To completely heal we need to endure, escapism won’t lead us anywhere closer.
The hardest battle is the one that’s against oneself; against every felt feeling, against each and every thought passing through our very own minds.
Sometimes we do get through hard times and our hearts and minds aren’t in good terms. We fail to decide what’s best for us. Perhaps this is one of the greatest reasons to why we always are afraid to deal with every feeling we experience.
We try to cover up our emotions thinking it’s the best way out. We try to keep ourselves busy to destruct us from the pain or any outcome that they bring to our realization.
Little do we know that we are deepening the wounds. We need to battle our owns demons not only because nobody is going to fight them for us but only because we need it to heal and grow;to actually live!
May we little by little learn to collect our own pieces and let them complete the image of who we truly are regardless of the scars; which are nothing other than trophies from the battles we have fought.
Chin up! As long as you survived you are indeed a VICTOR.
If someone asks me, whats my take on life in terms of what we do and what we don’t do i would reply as follows
Everyone has used public transport here as in Tanzania that’s the common means of transportation and it has taken and employed a lot of people.
Now in public transport there will always be the driver and bus conductor and all of em sometimes we don’t know them.
And the means of collecting of the bus fare the bus conductor chooses whether to collect it in the beginning of the trip, middle of the trip or at the last stop of every passenger on the car..
Now, these are all cases of life one we sometimes don’t know our driving forces or at what time life will demand our potential at first.
We all forged in the first place with potentials that are hidden inside and we just wait until the bus conductor demands the fare.
All we have is that we have to accept that we are on a bus called life and at any point in our travel it will come around asking for what we are doing in the bus for ( the purpose of our being in ) the sole reason for our existence.
It’s within our power to agree that we all have destinations and we all have different lengths in our trip.
The driving force of our lives is not yet and somehow not knowing the driver.
Ever wondered what is my take when we don’t have enough but its necessary to take a bus with low cash on you ??? well next time.
Till then your life is full of scenarios that its best not questioning them but living them like it . for we don’t know what may come in front…
A Swahili line said “Usiwe kama jogoo akidhani kunakucha ili yeye tu Awike ” Translated to Don’t be like a cock thinking that the sun only rises for it to crow.
We say we have taste on different things, the taste we have are what we can call standards.
Life, aiiiiiiiii, Life has funny ways to prove us wrong and mostly it proves us wrong on what we have or what we are surrounded with. we put so much faith on what we have and we also put less faith sometimes from what we have too.
The first thing that life uses to prove us wrong is people, friends and family. We put standards due to our preference and taste we have undermine or underestimate people you meet, stay with, friends and even family. How many times have we been disappointed or been amazed by the people around us?
We judge, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate in the name of standards. These standards have create a blurry vision of making our selves righteous in-front of those who we have not give them chance to explain or prove them selves. we feel it’s right to do so but it’s not.
The funny thing about the standards we put on people are first way up and off the charts unreasonable. Second the standards we keep are not known to people, people fail to understand what we want from them or what they should do or how to interact with us.
A perfect example of what am saying is ever find a person angry with another person simply because the other person has not texted or call? The standard here place by the person is that the other person is responsible for finding them.
While the sad reality is You miss a person text or call never wait, you love a person tell them, you need something ask.
By doing so meaning by judging, despise, humiliate, laugh at, criticize and hate we be like a cock and in our case we think we are a 100% perfect in-front of others.
Life does not work that way, we can’t live by putting standards that are not known we are all in a small circle called the globe with a lot of things in it. Don’t complicate life by adding more on the list and making headline to people’s problems
Come think of it our lives are similar or based on the life season of a tree, the benefits that a tree gives to the environment is the same as what we give to the surrounding. I am not saying you’re a tree but you can be and you should be a tree. Follow the season or life span of the tree. Simply because there are common traits we can relate from the life of a tree
The basic importance of the trees are many but some they give fruits, shades and give fresh air to the environment. Trees are very important to the earth since they give shades Some people find comfort not only to stay or have a person as a go-to person but some even secret keeper, soulmates, BFF – blessed friends forever, and more. These are basically the trees that offer shade, they provide comfort
Gives fresh air to the surrounding. Some people find wisdom and even great teachings from various people we call them personal trainers, guru, mentors, and life coaches. We are ready to settle down and listen to them for hours. They are considered trees that give fresh air.
Some trees provide fruits. Remember few posts back (https://bsafrique.home.blog/2020/04/20/realise-your-potential) we talked of a seed, just as tree comes from seeds that they have died and come out from the ground and hustled to bear fruits. The whole process is not a thing to see overnight but the process is for a long time
Now the tree teaches us the patience that what we are building now, the work or the things we do now are not a guarantee of overnight success, we normally think that there are shortcuts to success and we rush to take an easy way out of which there is no easy way out. Success starts from scratch just as the seed goes to the ground dies and starts growing from the dead seed. And you are in a corner lamenting why things are not moving it’s because that the seed you planted is on the stage of dying so it can start one.
You are a tree to someone either they are looking at you for shade or fruits, you are a tree. You are a solution to someone else your hard work will be the fruits we are talking about to your kids, parents, and even society. You preach about change and you are just there doing nothing. You’re a tree we want fruits from you. Be the change you want to see.
