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Why Do you do it ?

Based on all things people that people know or think they know what we do. The question will be why do you do it ??? Why do you do what you do ?

See the first answer from alot of people they will aim to go for love, I love what I do that’s why I do it.  This is an answer but it’s not very heavy to the intensity of the question asked.. 

Love is a feeling , feelings are best felt and not explained. So you can’t do something just because you feel it, there is more to that than  just love. By the way we accredit stupid things out of love, when someone does something stupid the common answer is  s/he did out of love ..

So in search of answers let’s ask ourselves this can we do something that we have never seen it before, larger portion is a no,  where we are, the environment will dictate what we do, because the environment plays a bigger portion into forcing us to do what we do.

In my neighbourhood I Live next to a couple actually were once a couple and were blessed a kid named X. They were happy at first and they were always in touch with us, a matter of fact we before moving to the place, the offered a portion of land inorder for as to make room for the construction materials

Also they were so generous a matter of facts some materials we used were stored at their spot. Time went on and we had this environment that we spend time with X play and fool around all these because the environment was fine

But then came dark times ( of course every good story must have a twist.) The father of X became a drunkard. I don’t know if its the movie drunkard master that gave him vibe but I guess the environment that he positioned himself to got him an alcohol addict..

After the house was done, wanted to know where the couple were, to find that the father sent away his wife and the kid had to dropout of school so he could take care of his siblings.

The point is that his environment changed and what he does is because of his environment..

Question: Why do you do ?
Me: Do what ??
Them: community stuff and all that?.
Me: No apparent reason…

But to be honest, I do that because I’m scared, scared of the fact that no one else can understand what I feel and see,  this is because of feelings are felt differently and nobody knows what I feel even if I tell them what I feel .

I’m scared that if I don’t fix the environment then my kids or their kids will live in a portion that I failed to create, a portion  I failed to correct, I do that because I’m scared of what I see the role that a changed environment has to the development of anything, to a change that has to be seen.

So I do what I do not out of love but to protect what I love and will come to love for them to find a smooth environment that won’t help them have to change inorder to survive…

Bless up
Emitty

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Who Are You ?

Somebody came up to me and said who you’re, the question was very hard to answer but inorder to answer the person, I wanted to see from their point of view, what or how much they think (key point think) they know me.

See the people around you can never understand or know you to the 100 percent level, because from time to time it depends on what they are viewing you from..

I wouldn’t place the answer they gave for my personal sanity because its something  I didn’t except to get from them. Put from there I learnt there are alot of definitions of Who you Are to the people around you.

Never expect to get a clear and uniform answer from the people around you. You’re not a mathematics question thay your answer will always be constant,  you ain’t pie (3.14) that you will always be constantly getting same answer to people, I know its confusing though one of you but the answer are infinite..

On  an intro of one of the songs in my playlist it was actually a spoken word by Dorah, she outline several ways that people can define you. Just simple question WHO ARE YOU? can have a infinite answer mind you from the other people point of view.. 

People define us on how they do Comparison between us and them, success, worth and strength or the way we appear, or the behaviour we show them or our weakness, what we can’t offer to them get us defined or what we work on or the Money and net worth we have. All this causes the infinite ♾ definition on who we are , but they ain’t answers.

Even parents themselves have a predefined definition of who you are , they want to have a perfect picture of you, that sweet lovely young kid they hard before you in your teenage..

The people Point of view doesn’t matter but what matters is what you think you are, an ancient quote said “Be careful for how you say or speak to yourself because the samurai inside will be mannered by it”.

That is to say your mind is a samurai, samurai where an elite soldiers to get the job done by that time,  they can be compared with the navy seals, the point is the mind is a powerful place what you tell it can affect it greatly..

We are not defined by how we look,make, create, or work on, the difference is what defines us . What really define us or answers who you are, lies on YOU. You get to define yourself whether you get a straight strong definition or answer on who you’re or let people answer that and let that sink the samurai inside ..

Bless Up
Emitty

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who will stand

We living in a world where we get to hear new things been invented everyday a world where people don’t like to seem out of date a world where technology has taken much of everything a world we really don’t know this is ending a world where people get to live life forgetting that there are children to stand for in time to come

have you sit down and ask yourself one day that “WHAT PARENT WILL I MAKE?”

one day when I was in the sitting room was talking to my mom and she told me “you have to live in peace with your siblings,love them take good care of them, you are like a mother to them when am gone there eyes will be on you so you need to he good too and strong and a person who sees beyond”, these words made me think of something, probably you who is reading this you are a parent already or maybe parent to be or maybe you in plans of becoming one this is for you. So my thought were,

i am where I am now because my mom stood for me, prayed for me taught be and raised me by the Bible’s words. She never got tired praying, kneeling and crying just to pray for m, she never stopped talking and yelling and warn me by the word that this is bad and that this stop that do this don’t do that to become a better person. And here I am now it’s not by my own strength nor will but the prayers that I was prayed for and the teaching I was raised by . Now let’s get back to today, the lives we living the way things go, are we really in position to be better parents for them who are coming? It’s terrifying really, most of parents right now got no time with their children most of parents right now are too much into social media and all that technology has brought forgetting that they need time to stay with their children and teach them and warn them to make them good later. Nowadays a kid do something wrong and a parent will just take a look at him or her and be like “ah that’s how the kid is” really!! Are you just gonna stand and watch yo kid going astray and have nothing to do for him or her ?

