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Main-ten-ance

From unrelational perspective from what will be said on time to come is that there is a portion of either physical or logical resources that you should directly or indirectly invest to a person very close to you.

The expense is usually undertaken voluntarily with specific aims to uproot the bond in any relationship. For relationship – couples and lovers this can covers from outing,shopping and many more just to seal the nail of love between each other

I recall some course called electrical measurements there was a topic that was called maintenance and preventive measures, where the tutor said there is two types of maintenance

One before a problem happening that is maintaining health status of the device and the second was maintenance done after a problem just to resolve the problem back to it health status.

And it also appears some of us do the same in life have either the healthy maintenance or the aftermath maintenance, the healthy maintenance of anything is like the one that you take precaution that is not needed but it’s sometimes necessary.

A once eavesdrop a conversation between some roommates and they were arguing on dates and gifts just after a partner said yes, they went on arguing and some said they prepare a budget of expenses that they are will to incur just to go for an expensive date and dinner but then after they got the yes the budget disappears.

But one guy told the others, there must be a maintenance cost that is more of a logical budget that comes out as a surprise and always it’s not fixed. He uses it as an insurance to his partner to show that he still cares.

Most of us are ready to incur aftermath maintenance but neglect the healthy maintenance in life, we fail to take earlier measure and find ourselves incurring more than it should.

Am no relationship guru, but surprise dates and dinners wont kill you if you take him/her out once in a while, saying how you really feel here and then wont harm you at all. But we let pride run to our head and we neglect what should really be done.

Be a dear and take the step of upholding some healthy maintenance..

Bless up
Emitty

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We Must Let it Go

Holding up is fine but how long do we have to hold on to something so close or dear to you. They say its good to enjoy it as it last for we dont know tomorrow.

After the last post disappointments, we have seen that we human beings live on the principle we have build up and that’s expectations.

We expect and get what we want that’s the fair end of the rope called life and sometimes we dont get what we expect but we get something better than we hoped a very rare nature to life ofcourse, and the disappointment part of life which this is what we call life. Because to some people life without disappointment that’s not life to them.

Enough of the disappointment topic let’s put something new today, when we build up expectations we hope they can become something worth the wait that period is what we call holding

Average human ability to hold their breath is 90seconds that’s the holding up ability for us humans.

Is it healthy to hold up? Many of us are in toxic relationships, painful history and even some spoken words against us and we are caught up in the middle of them and they are eating us up and we haven’t moved a muscle to do something about it. Is it worth it..

Sometimes it’s the holding up that gives us strength to make a move for something new, it’s the holding up that makes us see another mile of our journeys. It’s the holding up that gives us the strength to oversee something old and update it to new.

The above kind of holding up is the good kind but for the toxic and pain outcomes it’s a must to let go. I know the common example of holding up to something for long time is the teacher with glass of water, the longer you hold up the longer it will paralyze you and cause you great pain..

Release the unwanted loads just let it go and have trust that once you let go, you open a room to receive something new…

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Bless up
Emitty

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Speak not, burdened yes.

In life not everyone will understand you not even those close to you will understand. There some events or even activities that may seem random they just appear to pop on your side.

At this moment its not easy to identify the lessons that comes with the situation that you’re inside and boom you think like the world is not on your side.

Moments like this are always tough to handle, and it’s easy to find an anchor point a person or a place or thing just to dump all what you feel to them. I dont say it’s not fine to un- burden what you feel, but on how you unburden it and to who.

We all are living in this world that since day one has never fail to surprise us with alot of unplanned and uncoordinated events and since you are alive just know you are subjected to majanga ( tragedies will just come).

The point that am making you carrying something that is hard to be spoken to others or to entrust your neighbours with that doesn’t mean you have to go through it alone or to live with it thinking like you’re the only one with it.

When things are too heavy you are not alone and you should be careful on to how you place yourself or explain yourself from others

Bless up
Emitty

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Growing Up in sleep (PT 1)

Never in my life have I ever hated to sleep except while growing up were I thought life was not fair in terms of me being forced to sleep as the highest stage of me being hated (my presence bothering people so the punishment was going to bed) and them covering it up was me sleeping daily to bring up a routine.

That notion always build several lessons and am going to share with you some of them..

1. Nothing is permanent, this is a common spoken phrase that we usually live with it, in swahili its modified to kwani dunia yote ni yetu, hayadumu. It was in the range of from 4years old towards 12 years, after that I quickly forgot how to sleep in the afternoon.

This tells you how things tend to change even of it won’t happen in an abrupt moment but will always change.

