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Hohohohoo Mask Off…

lets keep the Halloween spirit running , Happy Halloween to y’all.

lets talk history, according to history.com. Halloween is a holiday celebrated each year on October 31, and Halloween 2020 will occur on Saturday, October 31. The tradition originated with the ancient Celtic festival of Samhain, when people would light bonfires and wear costumes to ward off ghosts. In the eighth century, Pope Gregory III designated November 1 as a time to honor all saints. Soon, All Saints Day incorporated some of the traditions of Samhain. The evening before was known as All Hallows Eve, and later Halloween. Over time, Halloween evolved into a day of activities like trick-or-treating, carving jack-o-lanterns, festive gatherings, donning costumes and eating treats.

now let’s talk about masks and costumes, on a day like Halloween we dress up like some famous or some other people that had a positive or negative reputation,

on a robbery, the will put on something else, let us recall on trending series like money heist the robbers wore something to cover their faces and even other robbers wear masks to hide their identities.

for kids party we put on masks, masquerade and other costumes to make the kids happy.

now costumes and mask have played a great role in achieving many things it can be for enjoyment, amusement and even for bad deeds such as robberies and sometimes even mass killings.

some people use mask to create confidence and sometimes hide from the other people to avoid recognition.

come think of it, our lives are sometimes based on masks and costumes. you’ll say yes we put on for a good reason but what am improvising or what am saying it’s not the physical masks we put but its the PRETENCE and FAKING that we do daily inorder for people to see our version that we have decided to show them.

we fake life, pretend on emotions and sometimes imitating others, simply because we think its the right way to fit in. we long for acceptance but in the end we are dying inside for what we think is right turning not to be as what we expect.

we stay on characters while we are with people and we feed them some picture that is not real us.

Enough of the masks and costumes, lets just shade them off, be the real us. you know being you makes you comfortable and confident for anything that you’ll take or do because you are the always you. you’re familiar with you and you don’t need someone to tell you how to behave. Grow up your you is the only you needed for the world to see..

Bless Up
Emitty

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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

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Daily Chores

powered by a long boring travel back home.

Daily chores, there are a lot of chores that we do , these chores can’t be escaped, we repeat em over and over and over. Making coffee or breakfast, lunch and even dinner, washing dishes, laundry and general cleanliness.

In doing these chores sometimes we do everyday or weekly. chores are always there to be done and if we ignore them they always will keep on piling until you have no options but to perform them.

utensils washing to be honest i hate Washing them but everyday we have to wash them now. what I’ve observed it’s that we all have our styles to approach this task.

its by either when we done using the utensil we wash em. that’s use and wash procedure. this is approach one

approach two, wait them to pile up and boom wash it in the morning or after the day has ended.

Now all these approaches are acceptable but we can apply this into real life. sometimes in life we have daily problems and stuff that are generated daily as we live with people around us.

the use utensils (frustrations, depression, anxiety , fears, worries, doubt, dilemma and every other related problems all happen and the two approaches can be used here.

take a moment and evaluate yourself what approach do you use in tackling your problems do you deal with them as they happen or you wait and pile problems to problems ?

i don’t mean to judge or anything but if you are dealing with them as it appears, well and fine. but some of us we wait a problem to have uncles and aunties as we wait on an problem to be huge to carry and handle to such an extent of being a bigger issue to deal with…

so examine your method am not a doctor or therapist to tell you how to deal with your issues, but i once read that ignoring your problems doesn’t mean you have solve your problems. in other words piling up your problems doesn’t mean you have solved them.

the bigger the burden the more you’ll have troubles finish and compiling all of them.

so today want to say evaluate your methods eliminate problems as they come, never let them pile but work your way through problems not running by piling.

Bless Up
Emitty

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Mawazo Huru

Watu wanasema mchezo kwa nje ni mrahisi , ila ingia ndani uone au ucheze.

pia kuna ka-msemo kapo kanasema ukikaa kimya utasikia mengi ukiongea utatoa tu yale uyajuayo. Kwenye usafiri wa umma mara nyingi ndipo tunasikiaga vitu vingi na mengine tunajifunza.

sasa Leo nimevutiwa na mada uliyokuwa inaendelea juu ya mifumo ya ajira na elimu, mada hyo ilikuwa inaongelewa huku mimi nikiwa nashauku kubwa ya kusikia na kujifunza na si kusema wala kuchangia.

Raha ya mada hii kila level ya watu iliwakilishwa, wazazi na wanafunzi na wahitimu wasaka ajira.

maoni yao ni kama yafuatayo.
wazazi wanasema kwamba watoto wao wanaondoka wakiwa wadogo na wanarudi nyumbani baada ya muda mrefu wakiwa wamemaliza elimu ya chuo wakiwa wakubwa ila shida wanarudi wanasubiria kuajiriwa. Akaendelea kusema ni bora kungekuwa na masomo ya ujasiriamali katika shule na vyuo vyao hukoo.

