Tag: love

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health

Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

We Are Trees II

I know you don’t care but yes i was on a bus while writing this piece and what i recall was my biology class while I was thinking of what the education that I have and how i apply it to the real world.

I recall my biology teacher came in class and started to teach about transpiration and plants ways to do regulation and the terms i remember are like osmoregulation

Now there are four seasons which are summer, winter , autumn and spring. i don’t know much about the weather and that will be geography now.

but this seasons have a specific time or period to take into effect. And during dry season the trees shades it leaves to allow it’s existence to continue.

it’s the only way that it can ensure it total survival. plant losses water through small holes by means of transpiration. blah blah science . All these learnt at school..

in times like dry season the tree shades it’s leaves complete and after while starts afresh.

All these got me thinking of our lives some times we are trees and sometimes we fail to be like trees. we hold on to people draining and undermining our ability, we hold on to toxic people. we hold on to them in the name of not destroying a friendship built for long time.

we hold on to them afraid of starting a fresh with new people. what we hold will surely be the death of us. we should understand that there people in seasons and most of the people we have are just leaves on a big tree.

For our survival we need to let some people that are merely just leaves on a tree to fall off…

what kind of people am i trying to say to you to let them off. Friends that can’t place your name in a room full of opportunity, friends that leave in moment of need, friends who hold you back from success, friend who discourages you not to reach your full potential.

summing it up trees are not told that it’s time to shade off or its time to grow again. they understand their environment and so do we, we are supposed to understand our environment we should know when to grow new friends and when to shade some old friends..

Bless Up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Mind Your Standards

A Swahili line said “Usiwe kama jogoo akidhani kunakucha ili yeye tu Awike ” Translated to Don’t be like a cock thinking that the sun only rises for it to crow.

We say we have taste on different things, the taste we have are what we can call standards.

Life, aiiiiiiiii, Life has funny ways to prove us wrong and mostly it proves us wrong on what we have or what we are surrounded with. we put so much faith on what we have and we also put less faith sometimes from what we have too.

The first thing that life uses to prove us wrong is people, friends and family. We put standards due to our preference and taste we have undermine or underestimate people you meet, stay with, friends and even family. How many times have we been disappointed or been amazed by the people around us?

We judge, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate in the name of standards. These standards have create a blurry vision of making our selves righteous in-front of those who we have not give them chance to explain or prove them selves. we feel it’s right to do so but it’s not.

The funny thing about the standards we put on people are first way up and off the charts unreasonable. Second the standards we keep are not known to people, people fail to understand what we want from them or what they should do or how to interact with us.

A perfect example of what am saying is ever find a person angry with another person simply because the other person has not texted or call? The standard here place by the person is that the other person is responsible for finding them.

While the sad reality is You miss a person text or call never wait, you love a person tell them, you need something ask.

By doing so meaning by judging, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate we be like a cock and in our case we think we are a 100% perfect in-front of others.

Life does not work that way, we can’t live by putting standards that are not known we are all in a small circle called the globe with a lot of things in it. Don’t complicate life by adding more on the list and making headline to people’s problems

Eid – Mubarak

Bless up

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

How do you get to value the gift given

is it right for the gift giver to ask you on the use of the gift given to you?

Let me start with these two short stories.

Once upon a time there were two friends who used to live together as family. One day Andrew told Adrian that he will be taking a trip to the US. Adrian was so happy for his fellow. So the day came and Andrew left for the US. Days and weeks and months passed, Andrew remembered his friend Adrian and sent him a gift. He sent him a very beautiful woolen jacket. Adrian received the jacket and was so happy. After two years of Andrew’s stay in the US he decided to come back home. The day he got back he saw his friend and was happy to be back home again. He then asked Adrian, where is the jacket I sent you as a gift? In a glimpse of suprise Andrew saw the jacket at the dog’s kennel it being used to give warmth to those dogs. Andrew got disappointed and said nothing about it and he went inside.

