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What You Eat

In a restaurant or grocery there will always be a list of food, we can order all but we don’t. we decide to pick some and eat then leave.

There are a lot ot menus in the world, what I mean is there are a lot of foods to eat and to be cooked and they can all be cooked under different techniques to raise different taste.

we all have different taste on our cuisine. The foods used in one part of the globe can be different from the other part of the globe.

we can eat all that if we decide too, but we sometimes have placed standard on what we eat and what we don’t .

In real life we can say the information around the globe is the food we choose on eating or taste. there are a lot of information going around us. we can’t eat all the information That’s out there what we can do is choose the quantity of what we eat and even decided on what not to eat.

we luck standards of what we digest any information we digest on it without processing the depth of it.

we should accept that not every information out there is for us to take in and process it. not everything we hear are ours to process, many relationship and stable connection are cancelled or die due to what we hear and decide to process. Be careful with the information that goes around you.

We live in a world that we eat what is around us , digest it no matter how  and release it

Bless Up. Emitty

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Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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Swahili Episodes

Mbele Kupo…

Kama jana nilikuacha unaelea basi nakuomba radhi ila soma tena halafu uendelee na ya leo.
Leo naanza kwa kusema ni jana tuliongelea vitu vichache kuhusu maisha baada ya chuo kuingia mtaani.
Haijalishi umechelewaje kufanya mambo ila kama imepangwa utoboe lazima utatoboa.

Tuongee uhalisia kuna watu makundi mawili pindi chuo kinafunguliwa au masomo yeyote yanapoanza.

Kundi la kwanza na la pili ni kama yafuatayo.
ni wale wanaojua wanasoma nini na wanajua nini kinawapeleka shule, halafu kuna kundi la watu wanaenda shule kwa sababu ndiyo hatua (the next stage) wanayotakiwa kuchukua. Mimi kiukweli sijui ulikuwa stage gani ila hapa ndio hatua ya kwanza ya kuweza kujisaidia kuingia mtaani.

Sasa kama ulikuwa unajua unafanya nini shule au huelewi mimi sio jaji wa maisha ila kuna jambo la kuchunguza mara nyingi kwa sisi ambao hatujielewi ni presha tulionao kutoka kwa mazingira tuliotoka ikiwemo kama mzazi mlezi au ndugu haya yote yanaletwa kwa sababu zifuatazo ninazozielewa

Kwanza Mifumo yao wanataka iwe yetu:
Kila mtoto au kila mtu ana mfumo wake wa malezi ukiangalia familia zenye mtoto zaidi ya mmoja ukiangalia wazazi ni wale wale ila kila mtoto ana namna ya malezi. sasa hili watu wengi hawajui na tunaishia kuona kama kila jinsi mtu anavyoishi ndivyo na sisi tunabidi tuishi. Hapana. “haijalishi umechelewaje kufanya mambo ila kama imepangwa utoboe lazima utatoboa” usijifananishe namna yako ya maisha
na namna ya maisha ya mtu mwingine. Si laumu ila wazazi wengi wanataka watoto waunge tela. wawe pale nyuma yao wafanye vile vile walivyofanya wakiwa vijana. Kama alikuwa daktari atataka mtoto wake awe daktari kwa hyo inabidi mtoto afuate kila njia aliyopitia.

Ya Majirani Kwetu
Saa ingine mafanikio au maneno ya watu huleta adhari kwenye maamuzi ya walezi au hata wazazi wetu. Utasikia wewe fulani kuwa kama mtoto wa fulani unaona kaenda chuo kachukua engineering kawa mtu wa serikali, bila kujali hata mtoto anataka nini sasa haya huleta shida kwa mtoto bila hata mzazi kujua kwa haraka.

Madhara yake ni wazi kwa maisha ya watoto mfano ni ngumu kufanya maamuzi binafsi.
Embu mtafute mwanafunzi aliyemaliza chuo kwa ngazi ya diploma au degree kwa haraka haraka muulize nini kinafuata? wengi watakuambia hawajui na wengi wanaona njia rahisi ni kuendelea kusoma si semi kusoma si jambo zuri ila naona kama ni njia ya kukimbia ukweli. jana tuliona suala zima la deadlines as mtu yuko rahisi kuendelea
kusoma kisa ndo njia rahisi kwake kuwa na control ya mambo yake. Ukiwa shule unnaweza kuwa na usukani wa mambo kisa ni mambo machache tu unayofanya ambayo utawaza tu ada,modules na wapi utapata chakula, mavazi na wapi utalala. ila mtaani life haieleweki mambo yanakuwaga mengi kiasi wengi wanaogopa ingia mtaani kupambana

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Swahili Episodes

Naenda, Ila Panaboa

Je life la kitaa vipi?
Wakati wote tumeshazoea kuwa na mipango endelevu
Tunapenda kuwa na uwezo wa kuhimili shida zijazo mbele zetu.
lakini mara nyingi hatuna uwezo kwa asilimia zote kuzuia kwa asilimia 100
mara nyingi zinakuwa sio shida zetu ila ni mipango ambayo haijakaa fresh.