What generation are making or are going to make, who will stand for them if only we can’t even stand for us, Let it not reach the time in the Bible where it will come a generation which won’t know God. Parents, parents to be and the upcoming we have to look out our ways we have to remember how we were raised not just because it’s a globalized world then we forget all about how we were taught and raised, yes there are things or ways used that were not appropriate just see how you can modify and help your child or children. We need to stand for them to be better, better than us.

If we won’t stand for them who will?

Bless up

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Defined

School life has never been easy to some of us if not all of us,to the rest of us school has been a battleground constantly fighting. Whether for grades or social bonding, it was and still is a fight.

Well the true fight comes on mastering your lecturer or teacher, his or her approaches the likes and the dislikes that’s where things becomes hasty..

Well a short story was, and I know this is common having that one teacher each semester wanting you answering questions just has s/he has teacher a line by line word to word..

Well if he defined something as A you can’t write it as small “a” and expecting to score a mark from him or her. Inorder to pass his or her module we have to abide and go a word to word with what s/he has offered.

In life we face similar situations, I call it playing dumb, we tend to know what’s right and what’s not right but we still find ourselves living line by line and word to word.

In parallel with their definition of what we are, what we should be and even what we should do and how we should behave, and we find it okay thinking that we can’t do anything about it even if we try..

We are scared to break toxic routine just because of what has been predefined on us by others. Well am not a teacher or lecturer to tell you that you need to overcome that.

But just know even in school the best things or knowledge that sticks out in our mind is always the one that we have defined ourselves .

So it’s easier to make a further step forward with our own definition of routine, what we are, who we are and where we are going and at what pace we are moving. We have to refine the definition that are set on us…

Bless up
Emitty

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Defined

School life has never been easy to some of us if not all of us,to the rest of us school has been a battleground constantly fighting. Whether for grades or social bonding, it was and still is a fight.

Well the true fight comes on mastering your lecturer or teacher, his or her approaches the likes and the dislikes that’s where things becomes hasty..

Well a short story was, and I know this is common having that one teacher each semester wanting you answering questions just has s/he has teacher a line by line word to word..

Well if he defined something as A you can’t write it as small “a” and expecting to score a mark from him or her. Inorder to pass his or her module we have to abide and go a word to word with what s/he has offered.

In life we face similar situations, I call it playing dumb, we tend to know what’s right and what’s not right but we still find ourselves living line by line and word to word.

In parallel with their definition of what we are, what we should be and even what we should do and how we should behave, and we find it okay thinking that we can’t do anything about it even if we try..

We are scared to break toxic routine just because of what has been predefined on us by others. Well am not a teacher or lecturer to tell you that you need to overcome that.

But just know even in school the best things or knowledge that sticks out in our mind is always the one that we have defined ourselves .

So it’s easier to make a further step forward with our own definition of routine, what we are, who we are and where we are going and at what pace we are moving. We have to refine the definition that are set on us…

Bless up
Emitty

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Grieve

(To all soldiers rested after fighting a great war called life, we pray in one form and firm belief that you rest peacefully and the ways that you have shown us through the way you have lived, we shall live in accordance and just as the way you’ve shown it to us..)

Is it safe to say we differ interms of how we handle things? Whether it’s a good thing or bad thing we must differ.

Why? Simply is because feelings are felt and its just a state that we clearly have to differ in how we react.

A person being sad, or crying or even laughing in a grieving season that doesn’t mean the one who is laughing is not grieving. Or the one crying is the one with the most loss. Or the one sad is the neutrality.

As a fact, before any person can show emotion its by default interpreted by the brain and then  the outward expression is given. So sad news can come and a positive energy.

A person laughing its doesn’t mean s/he doesn’t feel the grieve but maybe the interpretation has brought some good memories worthy to be remembered and s/he smiles because it means they once enjoyed the moment.

A person can also cry because the interpretation has come with the memory is hard to replace the void created or the source of happiness is gone and it will take time to heal.

Same as all other things in life, we have to agree that we differ in interpretation, and hence we should stop comparison against each other, and just be ourselves .

In remembrance
Paschal Otto Bundala & other rested soldiers
(1974 – 2022)

Signed Emitty.

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Our Escape

Well the dictionary define escape as a narrow run or temporary displacement or distraction from a routine or reality.

The definition had something that caught my eye, the words such as temporary, distraction and reality.

We tend to search for escapes because of our temporary situation in life, and life can be a constituent of many things from social interaction to the mind of one self. Our economy, social life, spirituality, mentality, health and even a balance of all these can be what we call life..

