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Life, Love, Levels

There are three key points that are guaranteed to you to live a smooth life. Am not saying having a smooth life but living a smooth life.

see, many of us are not happy with how life is right now and we end blaming people not knowing we are responsible for our own lives

living a smooth life means you can still have troubles but you can live as if troubles are not part of your routine. But having a smooth life means not having troubles at all. Now what i mean is how do we live when all seems off and not in our favor.

So let me ask you this. What do you do when you face alot in your plate and don’t have courage to eat it all.

what do you do when you ask for meat and life brings you stones.

sometimes its easy to blame than to know the right purpose of the situation your facing.

Life
Life has no gender, never bias and will never be fair to those lamenting. if you think that because of the wealth that you have or the number of people you’re connected with will make life to look aside for you to have the better side of it then you ate wrong. life will never be as we imagine it to be.

love.
we have our notion on how and the what love is and how to love, who do we love . some people have put on standards to what you love and hate. not a judge but let me tell you having a smooth life means realising all the hatred you have  built in your hearts, learn to appreciate people for the positive stories and forgive the negatives but in the process of laying a room a specific distance, show them its not everyone think they can hurt you then come back to the place They previous position they left off….

Levels.
we are all equal but we got a variance in our abilities to convert time also known as time conversion, we all have 24hours a day but we use the hours differently so if you ever wanna envy someone for his or her success just know its all your mindset of approaching the concept of time conversion. you want to he successful or you want a smooth life then just examine your 24 hours what do you do with them.

All in all the key is to work on having a life that is not a burden or life that is not full of drama, know when to forgive and never carry a grudge, love people with no reason, hate none, just know you also have a shot to the top..

Bless Up
Emitty …

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Lower Your Expectations

Getting excited for a promise,
waiting for a specific date to do something special, waiting for results that you don’t know what they will be like and even hoping for positive feedback on something. Those all we can call them expectations.

Today let’s talk about expectations and place what we do know about it.

Everybody can wait on something its a matter of patience and we will talk about patience some other time. waiting is easy but anxiously waiting is hard. we all have troubles when we want or when we are expecting something to happen.

why ?? i don’t know your reasons but let me put one point here.

mostly when you are expecting something its like a promise made and usually promises are valuable when given to a person who hasn’t got the offer, we promise stuff inorder for it to be valuable and worth a promise it is supposed to be something new or a replacement of present stuff.

what it’s meant here is if you’re promised lets say a car, it has to be either of the following. You don’t have the car so you going to get a car or you have a car but you’re going to be replaced with a new one.

now getting something that you don’t have is exciting and causes unsettled emotions. When you’re expecting something you make believe to your heart that you already have the promise. And in return the heart it visualizes that you have it and you are using it this creates what we call (mazoea)  now after building that up its hard to break them .

Now with high expectations comes  great disappointment, if you raise your excitement level without working on the issue effectively to make it happen it will never come true.

Life is always like that if you raise your expectations it will raise its disappointing level… stay positive but not excited work on it so it will true.

Bless Up

Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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changes Constructive thinking knowledge life season

What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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Pay It Foward

Reflection.
Do good and the good will come back to you.

One day a mother and her son were having good time together, suddenly the mother started coughing and having a hard time in breathing, the son knew what she was suffering from (Asthma) but did not know how to help his mother because she had no any inhaler with her. The boy got out and went to a pharmacy so that he could help his mother get an inhaler. He reached there and found himself with no money. Remembering his mother’s situation back home he was not left with choice but to steal one of the inhalers that were being sold in that pharmacy. The seller saw him stealing and started chasing him, when they were out in a Chase the seller finally caught him in a corner and banged him on a wall so hard, he started questioning him, the kid knowing his mother’s condition tried fighting back. Then appeared a woman and asked what’s the chaos all about and the seller said that the kid stole an inhaler from his pharmacy and the kid replied I have no money I’m just trying to help my mom she’s sick, she’s dying. That woman looked at the kid and asked the seller how much the inhaler cost, the seller told her the amount. The woman dug into her purse and gave out the amount that was mentioned and the seller left. The kid was so surprised by the action that the woman did and he had to ask her “you do not know me neither have we met before,why did you help me?”. The woman looked at the kid and gave him a piece of paper and told him go help your mother. When he reached home, he gave his mother the inhaler and the mother got saved from the situation. The kid went in his room and opened that piece of paper and he saw these words PAY IT FORWARD.