Mazoea yetu kila siku yanajenga tabia ambayo mara kwa mara inakuwa ngumu kukwepa au sahau mapema. Kwanza ni jambo la kushukuru Mungu kwa hapo ulipofika, uzima afya na nguvu ulionayo sio mipango yako ila kila kitu kinaenda poa. Tuna uwezo wa kujikinga dhidi ya magonjwa kwa kuthibiti vyakula tulavyo na hata kufanya mazoezi.

Nilipishana na mwanachuo aliyekuwa amepaki vitu vyake ili aende nyumbani,
nikamuuliza vipi mbona unaonekana hauna raha wala kama vile hutaki kwenda huko unapokwenda. ndiye aliyenijibu
ninaenda ila panaboa.

Baada ya kumaliza mitihani yangu nimekuwa na mud amrefu kusikiliza watu walionitangulia, walioko na hali kama mimi na hata kusikiliza watu na mawazo tofauti tofauti. kila mtu ana usemi wake juu ya mambo tofauti tofauti ni sisi kusikiliza nna kujifunza

Mwanzo nilicheka ila baada ya muda mawazo yakanijia ya kwanini anasema kuwa nyumbani kunaboa?
Naomba niongee na wewe uliyemaliza chuo kwa ngazi yeyote na hauna mwelekeo haswa upi unaweza kutumia ili utoboe kwanza mimi sipo hapa kukupa mchongo ila nakuambia nilichojifunza kati ya wiki moja au mbili.

Deadline:

Katika maisha ya kiwanafunzi tumezoea kuishi kwa deadline, naweza sema deadline ni hali au ka kamba kadogo ambacho tunajitahidi kufanikisha mambo huku tunaning’inia kwa hiyo kamba. mara nyingi ubora wa kazi hauwi mzuri kisa ya kufanya kazi kwa pressure. Muda hatuutumii ipasavyo na hili tumelichukulia sawa
tu kisa ni mazoea, mazoea ni vyema kuyajenga ila tuaangalie tunajenga nini na tunajengea wapi. Sasahivi inakuwa ngumu kuanza maisha mtaani kisa mtaani hamna deadline kama shule na pia hakuna mtu wa kusimamia au kuweka uzito ule kama wa shule, na hii hali unakuta mtu yuko radhi kutamani kurudi shule baadala ya kuhustle mtaani.

Kupokea Pokea:

Chuoni kama ulikuwa unapokea mkopo hapa naomba niongee na wewe sio mbaya ila mazoea yaambatanayo na maisha unayoishi ya mkopo ndo tunayangalia.
mkopo unatumia sawa na boom ulikuwa nalo so umejizoesha kwamba hela ipo. na wengi tumezizoeza kwamba hela ipo na mara nyingi ni rahisi kumiss chuo kisa ya hela kuingia kirahisi rahisi.Mtaani usiingie na mtazamo huo utakata maini mapema na kuona mtaa mchungu.

Connections:

Umemaliza shule na unategemea connection ndo zitakuweka mjini, sawa kama hizo connection umejijengea mwenyewe hapo sawa ila kama ni connections ambazo ni
ndugu au wazazi au watu wa karibu wamezitengeneza na wewe unategemea kuishi nazo embu acha kuweka matarajio makubwa hapo. ukiwa chuo hicho kizazi ulichonacho au watu wanaokuzunguka ndio hao watakutoa katika hali uliopo ndo muda haswa wakutengeneza michongo na dili za kuelekweka . na usije sema nyumbani utapata michongo. Nyumbani hakuna michingo ukikaa nyumbani utajipotezea uukaribu na hawa watu. Na mara nyingi tunakuwa na level tofauti katika maisha kisa ya kujitenga na wanafunzi wenzetu, walimu na hata watu wengine .

ITAENDELEA

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When to Pay

Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash

If someone asks me, whats my take on life in terms of what we do and what we don’t do i would reply as follows

Everyone has used public transport here as in Tanzania that’s the common means of transportation and it has taken and employed a lot of people.

Now in public transport there will always be the driver and bus conductor and all of em sometimes we don’t know them.

