Category: life

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health

Main-ten-ance

From unrelational perspective from what will be said on time to come is that there is a portion of either physical or logical resources that you should directly or indirectly invest to a person very close to you.

The expense is usually undertaken voluntarily with specific aims to uproot the bond in any relationship. For relationship – couples and lovers this can covers from outing,shopping and many more just to seal the nail of love between each other

I recall some course called electrical measurements there was a topic that was called maintenance and preventive measures, where the tutor said there is two types of maintenance

One before a problem happening that is maintaining health status of the device and the second was maintenance done after a problem just to resolve the problem back to it health status.

And it also appears some of us do the same in life have either the healthy maintenance or the aftermath maintenance, the healthy maintenance of anything is like the one that you take precaution that is not needed but it’s sometimes necessary.

A once eavesdrop a conversation between some roommates and they were arguing on dates and gifts just after a partner said yes, they went on arguing and some said they prepare a budget of expenses that they are will to incur just to go for an expensive date and dinner but then after they got the yes the budget disappears.

But one guy told the others, there must be a maintenance cost that is more of a logical budget that comes out as a surprise and always it’s not fixed. He uses it as an insurance to his partner to show that he still cares.

Most of us are ready to incur aftermath maintenance but neglect the healthy maintenance in life, we fail to take earlier measure and find ourselves incurring more than it should.

Am no relationship guru, but surprise dates and dinners wont kill you if you take him/her out once in a while, saying how you really feel here and then wont harm you at all. But we let pride run to our head and we neglect what should really be done.

Be a dear and take the step of upholding some healthy maintenance..

Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge mentality and mental health season

We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

pics creds :
https://unsplash.com/photos/Mt_vDByRI44?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditShareLink
Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking festivity knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking life life & sports season Uncategorized

Broken promises

A promise is a promise.

i bet we are all familiar with this say

many of us fall for promises and at the end of the day we end to be disappointed. Many promises are made to us, I ever made a promise, you ever made a promise and at some point in time probably things didn’t go right and forgot if you ever did make a promise to someone. And because things didn’t go right we tend to be like ah will they remember if I did promise them to come or to bring them something and just get to ignore them just like that, and when they come back to us we get to be like oh did I really say am gonna come over to stay, did I really say that I would buy you this, or would take you there?

Unknowingly we end up disappointing and breaking their hearts.

we really need to be faithful in this you know, let it reach a time we make promises that we can fulfill and make our loved ones happy, let us erase the broken promises and learn to apologize when we fail to fulfill them promises. If you think you can not make the promise happen it’s best to just stay silent and let it pass

bless up

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Loaded Gun

With what is going on around the world after being hit with the covid-19 and people wearing masks, I thought to my self it’s a great lessons that we are to learn, we limit our words and we wash off any associations we have carry as to just watch and listen which are great methods to learn.

Met with the questions 2 ears, 2 eyes but why 1 mouth.. ?

Pro 18:21 BBE Death and life are in the power of the tongue; and those to whom it is dear will have its fruit for their food.

A mans thought is build from what s/he heard but that doesn’t bring bigger changes like what you say,they say words are priceless but words out of a person’s can cost him.

So it’s clearly that what we say unto others and ourselves are always responsible for everything else

Mind clearly works by what is said, if you accept yourself as a failure then what the mind does its just a matter of bringing the correct amount of identifiers or symptoms that will bring the correct failure results.

There is a swahili swahili people saying “ukiwaza tu unakuwa” well the funny thing while growing was that we usually had to drink water that was not boiled because most of the times the boil water was always hot and the best option was water from the tap .

But having caring parent we usually were canned, when caught at the act of drink water from the tap.

We were always told that we will get diseases and they wont incur any cost to take us to an hospital or getting medicines. That didn’t affect us just because we always said that say “ukiwaza tu inakuwa”

Quoting my favourite artist NF “The point I’m makin’ is the mind is a powerful place
And what you feed it can affect you in a powerful way
It’s pretty cool, right? Yeah, but it’s not always safe
Just hang with me, this’ll only take a moment, okay?
Just think about it for a second, if you look at your face
Every day when you get up and think you’ll never be great
You’ll never be great, not because you’re not, but the hate
Will always find a way to cut you up and murder your faith (woo!) – THE SEARCH “

What am trying to say is that what really matters is how we control the words that come out of mouth, it’s easy to say a word but hard to return once said. It’s like living with loaded gun that the safety is off. Once its shot the bullet can’t be returned..

