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Main-ten-ance

From unrelational perspective from what will be said on time to come is that there is a portion of either physical or logical resources that you should directly or indirectly invest to a person very close to you.

The expense is usually undertaken voluntarily with specific aims to uproot the bond in any relationship. For relationship – couples and lovers this can covers from outing,shopping and many more just to seal the nail of love between each other

I recall some course called electrical measurements there was a topic that was called maintenance and preventive measures, where the tutor said there is two types of maintenance

One before a problem happening that is maintaining health status of the device and the second was maintenance done after a problem just to resolve the problem back to it health status.

And it also appears some of us do the same in life have either the healthy maintenance or the aftermath maintenance, the healthy maintenance of anything is like the one that you take precaution that is not needed but it’s sometimes necessary.

A once eavesdrop a conversation between some roommates and they were arguing on dates and gifts just after a partner said yes, they went on arguing and some said they prepare a budget of expenses that they are will to incur just to go for an expensive date and dinner but then after they got the yes the budget disappears.

But one guy told the others, there must be a maintenance cost that is more of a logical budget that comes out as a surprise and always it’s not fixed. He uses it as an insurance to his partner to show that he still cares.

Most of us are ready to incur aftermath maintenance but neglect the healthy maintenance in life, we fail to take earlier measure and find ourselves incurring more than it should.

Am no relationship guru, but surprise dates and dinners wont kill you if you take him/her out once in a while, saying how you really feel here and then wont harm you at all. But we let pride run to our head and we neglect what should really be done.

Be a dear and take the step of upholding some healthy maintenance..

Bless up
Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Bless up
Emitty

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Dis-app-oin-tment.

With no matter what range of years you have lived in/on earth in as if you’re a plant and on as if you’re a person, you’ll come and agree with me the one thing that life is good at is disappointing.

If life has gone for education is it will hold the doctorate of applied and natural disappointments with a distinction of honors 5.0000 GPA.

Disappointment is a sort of bankruptcy – the bankruptcy of a soul that expends too much in hope and expectation.
Eric Hoffer

We live in a community/society that needs hope and when hope is present expectations are built, the higher the expectations the higher the disappointments once the hope ain’t made.

It took me a while to finish this piece, in the beginning I didn’t know why so but this piece goes to all the people out there who are daily disappointed.

Tell me if this is you, you wake up with a full schedule of your day and you prioritize stuff according to your level of commitment, only to wake up and finding your schedule is shaken completely just because some people failed to play there part. You go to the whole day knowing that you have to have plan b always.

You sleep with plans again and then in the end coming up with plan b in mind just incase plan a changes .

There was an interview for a certain group of technicians, almost 700 people showed up for the written interview some just fresh graduates and some even experienced unemployed people, they were told to come early around 9am so as to do the paper.

They arrived early by the time sharp, but he examiners were late and they showed up an hour late ×× disappointment ××, if that wasn’t enough they started doing the written interview around 1300hrs ×× disappointment ××. And they demanded original copies of IDs and for some people they have travelled from different places some rural areas expecting to perform better in the exams, but due to not having the required IDs the fail even to enter ×× disappointment ××

What am trying to build up here is that not all the disappointments comes from our side, but from the people around us it can be the decision makers, teachers parents and even friends.

I gat no straight route to deal with disappointment, I just know acknowledging that there will always be a person to disappoint you, LEARN TO LOWER YOUR EXPECTATIONS

Bless up
Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
Bless up
Emitty

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No other colors ?

The black and white picture

in the earlier days, yes i Know some of you weren’t born yet the first TV’s and cameras gave a monochrome pictures or videos, also the videos had no sound in the earlier days.

The colors involved were black and white only no any other colors were able to be produced, there is a technical explanation to all that but i wont bother you with the technical hepee jeepes of the mechanism of the pictures or videos.

But the concept that i want you to have is the bright colors would acquired the white color and dark colors would acquire the black color.
this is the concept

Same applies to life we are just like the old monochrome tv, its easy to judge, react or get disappointed or dissatisfaction because we just know half of the color… a single error done by a person we term it as a point for a greater judgement and we don’t give room to ask questions.

we easily be judges and lawyers when someone has wrong us without asking questions. we never give a room for a person to say or State why s/he has done why all these ??

we all act sometimes like monochrome tv were all the darks we only see dark and not light and all the white we see only white.

sometimes even good people are bad at making good decision. and we are never perfect all hundred percent. we have some dark portion that have a white reasons but we never get a chance to represent our why’s but what people see is the dark..

learn not to settle for only whites pr blacks in your life .. learn to give yourself a chance to learn the why’s to a person’s actions…

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Reasons to reasoning…

we walk we the philosophy that everything happens for a reason and we stick on it and generating or joining dots that all that comes after was a big picture from the action that occurred earlier.

what if not everything goes as planned and we fail getting to the bigger picture.

so does it mean even our personal failure to approach a certain task is planned ??

well am not here to judge but lets works on some smaller concept that we build our believe on everything happens for a reason, well some do but rest from the some are not happening because its planned or reason.

our ignorance on certain issues shouldn’t give us the confidence to say so.

for a car to move you need fuel and we expect that if the fuel goes low or empty the car will not move . now we mostly let the fuel empty expecting that the car to keep on running or going.

lets replace this philosophy, and the reason so is because the problems or difficulties you face it’s because someone fail to play his or her part very well..

example you get bitten by a snake that’s a problem, you got bitten you won’t say there is a reason but it was a failure of a person who once saw the snake and failed to kill it saying that its too small or it hasn’t harm me.

so you see any problem you can think of it is because of a failure of someone else and the failure was probably or most even caused by a person saying it happened for a reason.

we all are ignorant or lazy on some matters we should learn to minimize our laziness to a minimal degree and stop saying things happen for a reason .

Bless Up
Emitty

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No Straight Route

Never have I ever been on planes or any other airborne machine. I speak this out of what I have heard; it might be wrong, if so be the case I agree to be corrected.

Airplanes of long routes such as those from Tanzania, Kenya and Uganda to America or any other destination you could think of tend to take many hours on air. Mostly ranging from 11- 18+ hours and this is so interesting.

These planes have routes same as to the buses on land. Sometimes it might be a one way flight or an exchange where you’ll change flights. In most cases these changes could be in Amsterdam or UAE for flights. (am i correct ?)

I know most of us are just like me, not well experienced with air borne travel but I am sure that you have experienced the bus routes. Here in Tanzania (proud being one), we have “daladalas” which have mini routes within the region.

Well; for the routes taken, let’s say from town in Arusha to kikatiti (suburb place , far from town). There are a few options to complete the route, either you take a bus from Arusha to Moshi(Costa) and drop by Kikatiti or take a mini bus(daladala) from arusha straight to katiti bus stand or two mini buses from arusha to usariver then another to katiti.

Even for us using the mini buses, we have got our own Amsterdam. What I mean is the detours before we reach our desired destinations. An example of a simple route from town to katiti an exchange of buses can range from one to three or even four cars depending on the day itself.

What am trying to bring in mind is the minibus exchange and even the airplane exchange in Amsterdam.  c, disloyal people and even betrayal on the way.

Life without struggle or hardship of any kind is not that sweet, there’s a say that no pain no Gain… meaning you can’t gain something new without working for it. When I say working I mean struggling or fighting hardship, challenges, stress, disappointments, disloyal people and even betrayal on the way to achieve it all..

So having detours from your big picture or plan will always give you the advantage of learning lessons upon lessons such that when you reach the big picture you’ll appreciate what you have…

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