2. Your past will always have a way in your future, but regrets isn’t an option to run too. In this time as am grown, not that am old now but am grown just know that, the feeling of needing to be told to sleep in the afternoon comes to my mind but I dont get the time to have to sleep peacefully without of interruption from my busy schedule.

We learn to live with the facts what’s done can’t be undone. And so Is some facts maybe almost every aspect in life is tied on that aspect we learn and move but not regret.

3. Standard can be raised and lowered at the same time. The sleeping habit was a standard place and all kids of my age were supposed to sleep a specific time and specific interval. It was like a pattern that our guardians adopted and we had to live with it..

In life there are patterns that we have place for ourselves we have to reexamine them so as to make our life change at a positive pace.

4. Not everything is against you, sometimes it’s best for you, sleeping at the afternoon was great for our growth but on my side it was a torture, but so far it has helped me alot now I know, but back then it was a hell of a fight to put me in bed. Canes and sticks, slippers and even wires were the only method that could put me in bed .

In life we have to learn that not all or everything that comes your way is against you sometimes its for your own good, learn to embrace situations as they pass by simply because not we are tough but because we know there are lessons to learn and also they ain’t permanent.

To be continued…
Bless up
Emitty

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No other colors ?

The black and white picture

in the earlier days, yes i Know some of you weren’t born yet the first TV’s and cameras gave a monochrome pictures or videos, also the videos had no sound in the earlier days.

The colors involved were black and white only no any other colors were able to be produced, there is a technical explanation to all that but i wont bother you with the technical hepee jeepes of the mechanism of the pictures or videos.

But the concept that i want you to have is the bright colors would acquired the white color and dark colors would acquire the black color.
this is the concept

Same applies to life we are just like the old monochrome tv, its easy to judge, react or get disappointed or dissatisfaction because we just know half of the color… a single error done by a person we term it as a point for a greater judgement and we don’t give room to ask questions.

we easily be judges and lawyers when someone has wrong us without asking questions. we never give a room for a person to say or State why s/he has done why all these ??

we all act sometimes like monochrome tv were all the darks we only see dark and not light and all the white we see only white.

sometimes even good people are bad at making good decision. and we are never perfect all hundred percent. we have some dark portion that have a white reasons but we never get a chance to represent our why’s but what people see is the dark..

learn not to settle for only whites pr blacks in your life .. learn to give yourself a chance to learn the why’s to a person’s actions…

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Sometime Let Go

Take a lesson from trees and its seasons

Come think of it our lives are similar or based on the life season of a tree, the benefits that a tree gives to the environment is the same as what we give to the surrounding. I am not saying you’re a tree but you can be and you should be a tree. Follow the season or life span of the tree. Simply because there are common traits we can relate from the life of a tree

The basic importance of the trees are many but some they give fruits, shades and give fresh air to the environment. Trees are very important to the earth since they give shades Some people find comfort not only to stay or have a person as a go-to person but some even secret keeper, soulmates, BFF – blessed friends forever, and more. These are basically the trees that offer shade, they provide comfort

Gives fresh air to the surrounding. Some people find wisdom and even great teachings from various people we call them personal trainers, guru, mentors, and life coaches. We are ready to settle down and listen to them for hours. They are considered trees that give fresh air.

Some trees provide fruits. Remember few posts back (https://bsafrique.home.blog/2020/04/20/realise-your-potential) we talked of a seed, just as tree comes from seeds that they have died and come out from the ground and hustled to bear fruits. The whole process is not a thing to see overnight but the process is for a long time

Now the tree teaches us the patience that what we are building now, the work or the things we do now are not a guarantee of overnight success, we normally think that there are shortcuts to success and we rush to take an easy way out of which there is no easy way out. Success starts from scratch just as the seed goes to the ground dies and starts growing from the dead seed. And you are in a corner lamenting why things are not moving it’s because that the seed you planted is on the stage of dying so it can start one.

You are a tree to someone either they are looking at you for shade or fruits, you are a tree. You are a solution to someone else your hard work will be the fruits we are talking about to your kids, parents, and even society. You preach about change and you are just there doing nothing. You’re a tree we want fruits from you. Be the change you want to see.

Sometimes the trees shade their leaves. This is an important concept that I want to run by you today. You as a tree it will reach a time that the fruits that you make have to fall off and even the leaves (People who are around you or you surround yourself with) sometimes you have to let them Go, detach yourself from them, for every season it comes you have to update your circle some people if they stick with you or you hold yourself to them they will drain you up and you will fail to survive the change of the season ahead of you.

Be careful with what you carry for leaves and what you bear as fruits, the fruits you bear now are the result of what you handled your self to stir them up the way the will or have become or come. Lamenting is a word in a dictionary of losers the way you are right now is a perfect role model picture for someone. Someone is looking up to you so never give up.

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