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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

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The 32 you, The 64 you

growing up is never been easy, am sure there a lot of memories you have while you were a kid some you proud of and some you don’t.

That version of tinny you just peeing in bed Everytime that you sleep, the angry you and the parenting lies. (if you sleep in the afternoon you’ll watch tv tomorrow afternoon, not knowing that tomorrow the same scenario continues)

Same applies to school stuff while we were growing up. Don’t end up class seven there are a lot of stuffs you need to know inorder to stand very well financially. so you’ll add up the ordinary level education as form one to form four. when you are done with it you’ll hear them saying add another and so for it goes up to when you get a degree and then you land a job.

landing a job is just as computers executing applications. so there are many operating system (os) but the common one is the windows which has gain it’s market since the early 90s now the version has two architecture that is the 32-bits and 64-bits

in observation apps with 32bits can run in 64bit but vice versa ain’t possible. it’s is the same as a flat screwdriver can open a star screw but star screwdriver can’t open up a flat type screw.

sometimes upgrading what skill you have will play a greater advantage to you, because you’ll be marketable in terms of you can decide for both opportunities that comes that are your level or way below your level.

having the abilities that exceeds the required option gives you room to attain posts that are a lower level than you and the level that you on…

so upgrade and keep on upgrading yourself so as to give your self a firm standing point..

Bless up
Emitty

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Daily Chores

powered by a long boring travel back home.

Daily chores, there are a lot of chores that we do , these chores can’t be escaped, we repeat em over and over and over. Making coffee or breakfast, lunch and even dinner, washing dishes, laundry and general cleanliness.

In doing these chores sometimes we do everyday or weekly. chores are always there to be done and if we ignore them they always will keep on piling until you have no options but to perform them.

utensils washing to be honest i hate Washing them but everyday we have to wash them now. what I’ve observed it’s that we all have our styles to approach this task.

its by either when we done using the utensil we wash em. that’s use and wash procedure. this is approach one

approach two, wait them to pile up and boom wash it in the morning or after the day has ended.

Now all these approaches are acceptable but we can apply this into real life. sometimes in life we have daily problems and stuff that are generated daily as we live with people around us.

the use utensils (frustrations, depression, anxiety , fears, worries, doubt, dilemma and every other related problems all happen and the two approaches can be used here.

take a moment and evaluate yourself what approach do you use in tackling your problems do you deal with them as they happen or you wait and pile problems to problems ?

i don’t mean to judge or anything but if you are dealing with them as it appears, well and fine. but some of us we wait a problem to have uncles and aunties as we wait on an problem to be huge to carry and handle to such an extent of being a bigger issue to deal with…

so examine your method am not a doctor or therapist to tell you how to deal with your issues, but i once read that ignoring your problems doesn’t mean you have solve your problems. in other words piling up your problems doesn’t mean you have solved them.

the bigger the burden the more you’ll have troubles finish and compiling all of them.

so today want to say evaluate your methods eliminate problems as they come, never let them pile but work your way through problems not running by piling.

Bless Up
Emitty

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Constructive thinking life mentality and mental health

I speak MENtal – II

according to havard health magazine

on average, women live longer than men. In fact, 57% of all those ages 65 and older are female. By age 85, 67% are women. The average lifespan is about 5 years longer for women than men in the U.S., and about 7 years longer worldwide.

It’s not hard to see the gender gap among the elderly. A glance around most nursing homes or assisted living facilities in the U.S. often tells the story: women will usually outnumber men, and the magnitude of the difference is often striking. I’m also told that when a man moves into a residential setting dominated by the geriatric set, he tends to be popular; and that’s especially true if he still drives.

Advertisers know this as well. I recently saw an ad for an organization called “A Place for Mom” that helps families find assisted living or other services for senior citizens. And while they help men as well as women, the name of the company reflects how much bigger the elderly female market is.

So why do men, on average, die first?