So whatever you are going through the trigger was once your words be careful. Though I dont have any proof of the connections between our mind, words that we say and reality, but i have lived to see what I say by mouth come to reality..

Bless up

Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health

It is sometimes the results of your mistakes

look around you, the environment you in, the people you live with, the companies you hang out with, kind of advices you are given, decisions that you make. Everything you do and any place you are now might be a result of you decisions.

Yes there are challenges I don’t deny but not every challenge you facing in life is just a challenge some challenges come as a result of your own mistakes.

Sometime we just have to make a review of our paths of our decisions, coz most of us use the backbone of challenges i.e oh my am passing through challenges right now please just bear with me. We make mistakes and after the results come out we say we pass through challenges. We need to be careful with decisions we make ,steps we take or actions that we make so as when the results come we stop saying we passing through challenges but eventually declare it by ourselves that it is the results of the mistake I made.

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life life & sports mentality and mental health

Game Saves

Let me start with this meme.

” You find a kid of 2000 saying don’t judge me by my past, which past mtoto, which one ?”

We have lived, whether it’s a year, ten, fifty or more we all have a term to compare and contrast about our life.

What am trying to develop here is just to show you that every single day you have lived it has come with a new challenge. No matter what state you grow up to either wealthy or poor it doesn’t matter , y’all have a piece of new experience daily you learn and experience..

For the wealthier one, you experienced wealthier problems and experiences and same applied to the poor ones.

Now from all these it comes a question Why are you quitting now ??

You have came these far to just give up now, and one might ask or say but I didn’t sign up for this, the pain and suffering it feels like the world is failing on me , yes you are experiencing what you are right now because there are alot of events that have taken it for you to reach here. You’ve been through alot so the easiest way out it’s to do reflections .

Reflections always gives you a praiseful head, this is because you just need to make up a flashback of what you have gone through, this will help you create a stronghold or a wall to bounce back a little and in the end move forward twice..

For the gamers there is always them game saves, were they act as starting point away from the beginning of the game, this allows you to pause and continue from there towards further parts of the games.

Now reflections may act as game saves in times that you are low and feeling down and you dont have the move-in power then just hold on to reflections

Basically reflections may be as simple as just a simple way of how you got out of a tough spot or tough time in some point of your life.

Life is yours take time to power yourself on, go forward never ever turn…

Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
Bless up
Emitty

Categories
changes Constructive thinking knowledge life mentality and mental health season

Bonding

In light of my recent endeavour I undertook, a project coordinated by a certain group of people and I was just invited to it. I personally love projects but this one I did it out of strong persuasion of one of the coordinators..

“Now it’s not that hard, I would just go and enjoy the project and my day will be done ” that’s what came into my mind. But the story changed soon after. Reaching the rendezvous point( meeting point) the coordinators that invited me was not on the same bus.

I’ve never had ever thought of being in such situation where you fail to bond with the people around you. That’s my hardest and toughest feeling that I can beat and even shake it off. I hate being in this situations.

It took time until i met the coordinator that had persuaded me earlier to come along the project…

This triggered my mind to examine my point of focus, ask your self what is your point of entry or point of balance in life, do you expect a person or group of individuals to come rescue you ??

Well if yes you’re in a road to disappointment because people get tired and even get bored to hold you up. It’s a messed up world we live in.

Way out, it’s okay to depend on people from time to time and it’s also not okay to depend on them always. That’s a great mistake ever to be made by individual.

Try to balance what we call in swahili shobo.. the human help will always have an end and we can help once with no regrets, twice with a head looking the other side,third time with our complain mode and in murmur but in the end we come to the breaking point and we dont help no more

Learn to stand on your own to create that peace of mind within yourself and also boost your mindset .

Bless Up.
Emitty…

Design a site like this with WordPress.com
Get started