I hope we getting something here

Story 2

In the middle of the great lahulu forest lived a family, a husband and his pregnant wife in a very big tree house. It did not take time, the wife gave birth to a handsome baby boy(gift of life). They were so happy to have the baby with them. One night while they were sleeping they were attacked by the dangerous animal forests. The husband tried his best to keep his family but he failed, he was eaten and the wife too but the baby survived the attack. After that night of the attack, very early in the morning there were hunters who were passing by and heard the baby cry,they asked themselves where is that cry coming from, when they looked up they saw a tree house. Two of the men climbed in and saw the little baby crying and helpless. They took him and decided to stay with him, raised him to a very strong young man. After few years the boy started acting strange, he suddenly turned to a robber,robbing people’s things in the community where he was raised and in the end he got killed with angry people in that society.

What do we get to learn from these two stories.

The first story tells us about a woolen jacket given to Adrian and it was turned to a warmth keeper for dogs. Try keeping yourself in Andrew’s shoes, if it were you how would you feel? The expense and the time you used to get him the jacket was never valued.

The second story, the baby boy who was born was given a gift of life but where did he end? Being a robber. Ghaaii this hurts. You are given life and get to misuse it. The good book says that God created us so as we can worship Him, apart from that He created us to take possession of everything that’s on this Earth. If He gifted us life to do so, then why we turn to be bad people? Why we turn to be people who are disgrace to families, society and to the whole world? You are given life to live, enjoy and use what you are given to bless others.

Get to ask yourself today, do you get tot value the gift you are given? Let’s get to treasure what’s gifted for us,as we do so we get to open more doors for more goods to come and we get to bless the hearts of those who give the gifts to us.

Bless up

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

BElieve YOUrself(Be You)

fruits

“You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life”

in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.

we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.

who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?

we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.

the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean  is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.

not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.

if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..

no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.

NF says the real you is when no one is watching,

it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are  not as we think people want us to address it.

Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex

One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge season

As Love As Hate…

“In a time where you have to give something, giving nothing is also something to be giving”

Few weeks back I was sent a writing challenge and it was all about writing about something you loved as if you hate it.

Photo credits : @reality_on_us

At first I was in a puzzle, I couldn’t understand the challenge so I had to ask the one who sent the question to ellaborate more for me.

Well up to now i haven’t written anything yet because I find it weird writing what i love as i hate it.

How many times are we like this challenge, we do act like we hate what we love. Its similar to pretence but I don’t want to put it that way. We apply this formulae in alot of ours stuffs to a point that we are seen as dramatic people.

Let me put it this way, yesterday was Mother’s day ( Happy belated mothers day mothers out there.), I saw alot of people posting nice words about their moms, I even got some new sweet words from them. To some it was genuine to others was just another social media post

What I am trying to say is even in relationship we don’t acknowledge directly the partner we have we are acting as kid and putting unnecessary drama to it, to an extent it turns to hate . The thing you once love turns to hate.

Am not an expert in relationship and maybe the words today wont hit you up due to the represent of it, but if i got to get something through to you is this. You can’t love it then you acting as you hate it, hoping the other side should interpret your drama as love, sometimes the hate stands out more outwardly more than the love and you may end up loosing it all.

“Bless up”

Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking life & sports

The Player Outside

let me run this by you real quick. Ever been in a competitive game against an opponent (friend) and you only see one way to play but then comes a person outside the game and says there are plenty of choices to go through more than the option you had ?? if not please keep staying with me so I show you the point. If yes smile and then let us proceed as I run this by you…

Most of times and i mean very often we think that in anything we face there is a way to oversee it, i don’t deny that but what am trying to say as you are going through hardship or a challenge in your life yes you may have a way to oversee it but there is always a new view or side view to it that a person that’s not facing the same challenge can see and offer a lot of possible ways to go through the box that you are in ..