(mtazamo wangu ni sawa kuwaza ivyo na vyuo vingi wanafanya kufundisha elimu ya ujasiriamali japo wanafunzi ndo hawana mawazo ya kujiongeza ila juhudi za kujenga akili za kibunifu ni juu ya mwanafunzi. Mwanafunzi akijijenga juu ya connection hapo hatoboi ndo tunapata jamii ya kusubiri mambo yao yaende pasipo mafanikio.)

kwa upande wa wahitimu. wahitimu yapo makundi mawili waliotoka kutoka diploma na degree. sasa wengi wanalalamika ajira mtaani amna na haya yote ni kisa serikali na taasisi ziajirizo hazitoi nafasi, na endapo zitatoa zinataka watu wenye uzoefu wa miaka si chini. ya mitatu kuendelea.

(mtazamo wangu ni kwamba mimi pia nashangazwa na nafasi zitolewazo kudai uzoefu na pia nafasi huwa nyingi, ila wahitimu tunapaswa kuwa wavumilivu ni bora kujenga jina kwa kujitolea pasipo malipo, na pia wengi tunafeli kwa uwoga wa kujaribu kutafuta kazi. wengi kwa uwoga wa kutokuwa wazoefu, embu tujaribu kuomba nafasi halafu tukajitengenezee jina angalau tuweke cv zetu kwenye ofisi zao ili pindi ikitokea nafasi ingine, sura yako si ngeni.

soko la ajira sasa hivi sawa ni gumu na si rahisi kama zamani na tukae tukijua kuwa wazazi wetu au walezi hawajapitia zama za kukosa kazi kihivyo, kipindi chao walikuwa elimu ndogo na kazi zipo. kwa hyo wahitimu wajiandae kisaikolojia kwa kukabiliana na wazazi wao.)

kwa upande wa wanafunzi walioko kwenye maandalizi ya kuingia mtaani. walikuwa wako kimya kwenye mdahalo ila mtazamo wangu ni huu, chuoni ndo sehemu ya kujiconnect na wadau wako. usiache hao marafiki usipoteane hao ndio marafiki watakaokuweka mjini pale unaposaka ajira.

pia usisite kujitolea pale nafasi zinapotokea, kaa vizuri na walimu wako hao ndio watakao kuweka pia mjini , nafasi nyingi zinapitia kwao za kazi pia kuwa na namba zao.)

haya yote ni mawazo huru na ni mawazo yangu ni ruksa kupinga au kurekebisha.

Je ww uko kwa kundi gani kati ya haya tuongee kwenye kiboxi la maoni
. na pia sio kila kitu cha kuchukua katika hili chagua size yako beba fanyia kazi kama yanafaa..

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What You Eat

In a restaurant or grocery there will always be a list of food, we can order all but we don’t. we decide to pick some and eat then leave.

There are a lot ot menus in the world, what I mean is there are a lot of foods to eat and to be cooked and they can all be cooked under different techniques to raise different taste.

we all have different taste on our cuisine. The foods used in one part of the globe can be different from the other part of the globe.

we can eat all that if we decide too, but we sometimes have placed standard on what we eat and what we don’t .

In real life we can say the information around the globe is the food we choose on eating or taste. there are a lot of information going around us. we can’t eat all the information That’s out there what we can do is choose the quantity of what we eat and even decided on what not to eat.

we luck standards of what we digest any information we digest on it without processing the depth of it.

we should accept that not every information out there is for us to take in and process it. not everything we hear are ours to process, many relationship and stable connection are cancelled or die due to what we hear and decide to process. Be careful with the information that goes around you.

We live in a world that we eat what is around us , digest it no matter how  and release it

Bless Up. Emitty

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Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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When to Pay

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If someone asks me, whats my take on life in terms of what we do and what we don’t do i would reply as follows

Everyone has used public transport here as in Tanzania that’s the common means of transportation and it has taken and employed a lot of people.

Now in public transport there will always be the driver and bus conductor and all of em sometimes we don’t know them.

And the means of collecting of the bus fare the bus conductor chooses whether to collect it in the beginning of the trip, middle of the trip or at the last stop of every passenger on the car..

Now, these are all cases of life one we sometimes don’t know our driving forces or at what time life will demand our potential at first.

We all forged in the first place with potentials that are hidden inside and we just wait until the bus conductor demands the fare.

All we have is that we have to accept that we are on a bus called life and at any point in our travel it will come around asking for what we are doing in the bus for ( the purpose of our being in ) the sole reason for our existence.

It’s within our power to agree that we all have destinations and we all have different lengths in our trip.