Years passed and the kid grew up into a doctor. One day a patient came and had no enough money to pay for the treatments. The one attending to the patient told her that “we can’t help you so you just go back and look for somebody who can give the help”. Over a sudden that kid (currently the doctor) came inside that very room and told the one attending the patient “I’ll be in charge of everything just leave it all to me”. The patient was then helped,given a room and a bed to sleep so as she could be treated. After a while the doctor(kid) went inside the room where the patient lied and asked about her wellbeing. She was so thankful for what the doctor did to her. But she was in a doubt and had to ask why did you help me? The doctor smiled and took a paper from his coat and gave it to the woman it was written “PAY IT FORWARD”.

This woman was the very same lady who helped the doctor the other day back in time.

What you reap is what you sow. Just as the Newton’s third law state “For every action there is an equal but opposite reaction”. Just do good and the good will definitely come back to you.

Bless up.

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Its Not Permanent

Ever plan to do something and when in the process of doing it nothing is moving, have you ever had that one perfect plan laid out for you in your head and in turn to perfect it still doesn’t go through ?

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I know you have taken series of exams, test, assignment and more papers that were all done in a certain hall.

Few days back I went to my status and posted “what is the name you give to the place you did the exams?
The answers were restless and they were super amazing but also I learnt something…

What I wanna share to you is that in life everything is like an exam you are given a set of exams and boom your in a cage that is given to you a worker is given that work as an exam and the workplace is the hall that is given.  a driver is given an exams to drive without accident and reach the destination and the car is the hall where exams are done.

Now i know you have got this pictured but add this to your imagination its not the hall but its the exams that you have done. We have to learn that not all exams are the same but know that you can be in the same hall with your neighbor. And still the neighbor could be of no help, so in life you have to see that when you are in a situation you have to own it, it’s yours and there is no a Better way to fight it if you don’t take the initiative to fight it. Never complain when you don’t get help because each person has his ot her own exams to answer, challenge to react too.

The challenges you face in the exams  are the same as the ones that you fae in reality, the exams were designed to offer you a glimpse of what to expect in the real world. The fact you can panic and also fail to do anything in  the exam room is the same as what you can do in real life, when trouble hits and hits you bad its not time to panic nor stuck as a paralysed person you should collect your self, settle down and gather strength because its all that you gat the exams (challenges ).

With time involved everything else is temporary

David Benedict Zumbo

In life every situation you see is not permanent so lets not waste time thinking of a temporary situation but be of attention to it and learn what lesson it holds …

Bless up

Emitty…

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festivity life season

Festive Season

be a helper to the needy..

Merry Christmas is the most trending text sent all over the globe since its the festive season. A matter of fact MERRY CHRISTMAS to you reading this post hope you enjoy this day, after the Merry Christmas it will come Happy New Year definitely.

But the Question comes what is new or what is happy for this Christmas and the coming year, while there is nothing that we have change its just as same as last year Christmas, we fail to look for the ones that need our help, time, love and support and we lock up ourselves and just eat and enjoy. Don’t quote me wrongly eating and getting some lone time is good but we should be considerate for the ones out the streets that a constantly searching for food and shelter. I know some say the government will help but the government has a lot of stuffs in their own plate and cant reach all of them

I call upon all individual to take up to this request to care for the less privilege and offer their support not only this Christmas but also other normal days the non festive days. All changes we wanna see in the world starts with us taking the small changes daily and removing the daily routine ignorance of ungodly doing

Merry Christmas but make it a different Christmas to remember, be a santa to someone that is in need.

Bless Up

Emitty

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