Sometimes the trees shade their leaves. This is an important concept that I want to run by you today. You as a tree it will reach a time that the fruits that you make have to fall off and even the leaves (People who are around you or you surround yourself with) sometimes you have to let them Go, detach yourself from them, for every season it comes you have to update your circle some people if they stick with you or you hold yourself to them they will drain you up and you will fail to survive the change of the season ahead of you.
Be careful with what you carry for leaves and what you bear as fruits, the fruits you bear now are the result of what you handled your self to stir them up the way the will or have become or come. Lamenting is a word in a dictionary of losers the way you are right now is a perfect role model picture for someone. Someone is looking up to you so never give up.
When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.
Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?
We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.
Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.
is it right for the gift giver to ask you on the use of the gift given to you?
Let me start with these two short stories.
Once upon a time there were two friends who used to live together as family. One day Andrew told Adrian that he will be taking a trip to the US. Adrian was so happy for his fellow. So the day came and Andrew left for the US. Days and weeks and months passed, Andrew remembered his friend Adrian and sent him a gift. He sent him a very beautiful woolen jacket. Adrian received the jacket and was so happy. After two years of Andrew’s stay in the US he decided to come back home. The day he got back he saw his friend and was happy to be back home again. He then asked Adrian, where is the jacket I sent you as a gift? In a glimpse of suprise Andrew saw the jacket at the dog’s kennel it being used to give warmth to those dogs. Andrew got disappointed and said nothing about it and he went inside.
I hope we getting something here
Story 2
In the middle of the great lahulu forest lived a family, a husband and his pregnant wife in a very big tree house. It did not take time, the wife gave birth to a handsome baby boy(gift of life). They were so happy to have the baby with them. One night while they were sleeping they were attacked by the dangerous animal forests. The husband tried his best to keep his family but he failed, he was eaten and the wife too but the baby survived the attack. After that night of the attack, very early in the morning there were hunters who were passing by and heard the baby cry,they asked themselves where is that cry coming from, when they looked up they saw a tree house. Two of the men climbed in and saw the little baby crying and helpless. They took him and decided to stay with him, raised him to a very strong young man. After few years the boy started acting strange, he suddenly turned to a robber,robbing people’s things in the community where he was raised and in the end he got killed with angry people in that society.
What do we get to learn from these two stories.
The first story tells us about a woolen jacket given to Adrian and it was turned to a warmth keeper for dogs. Try keeping yourself in Andrew’s shoes, if it were you how would you feel? The expense and the time you used to get him the jacket was never valued.
The second story, the baby boy who was born was given a gift of life but where did he end? Being a robber. Ghaaii this hurts. You are given life and get to misuse it. The good book says that God created us so as we can worship Him, apart from that He created us to take possession of everything that’s on this Earth. If He gifted us life to do so, then why we turn to be bad people? Why we turn to be people who are disgrace to families, society and to the whole world? You are given life to live, enjoy and use what you are given to bless others.
Get to ask yourself today, do you get tot value the gift you are given? Let’s get to treasure what’s gifted for us,as we do so we get to open more doors for more goods to come and we get to bless the hearts of those who give the gifts to us.
“You are a single product in this life never want to live somebody else’s life”
in taking something new we believe we have to dig deep and give the best of ourselves towards the new stuff, its okay but I find it unnecessary.
we loose things from our first encounter with it and wonder why we lost it while we thinking that we tried our best to keep it.
who told us we have to try so hard impressing and try so hard becoming something we are not used too?
we end up messing up on first encounters believing that we have to impress everything and everyone that we come across too.
the real fruit is mostly found on the inside you have to peel it so to eat it, but before reach a stage of eating it you should let it be. what I mean is that there is a period of not peeling of a period of just watching it on the outward level.
not every encounter is a show off encounter, not every meet is a 1o1 session to be perfect.
if Michael Jackson could try being a different version than he’s singing career then we would have not know him. Same as Muhammad Ali..
no one is perfect stop being someone else or stop trying so hard to fix and fit in someone else story. Never try so hard being there in a different version that are not the normal you.
NF says the real you is when no one is watching,
it’s not hard to be how when no one is watching that is the way we should be and never embrace something that we are not. Am not saying wr shouldn’t try new things but what I’m implying is that we should address our situations/problems as we are not as we think people want us to address it.
Fid Q says we fail because we address stuff as we are or how we thought we should instead of addressing them as they are , things addresses as they are never complex
One word to pick on this is that never try to rip yourself just to show yourself. just be you the real you, yes you as you and not as the way they want you to be seen.
“In a time where you have to give something, giving nothing is also something to be giving”
Few weeks back I was sent a writing challenge and it was all about writing about something you loved as if you hate it.
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At first I was in a puzzle, I couldn’t understand the challenge so I had to ask the one who sent the question to ellaborate more for me.
Well up to now i haven’t written anything yet because I find it weird writing what i love as i hate it.
