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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

Bless Up
Emitty

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Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season Uncategorized

Mind Block

The pass few weeks have been in a state called writer’s block.

imagine it has when you drive or ride a car and you come to a dead end, or a point that you can’t go forward as the way you were going or think you would go.

so by definition given by Google, hehehe writers block is a condition, primarily associated with writing
in which an author loses the ability to produce new work or experiences a creative slowdown. This loss of ability to write and produce new work is not a result of commitment problems or the lack of writing skills. The condition ranges from difficulty in coming up with original ideas to being unable to produce a work for years. Writer’s block is not solely measured by time passing without writing. It is measured by time passing without productivity in the task at hand.

I’ve been falling to this situation not once not twice but more times than i remember and the funny part is that this is not a disease but its a mental state, its all in the head.

I’ve been having titles to many articles and even some of them writings half a paragraph then stuck but others only a single word, which it always works when i have noted down a single word ideas falls through and i start writing down but when in WB I mostly find myself staring at my notepad with no words to write down..

what i wanna show you is in the backstage to all our articles they lay alot of unpublished articles.

Some few times i usually pick my kid brother from school and in his school they have this tap where they drink the water, as i was taking him off school to home i felt thirsty and decided to go drink some water in found a very long line so i decided to join it and off it started to move slowly till it was my turn. as i was moving along it opened my eyes as if the people in front of me and behind me they were all unfinished projects.

they’re unfinished projects until the primary goal of drinking water has been completed, the line showed me i was that all projects were leading to the same goal so i should learn to make them move one at a time and also see them through one at a time not to hesitate. and if it reaches to a point that i should pile them up pile em in a manner that you can work them out to the end to the end.

See in life we come into deadblocks because of just piling alot of things in our plates thinking that its easy to just place them some where but in the end we have alot to handle all because of piling them up.

learn to regulate what is on your plate as what comes in your mind and execute on thing to the end never be fast to procrastinate what you have in your mind.

Bless up
Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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Its Not Permanent

Ever plan to do something and when in the process of doing it nothing is moving, have you ever had that one perfect plan laid out for you in your head and in turn to perfect it still doesn’t go through ?

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I know you have taken series of exams, test, assignment and more papers that were all done in a certain hall.

Few days back I went to my status and posted “what is the name you give to the place you did the exams?
The answers were restless and they were super amazing but also I learnt something…

What I wanna share to you is that in life everything is like an exam you are given a set of exams and boom your in a cage that is given to you a worker is given that work as an exam and the workplace is the hall that is given.  a driver is given an exams to drive without accident and reach the destination and the car is the hall where exams are done.

Now i know you have got this pictured but add this to your imagination its not the hall but its the exams that you have done. We have to learn that not all exams are the same but know that you can be in the same hall with your neighbor. And still the neighbor could be of no help, so in life you have to see that when you are in a situation you have to own it, it’s yours and there is no a Better way to fight it if you don’t take the initiative to fight it. Never complain when you don’t get help because each person has his ot her own exams to answer, challenge to react too.

The challenges you face in the exams  are the same as the ones that you fae in reality, the exams were designed to offer you a glimpse of what to expect in the real world. The fact you can panic and also fail to do anything in  the exam room is the same as what you can do in real life, when trouble hits and hits you bad its not time to panic nor stuck as a paralysed person you should collect your self, settle down and gather strength because its all that you gat the exams (challenges ).

With time involved everything else is temporary

David Benedict Zumbo

In life every situation you see is not permanent so lets not waste time thinking of a temporary situation but be of attention to it and learn what lesson it holds …

Bless up

Emitty…

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life Uncategorized

Opposite Sides…

Every one has a path to go through alone…

Have you ever gone to a place where you know the location partially and all the odd of getting lost are 1 to nil of getting there.

You hook yourself up with Google map and still you fail to get the right location. Ask for directions and many ways to get there and yet fail.

In this state is where you can try going any way that your guts tells you to go. Go left you go left, Go right you go left without hesitation or with lesser hesitation and if you get lost you go back to the junction you made the wrong turn and go opposite…

Now that’s a very vivid illustration that brings us to the following questions…

We make friends and the friends made are very great of an influence to our decision.

I know you know where am going with this. why don’t we follow our guts and just go the opposite way even if it doesn’t add up. why should follow somebody else’s direction ?

How many times have you got lost in your way, its much better to get lost in your way rather than getting lost in someone else way..

Our guts never gets us lost. follow your path.. Everyone has that one path you should go through alone.
Never allow anyone to chose your path…

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life & sports

Life as sports.

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Ever think of life as sports? In terms of football, basket ball or netball … well come to think of it, it’s more like it.. you playing the role of a coach and sometimes even the key player yourself …

The format of playing or formation is basically the plans you layout in order to achieve your desired goals. 4-4-2 (medium effort medium stress short results ) 5-4-1(maximum effort medium stress shorter results ) 4-3-3 (medium effort minimum stress results ) its just all about format or formation of how you play with your opponent “life” as for those people who hate football or other sports in that case it’s the same way people hate life … Please bare with me. If life is a sport .. it’s up to us to decide if the game is friendly, international or championship…. Our normal routine can be our friendly matches, then our big hustle and the game changers can be championships and our new start ups can be the international matches.

Monday to Sunday routine can be our friendly match from this point of view you do normal stuff without engaging new stuff so its just a match where when you loose or win nothing changes. Championship game is like the big exams that will make you shift from grade to grade, level to another level , that big interview that will land you a job or not, the heavy decision like getting married or buying a house having kids.

In short we’re just playing and it’s all about tactics and always the best way is to gain experience. When we loose it doesn’t mean we drop the game, what we do, we retreat, regroup then replay that’s how the game goes… you want to go for a game (wanna tackle something big or great for you in life , choose your format, study your opponent and hustle enough, train to the maximum then go with your head held high and tackle your opponent .) nothing comes easy and every success is a product of a good plan, hours of training to a perfection level and never giving up attitude (persistence).

Bless up …

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