Life can be a game and as most of us may take the game not seriously and i am here to ask you to change the serious perception of life and let it be a source for you to learn and move forward without a fuss ..

how can this be achieved? well i believe first we should lower our pride and accept the fact that there is always an easy way to do things and more effective also that sometimes our way of doing things are less effective and we don’t know everything. I firmly believe that when we drop our pride and just take a turn and start listening to people around this game we call life, get involved with people who offer help we will learn a lot and face the challenge we have in a tonne of solutions.

Also giving the room for the saying of thinking outside the box sink in. we all sometimes think that when we are in a game we are suppose to focus inside and give it our hundred to it, well life is a game and I really think in our game that is Life we should give room for us to pause focusing inside the box and then allow ourselves to take few steps back and then just thinking of the box…

There is a saying that states that it’s easy to talk to strangers than family, meaning that we open up easily to people that have no ties to us because we feel that we won’t be judged and I can say most of our relationship die not because love is not present but there is judgement. am not here to talk about either relationships or judgement for am not experienced. But am here to tell you all about the impact of socialization when we open up to a person its easy to get help because some people outside may be able to think outside the box.

In the end am a firm believer that all of our problems are solved but its not a must to be solved by ourselves but when we open the door to external help there is a guarantee that our problems will be solved and yes there will be criticism but what is critics behind a troublesome problem? take the leap of faith and trust that most of our problems are solved when shared…

And through drug addict the meeting that they have been proven that at a range of 78-88% that helps a lot of people this is because you are not alone passing that problem out there, there are people who have already passed it and some already have the way out. so we just have to listen.

Categories
festivity life season

Festive Season

be a helper to the needy..

Merry Christmas is the most trending text sent all over the globe since its the festive season. A matter of fact MERRY CHRISTMAS to you reading this post hope you enjoy this day, after the Merry Christmas it will come Happy New Year definitely.

But the Question comes what is new or what is happy for this Christmas and the coming year, while there is nothing that we have change its just as same as last year Christmas, we fail to look for the ones that need our help, time, love and support and we lock up ourselves and just eat and enjoy. Don’t quote me wrongly eating and getting some lone time is good but we should be considerate for the ones out the streets that a constantly searching for food and shelter. I know some say the government will help but the government has a lot of stuffs in their own plate and cant reach all of them

I call upon all individual to take up to this request to care for the less privilege and offer their support not only this Christmas but also other normal days the non festive days. All changes we wanna see in the world starts with us taking the small changes daily and removing the daily routine ignorance of ungodly doing

Merry Christmas but make it a different Christmas to remember, be a santa to someone that is in need.

Bless Up

Emitty

Categories
life & sports

Life as sports.

unsplash.com

🏀

Ever think of life as sports? In terms of football, basket ball or netball … well come to think of it, it’s more like it.. you playing the role of a coach and sometimes even the key player yourself …

The format of playing or formation is basically the plans you layout in order to achieve your desired goals. 4-4-2 (medium effort medium stress short results ) 5-4-1(maximum effort medium stress shorter results ) 4-3-3 (medium effort minimum stress results ) its just all about format or formation of how you play with your opponent “life” as for those people who hate football or other sports in that case it’s the same way people hate life … Please bare with me. If life is a sport .. it’s up to us to decide if the game is friendly, international or championship…. Our normal routine can be our friendly matches, then our big hustle and the game changers can be championships and our new start ups can be the international matches.

Monday to Sunday routine can be our friendly match from this point of view you do normal stuff without engaging new stuff so its just a match where when you loose or win nothing changes. Championship game is like the big exams that will make you shift from grade to grade, level to another level , that big interview that will land you a job or not, the heavy decision like getting married or buying a house having kids.

In short we’re just playing and it’s all about tactics and always the best way is to gain experience. When we loose it doesn’t mean we drop the game, what we do, we retreat, regroup then replay that’s how the game goes… you want to go for a game (wanna tackle something big or great for you in life , choose your format, study your opponent and hustle enough, train to the maximum then go with your head held high and tackle your opponent .) nothing comes easy and every success is a product of a good plan, hours of training to a perfection level and never giving up attitude (persistence).

Bless up …

Design a site like this with WordPress.com
Get started