There are many reasons why the ratio of men to women (which is roughly equal in young adulthood) starts to favor women over time. Among the most powerful factors? Men tend to

take bigger risks. Some of the reason seems to be “biological destiny.” The frontal lobe of the brain — the part that controls judgment and consideration of an action’s consequences — develops more slowly in boys and young men than in their female counterparts. This may contribute to the fact that far more boys and men die in accidents or due to violence than girls and women. Examples include biking, driving drunk, and homicide. This tendency toward lack of judgment and consideration of consequences may also contribute to detrimental lifestyle decisions among young men, such as smoking or drinking to excess.

have more dangerous jobs. Men far outnumber women in some of the riskiest occupations, including military combat, firefighting, and working at construction sites.

die of heart disease more often and at a younger age. In fact, men are 50% more likely than women to die of heart disease. The fact that men have lower estrogen levels than women may be part of the reason. But medical risks, such as poorly treated high blood pressure or unfavorable cholesterol levels, may contribute as well.

be larger than women. Across many species, larger animals tend to die younger than smaller ones. Although the magnitude of this effect is uncertain in humans, it may work against male longevity.

commit suicide more often than women. This is true despite the fact that depression is considered more common among women and women make more (non-fatal) suicide attempts. Some attribute this to the tendency for men to avoid seeking care for depression and the cultural norms that discourage men from seeking help for mental illness.

be less socially connected. For reasons that aren’t entirely clear, people with fewer and weaker social connections (which tends to include men more often than women) tend to have higher death rates.

avoid doctors. According to the Agency for Healthcare Research and Quality, men are far more likely to skip routine health screens and far less likely than women to have seen a doctor of any kind during the previous year.

The uneven playing field for boys starts early. The Y chromosome tends to develop mutations more often than X chromosomes and the lack of a second X chromosome in men means that X-linked abnormalities among boys are not “masked” by a second, normal version. Survival in the womb is also less reliable for male fetuses (for uncertain, and probably multiple, reasons). Developmental disorders are also more common among boys; some of these could shorten life expectancy.

What we can do to help men live longer

While there’s not much that can be done about some of these factors, others are modifiable. For example, since men tend to avoid medical care far more often than women, getting men to report symptoms (including depression) and go for regular follow-up for chronic medical problems (such as high blood pressure) could counter some of the tendency for them to die younger.

It’s also worth noting that the survival gap between men and women reflects an average tendency among large numbers of people. In fact, plenty of wives predecease their husbands. Individual risk factors, such as smoking, diabetes, or a strong family history of breast cancer, can outweigh the general tendency for women to live longer.

Perhaps we’ll be more successful in the future in avoiding preventable, premature death among men (and women) — and, because many of these efforts will have a bigger impact on men, the gender gap among the elderly may eventually narrow.

That’s according to Harvard health but my reasons on to why we die is coming soon on the next article .. credits to ha

Bless Up

Emitty

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I speak MENtal

Every single day people are dying, i have never started my piece with a bad sentences as this. but what should i do? coat the truth with honey nooo..

people are dying from various things and reasons. but the people who are mostly dying are man. we men we are dying as chicken hitted with bird flu. though our numbers interms of population is very small almost 2.2billion in comparison to 5.6 billion for the women we are the once dying under a quick rate.

there are plenty of campaigns that ladies are invited to and they get alot of platforms to speak out about their troubles and problems and in any excessive case they get help and the burden is lifted. Meaning around the world the seminars, training and workshop concerning female issues are more than the seminars on men issues.

Ladies understand the concepts of speaking out where you think you are carrying alot. but men don’t, we do not like to talk about stuff as we carry the load ourselves

one factor of us dying fast is mental health. we are okay with seeing women seminars and stuff but we haven’t taken time us as men to seat down and we discuss what we go through.

honestly speaking we go through to much and we think holding everything to ourselves is the key to being a man. nooooooooooo

a big no we need to seat down as men and we need to share, for real we face alot. financial burden, social burden, spiritual burden, we have to spill it out.

we have to come open not to hold what we have.

let me leave it by saying this in many marriages the one who dies early is the man. but why ?? (answers next article)

bless up
emitty

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Constructive thinking graduate's depression knowledge life mentality and mental health

The Beginning

well let’s take it from the start with a simple scenario based on true story.

