world were everything is memelized, a world were everyone is a meme lord or meme queen, it’s not a bad thing. So why am i bringing this to your attention.

It fits the illustrations for parte II of the 2021 graduate depression, some memes are funny but explain everything in plain language and fewer words. I wish I could show you all memes have seen but just take a few.

One in a particular occasion if I remember said relax life is too short to commit suicide we all die. With relation to graduate depression, it’s very easy for a graduate nowadays to run to commit suicide just because of impatience.

We seek instant gratification, some memes show some skeletons and it will be seen written at age of 25 a graduate places himself/herself stating I will have a job, and house with a car, while the skeletons playing the role of ancestors. ( I recalled the story of the old man and the bamboo tree plantation that took 5years to just come out of the ground.)

What makes us depressed is hoping or finishing school and hopping everything falls in place just as we get out, to some it does happen like that but a larger number it doesn’t come out like that..

What also makes us depressed is too much thinking of what tomorrow holds ” nothing eats us more than think of tomorrow, the thinking of tomorrow is fine but overthinking robs us of the present.” Most of graduates end up messing up the last semester because their minds are all set for the end but they forget that they can’t have tomorrow perfectly if they dont have a best today…

It’s not a meme but I was in class somedays back and the lecturer was teaching on the multimedia technologies team, where he said there many people that are always involved in the production of some things, eg movies and even animations.

A student raised a voice and said what is wrong with our side, multimedia products why are they so poor in production is it the team problem.

The lecturer answered the point is and will always be the same reasons across our nation, we seek instant gratification over quality work we find want to be in the market with alot of poor works instead of having a perfect work speaking and branding us. The works are alot in the market but they just shout nothing to offer

He continued by saying why do we eat ugali, rice and boiled vegetables its because we hate waiting and the habit has brought us impatience that it’s either we can’t see something through or we fast forward it.

Its always been the logical universal rule, good things takes time . If you fail to enjoy the process you are doomed to depress over slow motion of your progress.

Coming up next on part III: Comparison, company and tolerance

Part II
Bless up
Emitty

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