The driving force of our lives is not yet and somehow not knowing the driver.

Ever wondered what is my take when we don’t have enough but its necessary to take a bus with low cash on you ??? well next time.

Till then your life is full of scenarios that its best not questioning them but living them like it . for we don’t know what may come in front…

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What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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Pay It Foward

Reflection.
Do good and the good will come back to you.

One day a mother and her son were having good time together, suddenly the mother started coughing and having a hard time in breathing, the son knew what she was suffering from (Asthma) but did not know how to help his mother because she had no any inhaler with her. The boy got out and went to a pharmacy so that he could help his mother get an inhaler. He reached there and found himself with no money. Remembering his mother’s situation back home he was not left with choice but to steal one of the inhalers that were being sold in that pharmacy. The seller saw him stealing and started chasing him, when they were out in a Chase the seller finally caught him in a corner and banged him on a wall so hard, he started questioning him, the kid knowing his mother’s condition tried fighting back. Then appeared a woman and asked what’s the chaos all about and the seller said that the kid stole an inhaler from his pharmacy and the kid replied I have no money I’m just trying to help my mom she’s sick, she’s dying. That woman looked at the kid and asked the seller how much the inhaler cost, the seller told her the amount. The woman dug into her purse and gave out the amount that was mentioned and the seller left. The kid was so surprised by the action that the woman did and he had to ask her “you do not know me neither have we met before,why did you help me?”. The woman looked at the kid and gave him a piece of paper and told him go help your mother. When he reached home, he gave his mother the inhaler and the mother got saved from the situation. The kid went in his room and opened that piece of paper and he saw these words PAY IT FORWARD.

Years passed and the kid grew up into a doctor. One day a patient came and had no enough money to pay for the treatments. The one attending to the patient told her that “we can’t help you so you just go back and look for somebody who can give the help”. Over a sudden that kid (currently the doctor) came inside that very room and told the one attending the patient “I’ll be in charge of everything just leave it all to me”. The patient was then helped,given a room and a bed to sleep so as she could be treated. After a while the doctor(kid) went inside the room where the patient lied and asked about her wellbeing. She was so thankful for what the doctor did to her. But she was in a doubt and had to ask why did you help me? The doctor smiled and took a paper from his coat and gave it to the woman it was written “PAY IT FORWARD”.

This woman was the very same lady who helped the doctor the other day back in time.

What you reap is what you sow. Just as the Newton’s third law state “For every action there is an equal but opposite reaction”. Just do good and the good will definitely come back to you.

Bless up.

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We as Trees..

Ever wanted to be born in a different family, region or country than the one you are in right now? Have you ever wished you could apply for a change pf parents?

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Some of us love our environment and we would do campaigns to influence people to plant trees and preserve the natural vegetation.

If you are one of them well and good, i personally appreciate your efforts but today am raising a topic from that side of view.

In order for a tree to survive or to grow it needs water or moisture, soil and also sunshine helps with the photosynthesis which is the process of making its own food. I’ll not go in deep into the biology but this is the basic concept.

Now also we need all the similar facts for growth we need water in terms of knowledge, this will allow us to not only develop but to get off the seed of ignorance. when we are watered as in terms of acquiring knowledge we will grow.

Soil is the environment that we are the parents, friends and relatives they play the role of soil as in trees.

Sunshine in this perspective let me give the opportunities around us, sunshine help the tree grow also opportunity help to move from one point to another, level to level and so forth. grab all opportunity that arise daily. Because if a tree fails to get sunshine it remains the same level.

After a tree is full grown its either used for shade and also fruits and oxygen provision also accumulation of carbon dioxide in the daylight and oxygen at night.

After we grow its not only useful for us but also we are useful to the surrounding too. we can be a source of replica of ourselves where we train others to be as us.

But let also know that when we are too much good for the environment the surrounding will try to cut us down and make us into other products

Well the above are facts that are well known and now some facts that are known but not taken into consideration seriously.

The tree or the seed that brings the tree doesn’t choose were it should grow, it accepts the ground and try to fight so it can grow.

The good book once said of a man who wanted to plant seed on the farm and some seeds failed to get into the good soil while some seeds made it to the good soil some were eaten by birds, some went into thorns.

The concept here is the seed has to realize that its of great potential even if is at the stage of seed or a tree and if it realizes that its the first stage to fight more to grow more

Same as us we can’t choose were to be born. that is why earlier the question was did you ever wanted to change where you were born, the family you are into ?

A tree has to deal with the condition that has been planted on. It cant complain that ooh i have been planted in no good condition, i can’t grow better. but it still grow

It does not need you to complain but it only require you to shift your mind into what you are surrounded with and then just work with…

Bless Up

Emitty
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