Escape is temporary just as noted from the definition before, reason to create escape can vary but alot of people are in search of escape to get a way to numb pain, and the pain is mostly caused by over expectations.

See in life we tend to expect alot from people or even actions that we do. We expect fast money so we engage in illegal businesses to make quick money and we end up disappointed for a reason or two. We are always constantly putting overwhelming hopes forward and casting out reality in the name of faith.

Don’t quote me wrong, faith is a good thing but don’t disguise instant gratification or any thing related to fastering the process as faith, TRUST THE PROCESS they say but people don’t do that, the say maybe the process should start trusting their ways.

A failure to quit running towards escape will lead to addiction, and we all know what addictions do to a person. And there is no such thing as a good or bad addictions.

Addictions are addictions and people tend to color coat it because they are temporary pleasures that leads to an escape of reality..

Once posted it on our team timeline ” what’s your escape ?” And the response were alot, but people are troubled with alot that we have to agree to, but some problem they are not really a running problem, some problem are to be faced, but it’s easy to think on running more than thinking of facing it..

On a advisory scale, problems will constantly seem to add up and piling up problems will not be the solution. We have to fight our problems, the escape to our problems  doesn’t solve the problems they just forward them. So we are not running away from them we are just forwarding them…

Bless Up
Emitty

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Know the best time to strike

Even lighting knows it’s best time to strike. It can’t strike in an open blue sky. Same compared to the football game, the shooter strikes only when there’s a chance to strike

Same applied to our daily life, we need to know the best time in doing the right thing. Now amma talk about this in a different way. It goes like this

We all have situations and we get to be so overwhelmed wanting to let somebody know what’s bothering you right? Well yes ofcoz it reaches a time we want to be listened to and get help to what we carrying or burdened. We just need to know the best time to do that, tho yes one can get to ask you what is wrong with you, you seem troubled, c’mon talk to me. The person has given you chance to open up yoself, but let me tell you one thing, with all the situationship, you need to be picky now what you are to say right at that moment. Sometimes we might get to be open to the fullest and end up loosing the help we needed. There is this statement in swahili says “Soma alama za nyakati”. It’s very important to do so really,not coz yo given a room to tell then you need to give your whole, there are things to tell by the time and there are things you need to know when it’s the best time to share and get helped

bless up

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let bygones be bygones

Hello there it’s been quite sometime now. Today, I woke up in the morning and felt like i should share this with you.

you know there are times that we get to put ourselves behind bars without knowing and end up hurting ourselves from time to time it’s just because we don’t learn to let go

what is the point of feeling sorry or missing somebody or something that by the time it brought you pain or hindered you from being somebody or taking a step forward. We sometimes need to close our eyes and be merciless and just respect the decisions we firstly made and keep on moving. Coz am pretty sure the very day you decided to let such people or things go you were in your good senses. So yeah let’s just take a pin and pin it there and leave it that way. We need not to suffer we need to torture ourselves and be like “oh dear, this person or maybe like let me try check on him or her probably he or she is okay” nah uh nah uh i really don’t support that. Coz yhe moment you get to look for that person, you returning back the bond you once had and trust me this time round it will be so hard for you to break it and let go and you’ll find it fine but as days go you be like I wish I’d not look for this person. So rather than regretting the act of going back and look for them just because you miss the or maybe you ask yourself what or how they’d be doing, you better let it be a bygone and get to move on. You won’t loose but maybe you might gain more than when you had those people or things around you.

So yeah let bygones be bygones, don’t entertain bringing back what you once wanted to loose.

bless up

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Pushin’ it

Don’t recall what game was it called but it involved a moving cart on unorganised railway where the goal of the player is to reach far but making sure there are no gaps in which it may lead the cart to fall due to unconnected rails.

Accuracy is at question in the game and also the quickness recover from mistake before the cart reaches the unconnected rail and falls off.

Ofcourse in the end of the game there rewards, and from this because its a mini game the rewards helps out with the main game. (Shout out goes to the TOWNSHIP games creators available on playstore)

Now see in life its all about extra forces, I know many ain’t believers but I know some forces are beyond our abilities to comprehend. We may be pushing on our side but deeply outside some process outside are the ones pushing. We may have all the necessary motives to push infront but our timing maybe not perfect and we may fail.

See when we started RTF back then, it was just after we were done with our first semester in university,  the founders were the same friend we had back since form one in our ordinary level education but we didn’t start it until we were done with our o level and A-level education.

It’s possible that we could have started it earlier but the timing would never favour us to spread out to the inches that we have covered till now.

Many of us think that things just happen, but in reality everything and each step taken gives us a more significant effect on the long run, this is because of some forces are set when we push right.

So in time of planning, never worry to start again just because of  a simple failure sometimes the bigger picture needs you to push the idea at the right time.

I’m no guru to know how to do the perfect timing but you should believe in timing. Time will always tell, with time all things fall in place.

Bless up
Emitty

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