growing up is never been and will never be easy. we all have some stories of growth and all these stories shapes us into what we are right now.

we were raised either to work by fear or delegating work thinking we are able to do so. formation of classes started here people who are scared to make moves thinking they cant due to fear and another class of ruthless 

we grew up not knowing what to do what if our ideas were listened and taken to consideration, so we created a wall that’s fear of rejection, we won’t make a move because we are scared to be turned down. We were trained that we only have to listen to people who are older to us.

with even advancement of technology we trying to cope with it, will be noted as hooliganism, moral degraded and visionless teen. this has created a wall of anticipation, we see all chances offered are scams and aint aiming for us to take them.

we grow up socializing, making bonds with people and we do things together thinking it will always be like that, but it doesn’t appear that way we create comfort in people while we in school not knowing that we won’t stuck with them always  after school or college we are left alone. Mob isn’t a team, its a temporary gathering that has come into place for a short period of time.

depression can’t be caused suddenly but it’s built slowly slowly as time goes. i can’t treat depression but you can always share whats bothering you. stop piling what’s in your heart..

Bless up
Emitty

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The Outline

if every graduate’s head is bursted open and what’s on their mind seen it will be a catastrophe. This is because graduate’s mind is filled with frustration from the society, parents and even siblings .

The education received is just for papers and the rate of employment opportunities is growing thick.

just as the educational methods are based on triangular elimination. what i mean is the basis of it is to accumulate many students but drop them or delay them as it goes.

The number of students or colleagues you started with them in grade one is different from the ones who completed with you. Many have ended delaying to finish due to some stuff and some even drop outs.

And all in our mindsets we are trained to see employment as soon as we are done, either through connection we have or parents. we end up talking modules and courses just because our parents have studied them and have connections on it.

But the world has a funny way to prove us wrong and most of cases it hits bad and painful.

so for people with lesser options those the only option is to work they find themselves in grieve due to the process of searching for a job.

in terms of faith we exercise faith too much and it’s a good thing but we fail to understand faith without works its nothing let’s say if you have faith to pray but not to study, miracles can happen but not a miracle of you passing with flying colors am not here to downgrade the almighty powers but you should attach Faith with works .

so the point is we doing things by faith because they are just things to come ( i mean outlining goals and objectives of what we would do straight after university ) doesn’t mean we are already successful. we need to go out there and give it our one hundred.

The common mistake is that we think what will put us on the market place is what we studied. now you will be asking yourself what. after my three years or fours years of excessive studying you are telling me to drop what i have studied, No am not am just saying you have to live with the fact that not all you know is gonna put you in the market. You need to acquire some extra skills, you need to be multipurpose and multitasking.

Am opening up a serious of graduate depression and I’ll be outlining some depression i found out that can be a problem to our new adventure or venture to the next step of life.

Bless up
Emitty

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We Are Trees II

I know you don’t care but yes i was on a bus while writing this piece and what i recall was my biology class while I was thinking of what the education that I have and how i apply it to the real world.

I recall my biology teacher came in class and started to teach about transpiration and plants ways to do regulation and the terms i remember are like osmoregulation

Now there are four seasons which are summer, winter , autumn and spring. i don’t know much about the weather and that will be geography now.

but this seasons have a specific time or period to take into effect. And during dry season the trees shades it leaves to allow it’s existence to continue.

it’s the only way that it can ensure it total survival. plant losses water through small holes by means of transpiration. blah blah science . All these learnt at school..

in times like dry season the tree shades it’s leaves complete and after while starts afresh.

All these got me thinking of our lives some times we are trees and sometimes we fail to be like trees. we hold on to people draining and undermining our ability, we hold on to toxic people. we hold on to them in the name of not destroying a friendship built for long time.

we hold on to them afraid of starting a fresh with new people. what we hold will surely be the death of us. we should understand that there people in seasons and most of the people we have are just leaves on a big tree.

For our survival we need to let some people that are merely just leaves on a tree to fall off…

what kind of people am i trying to say to you to let them off. Friends that can’t place your name in a room full of opportunity, friends that leave in moment of need, friends who hold you back from success, friend who discourages you not to reach your full potential.

summing it up trees are not told that it’s time to shade off or its time to grow again. they understand their environment and so do we, we are supposed to understand our environment we should know when to grow new friends and when to shade some old friends..