And the means of collecting of the bus fare the bus conductor chooses whether to collect it in the beginning of the trip, middle of the trip or at the last stop of every passenger on the car..

Now, these are all cases of life one we sometimes don’t know our driving forces or at what time life will demand our potential at first.

We all forged in the first place with potentials that are hidden inside and we just wait until the bus conductor demands the fare.

All we have is that we have to accept that we are on a bus called life and at any point in our travel it will come around asking for what we are doing in the bus for ( the purpose of our being in ) the sole reason for our existence.

It’s within our power to agree that we all have destinations and we all have different lengths in our trip.

The driving force of our lives is not yet and somehow not knowing the driver.

Ever wondered what is my take when we don’t have enough but its necessary to take a bus with low cash on you ??? well next time.

Till then your life is full of scenarios that its best not questioning them but living them like it . for we don’t know what may come in front…

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Mind Your Standards

A Swahili line said “Usiwe kama jogoo akidhani kunakucha ili yeye tu Awike ” Translated to Don’t be like a cock thinking that the sun only rises for it to crow.

We say we have taste on different things, the taste we have are what we can call standards.

Life, aiiiiiiiii, Life has funny ways to prove us wrong and mostly it proves us wrong on what we have or what we are surrounded with. we put so much faith on what we have and we also put less faith sometimes from what we have too.

The first thing that life uses to prove us wrong is people, friends and family. We put standards due to our preference and taste we have undermine or underestimate people you meet, stay with, friends and even family. How many times have we been disappointed or been amazed by the people around us?

We judge, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate in the name of standards. These standards have create a blurry vision of making our selves righteous in-front of those who we have not give them chance to explain or prove them selves. we feel it’s right to do so but it’s not.

The funny thing about the standards we put on people are first way up and off the charts unreasonable. Second the standards we keep are not known to people, people fail to understand what we want from them or what they should do or how to interact with us.

A perfect example of what am saying is ever find a person angry with another person simply because the other person has not texted or call? The standard here place by the person is that the other person is responsible for finding them.

While the sad reality is You miss a person text or call never wait, you love a person tell them, you need something ask.

By doing so meaning by judging, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate we be like a cock and in our case we think we are a 100% perfect in-front of others.

Life does not work that way, we can’t live by putting standards that are not known we are all in a small circle called the globe with a lot of things in it. Don’t complicate life by adding more on the list and making headline to people’s problems

Eid – Mubarak

Bless up

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Sometime Let Go

Take a lesson from trees and its seasons

Come think of it our lives are similar or based on the life season of a tree, the benefits that a tree gives to the environment is the same as what we give to the surrounding. I am not saying you’re a tree but you can be and you should be a tree. Follow the season or life span of the tree. Simply because there are common traits we can relate from the life of a tree

The basic importance of the trees are many but some they give fruits, shades and give fresh air to the environment. Trees are very important to the earth since they give shades Some people find comfort not only to stay or have a person as a go-to person but some even secret keeper, soulmates, BFF – blessed friends forever, and more. These are basically the trees that offer shade, they provide comfort

Gives fresh air to the surrounding. Some people find wisdom and even great teachings from various people we call them personal trainers, guru, mentors, and life coaches. We are ready to settle down and listen to them for hours. They are considered trees that give fresh air.

Some trees provide fruits. Remember few posts back (https://bsafrique.home.blog/2020/04/20/realise-your-potential) we talked of a seed, just as tree comes from seeds that they have died and come out from the ground and hustled to bear fruits. The whole process is not a thing to see overnight but the process is for a long time

Now the tree teaches us the patience that what we are building now, the work or the things we do now are not a guarantee of overnight success, we normally think that there are shortcuts to success and we rush to take an easy way out of which there is no easy way out. Success starts from scratch just as the seed goes to the ground dies and starts growing from the dead seed. And you are in a corner lamenting why things are not moving it’s because that the seed you planted is on the stage of dying so it can start one.

You are a tree to someone either they are looking at you for shade or fruits, you are a tree. You are a solution to someone else your hard work will be the fruits we are talking about to your kids, parents, and even society. You preach about change and you are just there doing nothing. You’re a tree we want fruits from you. Be the change you want to see.

Sometimes the trees shade their leaves. This is an important concept that I want to run by you today. You as a tree it will reach a time that the fruits that you make have to fall off and even the leaves (People who are around you or you surround yourself with) sometimes you have to let them Go, detach yourself from them, for every season it comes you have to update your circle some people if they stick with you or you hold yourself to them they will drain you up and you will fail to survive the change of the season ahead of you.

