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Reference Theorem

You have seen a CV or written one yes ? if so then lets move together on this one.

Read a book and at the end pages you have seen the reference chapter. Yes i take it. Lets move on again!!.

Most of us have what we call models , role model, mentors, councillors and coaches. people that we seek advice and we guidance we term them as oracles or point of view to some real time event and situation.

Okay, while growing up i heard some kids and even adults been kept on check by the reference theorem.

Reference theorem; we can put it as the usage of a comparison or a guidance point. while growing up now our parents made us see and feel that all we can achieve is supposed to be as equivalent to some people who have advanced more than us a single step or more steps ahead of us.

Parents were heard saying you should be ashamed of yourself for doing the opposite of what they had wanted, “look at somebody (the reference) s/he has done a, b, c and d and s/he has a lot and been successful“.

Some of us have been affected with this and we live our whole life thinking we can’t go alone or be our own guide because all our lives have been threatened with other people’s success being rubbed on our Face.
(Angalia mtoto wa mama fulani unaona kasoma hichi kafaulu ).

I’m not here to say its bad to have a point of reference rather to state that; we have to be careful with how we throw ourselves out there towards our references.

I once said “lets live by lessons learnt
not by reference and examples”.

Sometimes we undermine the abilities we have by just minimizing our capabilities through overlooking at them we call references.

Live while understanding the lessons hidden in your struggles but not what somebody else did or does in the same struggles.”

We should have people of reference for learning purposes only. What I mean is that no problem is ever new, so the way people ahead of us have faced them but had a different manifestation from ours we should understand that they solved them differently, but never force what our paths to be as theirs.

Life is always a piece of everything you experience never let the piece that you pick from some point be the masterpiece of your story. Take it as a piece and not a masterpiece.

Never force your path on someone’s path. Love your struggles and they will loosen up for ya.

Bless Up
Emitty

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What do people say of who you are

What kind of face do people see you in

When one needs to get a job he or she gets to prepare a very good CV that will convince the employer to have them employed. Apart from the career CVs that we fight for to make them better to get our jobs we do not have to forget that we have our life CVs as well to create.

Have you ever got to ask yourself on what people say about you, talk of you, see you? What kind of face are you seen In by the people around you, society,friends,family? What kind of CV are you writing or preparing for them to talk good of ?

We struggle creating good CVs for our careers but we forget that we also need to create good CVs in our lifes too. The good Book says “it’s better a good name than a good scent”. So what name are you making, what face are you trying to show to people. Is it that one which every one gets to point fingers on you, despise you and speak.bad of you or is it that one which people get to speak good of you and get to create or make a good reputation in front and to everyone around you.

Lets take an example of you dying today, imagine yourself attending your own funeral, you get see people crying, sobbing, people in pain just bcoz you are gone. When it reaches that time when they get to start reading or saying about you, what would you like to hear, as a daughter or son, nephew or niece, husband or wife, friend, work partner, what would you want to hear from them saying of you? All this is prepared here, now right this moment with whoever you are with, the way you live with them, talk to them, help them, take them with their weaknesses,deal with them so on and so forth. This kind of CV is worth living, create one to live a good memory. Live by creating that face or name or CV to be remembered and not forgotten. You’ll still get to live after leaving.

Bless up.

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As Love As Hate…

“In a time where you have to give something, giving nothing is also something to be giving”

Few weeks back I was sent a writing challenge and it was all about writing about something you loved as if you hate it.

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At first I was in a puzzle, I couldn’t understand the challenge so I had to ask the one who sent the question to ellaborate more for me.

Well up to now i haven’t written anything yet because I find it weird writing what i love as i hate it.

How many times are we like this challenge, we do act like we hate what we love. Its similar to pretence but I don’t want to put it that way. We apply this formulae in alot of ours stuffs to a point that we are seen as dramatic people.

Let me put it this way, yesterday was Mother’s day ( Happy belated mothers day mothers out there.), I saw alot of people posting nice words about their moms, I even got some new sweet words from them. To some it was genuine to others was just another social media post

What I am trying to say is even in relationship we don’t acknowledge directly the partner we have we are acting as kid and putting unnecessary drama to it, to an extent it turns to hate . The thing you once love turns to hate.