Bless Up
Emitty

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Mawazo Huru

Watu wanasema mchezo kwa nje ni mrahisi , ila ingia ndani uone au ucheze.

pia kuna ka-msemo kapo kanasema ukikaa kimya utasikia mengi ukiongea utatoa tu yale uyajuayo. Kwenye usafiri wa umma mara nyingi ndipo tunasikiaga vitu vingi na mengine tunajifunza.

sasa Leo nimevutiwa na mada uliyokuwa inaendelea juu ya mifumo ya ajira na elimu, mada hyo ilikuwa inaongelewa huku mimi nikiwa nashauku kubwa ya kusikia na kujifunza na si kusema wala kuchangia.

Raha ya mada hii kila level ya watu iliwakilishwa, wazazi na wanafunzi na wahitimu wasaka ajira.

maoni yao ni kama yafuatayo.
wazazi wanasema kwamba watoto wao wanaondoka wakiwa wadogo na wanarudi nyumbani baada ya muda mrefu wakiwa wamemaliza elimu ya chuo wakiwa wakubwa ila shida wanarudi wanasubiria kuajiriwa. Akaendelea kusema ni bora kungekuwa na masomo ya ujasiriamali katika shule na vyuo vyao hukoo.

(mtazamo wangu ni sawa kuwaza ivyo na vyuo vingi wanafanya kufundisha elimu ya ujasiriamali japo wanafunzi ndo hawana mawazo ya kujiongeza ila juhudi za kujenga akili za kibunifu ni juu ya mwanafunzi. Mwanafunzi akijijenga juu ya connection hapo hatoboi ndo tunapata jamii ya kusubiri mambo yao yaende pasipo mafanikio.)

kwa upande wa wahitimu. wahitimu yapo makundi mawili waliotoka kutoka diploma na degree. sasa wengi wanalalamika ajira mtaani amna na haya yote ni kisa serikali na taasisi ziajirizo hazitoi nafasi, na endapo zitatoa zinataka watu wenye uzoefu wa miaka si chini. ya mitatu kuendelea.

(mtazamo wangu ni kwamba mimi pia nashangazwa na nafasi zitolewazo kudai uzoefu na pia nafasi huwa nyingi, ila wahitimu tunapaswa kuwa wavumilivu ni bora kujenga jina kwa kujitolea pasipo malipo, na pia wengi tunafeli kwa uwoga wa kujaribu kutafuta kazi. wengi kwa uwoga wa kutokuwa wazoefu, embu tujaribu kuomba nafasi halafu tukajitengenezee jina angalau tuweke cv zetu kwenye ofisi zao ili pindi ikitokea nafasi ingine, sura yako si ngeni.

soko la ajira sasa hivi sawa ni gumu na si rahisi kama zamani na tukae tukijua kuwa wazazi wetu au walezi hawajapitia zama za kukosa kazi kihivyo, kipindi chao walikuwa elimu ndogo na kazi zipo. kwa hyo wahitimu wajiandae kisaikolojia kwa kukabiliana na wazazi wao.)

kwa upande wa wanafunzi walioko kwenye maandalizi ya kuingia mtaani. walikuwa wako kimya kwenye mdahalo ila mtazamo wangu ni huu, chuoni ndo sehemu ya kujiconnect na wadau wako. usiache hao marafiki usipoteane hao ndio marafiki watakaokuweka mjini pale unaposaka ajira.

pia usisite kujitolea pale nafasi zinapotokea, kaa vizuri na walimu wako hao ndio watakao kuweka pia mjini , nafasi nyingi zinapitia kwao za kazi pia kuwa na namba zao.)

haya yote ni mawazo huru na ni mawazo yangu ni ruksa kupinga au kurekebisha.

Je ww uko kwa kundi gani kati ya haya tuongee kwenye kiboxi la maoni
. na pia sio kila kitu cha kuchukua katika hili chagua size yako beba fanyia kazi kama yanafaa..

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Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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