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Pa…

Apart from today being Father’s Day, I had in me to write this article after watching “breakthrough” a movie about the powerful prayer of a parent.

Also I write this because of the nickname Baba Mzazi that I recently found myself been given.

Being a father or a Male parent is never easy neither being a mother but a father is a figure that has a different point of being viewed.

This article can’t be expressed only by a single person but since its my version. What scares me most about being a father is ?

I know time will reach and I’ll be a father, having kids is a fantastic dream but is also scary that what if the kids dont turn out the way you want? Our fathers or parents nurtured us to the way that we are right now, I’m who I’m now just because they dared to take care and nurture me through this road.

I was a kid back then and I know without a doubt that I was very stubborn growing up and reaching this level definitely I know I was stubborn. No need to be told I was. But they took care of me .

My greatest fear of becoming a father is will my kid keep my teachings, what I will tell him or her also what will I teach her or him? How can I protect my kids around this world of technology with everything you seek being available at my kid’s hand??

If this is your worries then welcome to the team, fathers to be… I haven’t figured the dad ship yet but what I know is that kids are always gonna learn from what they see their parent figure always do. How do I know that this is from me I’m here because I grabbed what my father was doing so the insecurities that comes from you taking care of the kids that you have or going to have all lies on the way you are around them.

” an apple doesn’t fall far from the apple tree.” You are your kids.

In the above statements I haven’t said that being a father is easy I just said it’s easy for kids learning from what they are exposed too.

Being a father is not a part time job or something that you do when you’re free but it’s always being there for the kid you have. Building up memories with them and in the end believing they are grownup enough to be the better version of you. So never teach a kid to be as you but better than you.

Cheers to dads in heaven
Cheers to dads in earth
Cheers to dads to be..
Happy fathers day

Bless up
Emitty

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Fireback

Mkuki kwa nguruwe ni mtamu kwa binadamu mchungu, this is a swahili proverb that strike me today not in a bad way but in a good way.

We tend to develop that habit to do stuffs on other people without thinking of what impact it has on the other person who we have impacted.

We are also build to develop a certain level of prioritization, if something doesn’t make it to the priority list then it’s of the list and has no power of our attention, so some stuff seems that we dont have time for but in reality it’s just it has not be shaped to make it for the priority list.

Today someone very close to me, used the same words that I have been using as a form of policy or philosophy of which I live by, I usually say that I’m no one much I was born to live and help others then die.

So the philosophy has been embedded in me that I just do then and move on, never neglect anyone if I can help then i just help.

But today i was in need of help and after I recieved the help and after me saying how grateful for the help I was I got the same phrase.

Words are the most powerful tool ever made in the world, we can’t undo what we once say and in some circumstances word is taken as an oath, even some faith are built in the spoken words, we should shoot our words

You know in life we are embedded with philosophy that have already build up habit and for ourselves it’s hard to appreciate it because it’s more of a life style, but getting a person firing it back to you the same philosophy that you use, it acts like an ignition to do more.

In the life where doing nothing is something I decide to do more , love,give, live,enjoy, stay, and refresh more.

Bless up
Emitty.

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Main-ten-ance

From unrelational perspective from what will be said on time to come is that there is a portion of either physical or logical resources that you should directly or indirectly invest to a person very close to you.

The expense is usually undertaken voluntarily with specific aims to uproot the bond in any relationship. For relationship – couples and lovers this can covers from outing,shopping and many more just to seal the nail of love between each other

I recall some course called electrical measurements there was a topic that was called maintenance and preventive measures, where the tutor said there is two types of maintenance

One before a problem happening that is maintaining health status of the device and the second was maintenance done after a problem just to resolve the problem back to it health status.

And it also appears some of us do the same in life have either the healthy maintenance or the aftermath maintenance, the healthy maintenance of anything is like the one that you take precaution that is not needed but it’s sometimes necessary.

A once eavesdrop a conversation between some roommates and they were arguing on dates and gifts just after a partner said yes, they went on arguing and some said they prepare a budget of expenses that they are will to incur just to go for an expensive date and dinner but then after they got the yes the budget disappears.

But one guy told the others, there must be a maintenance cost that is more of a logical budget that comes out as a surprise and always it’s not fixed. He uses it as an insurance to his partner to show that he still cares.

Most of us are ready to incur aftermath maintenance but neglect the healthy maintenance in life, we fail to take earlier measure and find ourselves incurring more than it should.

Am no relationship guru, but surprise dates and dinners wont kill you if you take him/her out once in a while, saying how you really feel here and then wont harm you at all. But we let pride run to our head and we neglect what should really be done.