Be careful with what you carry for leaves and what you bear as fruits, the fruits you bear now are the result of what you handled your self to stir them up the way the will or have become or come. Lamenting is a word in a dictionary of losers the way you are right now is a perfect role model picture for someone. Someone is looking up to you so never give up.

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A Stair Higher

Have you ever climbed stairs?

Have you ever experienced pain on the first or second step?

So from the two questions to ponder we can get the concept of pain and next or another level. If you have climbed stairs which is a common thing to anyone to do, we got buildings and places that requires us to get on top just by the use of staircases and these places can be flyovers, classes in our college premises, houses, shopping malls and even churches.

The stairs are sometimes used as a form of obstacle in training.

We’ve been through a series of classes where it involved us staying in that class for a particular time then we do a test or a terminal exam that will reveal how much we’ve learned throughout the period that we’ve been in the particular grade or class. Here there is a preschool where there are several classes such as baby class, kindergarten, pre-unit then followed by grade classes from grade I to grade VII, where the period is called primary school level, followed by ordinary level and then advanced level and so forth and so forth.

Am not trying to do a Thursday throwback or Friday flashback but i want to build my message theme from these two concepts, staircase theory and grade systems theory.

Both are similar just because they all have a starting point and have a destination, where they all end. They also support elevation as they elevate a person no matter the weight from lower grounds. Anyone in one higher level has a clear view from the top view of the bottom or previous level.

A mathematics equation of grade three to a third grader may seem hard but the same equation to the fourth and fifth grader is never a problem to them. Why? Because they have experienced it.

Experience is a very funny thing my friend once said. When you are experiencing something you see it hard, it feels impossible. But the moment you have done its easy to redo the same task that was hard for the first time.

Life is like a never-ending rollercoaster when you think you are at the top of the ride then you think it’s downhill from here, you see uneven bigger height/top-up ahead waiting to go up it.

Homie of mine .

Now on coming to the fact of pain and levels, they are co-relating to some instance, it’s easy to conclude and give up when you face a new challenge for the first time. When we in classes that had national exams the first thing that came to mind was giving up and in some times we got mixed up with mixed feelings of we are not enough and we can’t make it through, we literally created psychological pains to ourselves due to the new challenge that we haven’t turned them to experience yet.

Then after we have passed the exams we got a certain relief and we gained a momentum and the inside of how to be in pressure of performing.

In life, we get caught up with challenges in the first encounter and some thoughts that hinder us from getting over them take over and we just stuck in creating hopeless decisions. We are basically prohibiting ourselves from taking a step over.

The first steps ain’t painful simply because we have some people in higher stairs pulling us. Walking on our own, taking first steps – the baby steps are not a challenge just because we have parents watching over us. But as we advance by ourselves we start seeing challenges as hard as they have never been, by this time we need to know two things we have people who have already climbed the same stairs as we are at the moment and also keep on climbing.

One step done doesn’t mean it is over it means a new challenge unlocked in the next step and a new experience learned from a previous challenge. Never think of giving up, we hustle knowing that its just a step we need to raise our standard of thinking and just climb and aim higher

Bless Up

#We_are_what_we_think.

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BElieve YOUrself(Be You)

fruits

“You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life”

in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.

we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.

who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?

we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.

the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean  is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.

not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.

if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..

no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.

NF says the real you is when no one is watching,

it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are  not as we think people want us to address it.

Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex

One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.

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As Love As Hate…

“In a time where you have to give something, giving nothing is also something to be giving”

Few weeks back I was sent a writing challenge and it was all about writing about something you loved as if you hate it.

Photo credits : @reality_on_us

At first I was in a puzzle, I couldn’t understand the challenge so I had to ask the one who sent the question to ellaborate more for me.

Well up to now i haven’t written anything yet because I find it weird writing what i love as i hate it.

How many times are we like this challenge, we do act like we hate what we love. Its similar to pretence but I don’t want to put it that way. We apply this formulae in alot of ours stuffs to a point that we are seen as dramatic people.

Let me put it this way, yesterday was Mother’s day ( Happy belated mothers day mothers out there.), I saw alot of people posting nice words about their moms, I even got some new sweet words from them. To some it was genuine to others was just another social media post

What I am trying to say is even in relationship we don’t acknowledge directly the partner we have we are acting as kid and putting unnecessary drama to it, to an extent it turns to hate . The thing you once love turns to hate.

Am not an expert in relationship and maybe the words today wont hit you up due to the represent of it, but if i got to get something through to you is this. You can’t love it then you acting as you hate it, hoping the other side should interpret your drama as love, sometimes the hate stands out more outwardly more than the love and you may end up loosing it all.

“Bless up”

Emitty

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