How many times are we like this challenge, we do act like we hate what we love. Its similar to pretence but I don’t want to put it that way. We apply this formulae in alot of ours stuffs to a point that we are seen as dramatic people.
Let me put it this way, yesterday was Mother’s day ( Happy belated mothers day mothers out there.), I saw alot of people posting nice words about their moms, I even got some new sweet words from them. To some it was genuine to others was just another social media post
What I am trying to say is even in relationship we don’t acknowledge directly the partner we have we are acting as kid and putting unnecessary drama to it, to an extent it turns to hate . The thing you once love turns to hate.
Am not an expert in relationship and maybe the words today wont hit you up due to the represent of it, but if i got to get something through to you is this. You can’t love it then you acting as you hate it, hoping the other side should interpret your drama as love, sometimes the hate stands out more outwardly more than the love and you may end up loosing it all.
Reflection. Do good and the good will come back to you.
One day a mother and her son were having good time together, suddenly the mother started coughing and having a hard time in breathing, the son knew what she was suffering from (Asthma) but did not know how to help his mother because she had no any inhaler with her. The boy got out and went to a pharmacy so that he could help his mother get an inhaler. He reached there and found himself with no money. Remembering his mother’s situation back home he was not left with choice but to steal one of the inhalers that were being sold in that pharmacy. The seller saw him stealing and started chasing him, when they were out in a Chase the seller finally caught him in a corner and banged him on a wall so hard, he started questioning him, the kid knowing his mother’s condition tried fighting back. Then appeared a woman and asked what’s the chaos all about and the seller said that the kid stole an inhaler from his pharmacy and the kid replied I have no money I’m just trying to help my mom she’s sick, she’s dying. That woman looked at the kid and asked the seller how much the inhaler cost, the seller told her the amount. The woman dug into her purse and gave out the amount that was mentioned and the seller left. The kid was so surprised by the action that the woman did and he had to ask her “you do not know me neither have we met before,why did you help me?”. The woman looked at the kid and gave him a piece of paper and told him go help your mother. When he reached home, he gave his mother the inhaler and the mother got saved from the situation. The kid went in his room and opened that piece of paper and he saw these words PAY IT FORWARD.
Years passed and the kid grew up into a doctor. One day a patient came and had no enough money to pay for the treatments. The one attending to the patient told her that “we can’t help you so you just go back and look for somebody who can give the help”. Over a sudden that kid (currently the doctor) came inside that very room and told the one attending the patient “I’ll be in charge of everything just leave it all to me”. The patient was then helped,given a room and a bed to sleep so as she could be treated. After a while the doctor(kid) went inside the room where the patient lied and asked about her wellbeing. She was so thankful for what the doctor did to her. But she was in a doubt and had to ask why did you help me? The doctor smiled and took a paper from his coat and gave it to the woman it was written “PAY IT FORWARD”.
This woman was the very same lady who helped the doctor the other day back in time.
What you reap is what you sow. Just as the Newton’s third law state “For every action there is an equal but opposite reaction”. Just do good and the good will definitely come back to you.
Ever wanted to be born in a different family, region or country than the one you are in right now? Have you ever wished you could apply for a change pf parents?
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Some of us love our environment and we would do campaigns to influence people to plant trees and preserve the natural vegetation.
If you are one of them well and good, i personally appreciate your efforts but today am raising a topic from that side of view.
In order for a tree to survive or to grow it needs water or moisture, soil and also sunshine helps with the photosynthesis which is the process of making its own food. I’ll not go in deep into the biology but this is the basic concept.
Now also we need all the similar facts for growth we need water in terms of knowledge, this will allow us to not only develop but to get off the seed of ignorance. when we are watered as in terms of acquiring knowledge we will grow.
Soil is the environment that we are the parents, friends and relatives they play the role of soil as in trees.
Sunshine in this perspective let me give the opportunities around us, sunshine help the tree grow also opportunity help to move from one point to another, level to level and so forth. grab all opportunity that arise daily. Because if a tree fails to get sunshine it remains the same level.
After a tree is full grown its either used for shade and also fruits and oxygen provision also accumulation of carbon dioxide in the daylight and oxygen at night.
After we grow its not only useful for us but also we are useful to the surrounding too. we can be a source of replica of ourselves where we train others to be as us.
But let also know that when we are too much good for the environment the surrounding will try to cut us down and make us into other products
Well the above are facts that are well known and now some facts that are known but not taken into consideration seriously.
The tree or the seed that brings the tree doesn’t choose were it should grow, it accepts the ground and try to fight so it can grow.
The good book once said of a man who wanted to plant seed on the farm and some seeds failed to get into the good soil while some seeds made it to the good soil some were eaten by birds, some went into thorns.
The concept here is the seed has to realize that its of great potential even if is at the stage of seed or a tree and if it realizes that its the first stage to fight more to grow more
Same as us we can’t choose were to be born. that is why earlier the question was did you ever wanted to change where you were born, the family you are into ?
A tree has to deal with the condition that has been planted on. It cant complain that ooh i have been planted in no good condition, i can’t grow better. but it still grow
It does not need you to complain but it only require you to shift your mind into what you are surrounded with and then just work with…
Rescue The Forgotten 
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