Be a dear and take the step of upholding some healthy maintenance..

Bless up
Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Emitty

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Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Bless up
Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

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Emitty

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Loaded Gun

With what is going on around the world after being hit with the covid-19 and people wearing masks, I thought to my self it’s a great lessons that we are to learn, we limit our words and we wash off any associations we have carry as to just watch and listen which are great methods to learn.

Met with the questions 2 ears, 2 eyes but why 1 mouth.. ?

Pro 18:21 BBE Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.

A mans thought is build from what s/he heard but that doesn’t bring bigger changes like what you say,they say words are priceless but words out of a person’s can cost him.

So it’s clearly that what we say unto others and ourselves are always responsible for everything else

Mind clearly works by what is said, if you accept yourself as a failure then what the mind does its just a matter of bringing the correct amount of identifiers or symptoms that will bring the correct failure results.

There is a swahili swahili people saying “ukiwaza tu unakuwa” well the funny thing while growing was that we usually had to drink water that was not boiled because most of the times the boil water was always hot and the best option was water from the tap .

But having caring parent we usually were canned, when caught at the act of drink water from the tap.

We were always told that we will get diseases and they wont incur any cost to take us to an hospital or getting medicines. That didn’t affect us just because we always said that say “ukiwaza tu inakuwa”

Quoting my favourite artist NF “The point I’m makin’ is the mind is a powerful place
And what you feed it can affect you in a powerful way
It’s pretty cool, right? Yeah, but it’s not always safe
Just hang with me, this’ll only take a moment, okay?
Just think about it for a second, if you look at your face
Every day when you get up and think you’ll never be great
You’ll never be great, not because you’re not, but the hate
Will always find a way to cut you up and murder your faith (woo!) – THE SEARCH “

What am trying to say is that what really matters is how we control the words that come out of mouth, it’s easy to say a word but hard to return once said. It’s like living with loaded gun that the safety is off. Once its shot the bullet can’t be returned..

So whatever you are going through the trigger was once your words be careful. Though I dont have any proof of the connections between our mind, words that we say and reality, but i have lived to see what I say by mouth come to reality..

Bless up

Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
Bless up
Emitty

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Upside down

Hello there, as we celebrating the beginning of the new year, I wanna talk to a person who found him or her self worthless and took a decision to live someone else’s life, to a person who thought that he/she could not fit in a certain group of people, to a person who was or is in plans to do his or her stuff but still thinking on what people gonna say about it.

Let me ask you one thing, for how long will you live your life while driven with other people’s words or views?(“like they want you be like this be like that”). You really need to put an end to this because there’s no any day that you will really feel yourself because you’ll always be living some other people’s life in a way that it never gives you a chance to excel the you.

As now you in a new year, why don’t you just start appreciating the you and just help yourself to be you and do your own things in your own way coz there was never and there will never be someone who is there to remote control your life just because they want you to live the way they want you to. It’s some sort of slavery I can say. You have your unique ways of living your life or doing your things without caring what people gonna say about you . You just need to close your ears and eyes and put a step forward to what you want to do and you’ll see how great you are and even people who wanted you to live the way they wanted you, you’ll find respect in them and you’ll get them so surprised that you leave them mouth open and they may even come to you and ask how do you do, how did you make it happen. This is your year do your things in your way, make it be an upside down magic life.

Happy New year 2021

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No other colors ?

The black and white picture

in the earlier days, yes i Know some of you weren’t born yet the first TV’s and cameras gave a monochrome pictures or videos, also the videos had no sound in the earlier days.

The colors involved were black and white only no any other colors were able to be produced, there is a technical explanation to all that but i wont bother you with the technical hepee jeepes of the mechanism of the pictures or videos.

But the concept that i want you to have is the bright colors would acquired the white color and dark colors would acquire the black color.
this is the concept

Same applies to life we are just like the old monochrome tv, its easy to judge, react or get disappointed or dissatisfaction because we just know half of the color… a single error done by a person we term it as a point for a greater judgement and we don’t give room to ask questions.

we easily be judges and lawyers when someone has wrong us without asking questions. we never give a room for a person to say or State why s/he has done why all these ??

we all act sometimes like monochrome tv were all the darks we only see dark and not light and all the white we see only white.

sometimes even good people are bad at making good decision. and we are never perfect all hundred percent. we have some dark portion that have a white reasons but we never get a chance to represent our why’s but what people see is the dark..

learn not to settle for only whites pr blacks in your life .. learn to give yourself a chance to learn the why’s to a person’s actions…

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