Am not an expert in relationship and maybe the words today wont hit you up due to the represent of it, but if i got to get something through to you is this. You can’t love it then you acting as you hate it, hoping the other side should interpret your drama as love, sometimes the hate stands out more outwardly more than the love and you may end up loosing it all.

“Bless up”

Emitty

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We as Trees..

Ever wanted to be born in a different family, region or country than the one you are in right now? Have you ever wished you could apply for a change pf parents?

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Some of us love our environment and we would do campaigns to influence people to plant trees and preserve the natural vegetation.

If you are one of them well and good, i personally appreciate your efforts but today am raising a topic from that side of view.

In order for a tree to survive or to grow it needs water or moisture, soil and also sunshine helps with the photosynthesis which is the process of making its own food. I’ll not go in deep into the biology but this is the basic concept.

Now also we need all the similar facts for growth we need water in terms of knowledge, this will allow us to not only develop but to get off the seed of ignorance. when we are watered as in terms of acquiring knowledge we will grow.

Soil is the environment that we are the parents, friends and relatives they play the role of soil as in trees.

Sunshine in this perspective let me give the opportunities around us, sunshine help the tree grow also opportunity help to move from one point to another, level to level and so forth. grab all opportunity that arise daily. Because if a tree fails to get sunshine it remains the same level.

After a tree is full grown its either used for shade and also fruits and oxygen provision also accumulation of carbon dioxide in the daylight and oxygen at night.

After we grow its not only useful for us but also we are useful to the surrounding too. we can be a source of replica of ourselves where we train others to be as us.

But let also know that when we are too much good for the environment the surrounding will try to cut us down and make us into other products

Well the above are facts that are well known and now some facts that are known but not taken into consideration seriously.

The tree or the seed that brings the tree doesn’t choose were it should grow, it accepts the ground and try to fight so it can grow.

The good book once said of a man who wanted to plant seed on the farm and some seeds failed to get into the good soil while some seeds made it to the good soil some were eaten by birds, some went into thorns.

The concept here is the seed has to realize that its of great potential even if is at the stage of seed or a tree and if it realizes that its the first stage to fight more to grow more

Same as us we can’t choose were to be born. that is why earlier the question was did you ever wanted to change where you were born, the family you are into ?

A tree has to deal with the condition that has been planted on. It cant complain that ooh i have been planted in no good condition, i can’t grow better. but it still grow

It does not need you to complain but it only require you to shift your mind into what you are surrounded with and then just work with…

Bless Up

Emitty
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Its Not Permanent

Ever plan to do something and when in the process of doing it nothing is moving, have you ever had that one perfect plan laid out for you in your head and in turn to perfect it still doesn’t go through ?

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I know you have taken series of exams, test, assignment and more papers that were all done in a certain hall.

Few days back I went to my status and posted “what is the name you give to the place you did the exams?
The answers were restless and they were super amazing but also I learnt something…

What I wanna share to you is that in life everything is like an exam you are given a set of exams and boom your in a cage that is given to you a worker is given that work as an exam and the workplace is the hall that is given.  a driver is given an exams to drive without accident and reach the destination and the car is the hall where exams are done.

Now i know you have got this pictured but add this to your imagination its not the hall but its the exams that you have done. We have to learn that not all exams are the same but know that you can be in the same hall with your neighbor. And still the neighbor could be of no help, so in life you have to see that when you are in a situation you have to own it, it’s yours and there is no a Better way to fight it if you don’t take the initiative to fight it. Never complain when you don’t get help because each person has his ot her own exams to answer, challenge to react too.

The challenges you face in the exams  are the same as the ones that you fae in reality, the exams were designed to offer you a glimpse of what to expect in the real world. The fact you can panic and also fail to do anything in  the exam room is the same as what you can do in real life, when trouble hits and hits you bad its not time to panic nor stuck as a paralysed person you should collect your self, settle down and gather strength because its all that you gat the exams (challenges ).

With time involved everything else is temporary

David Benedict Zumbo

In life every situation you see is not permanent so lets not waste time thinking of a temporary situation but be of attention to it and learn what lesson it holds …

Bless up

Emitty…

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Sweep In…

Good day to you.  hope this finds you well, after what the world is going through i hope you are holding up good. in times like this is at when our faith and stability is tested be strong and keep the faith up…

This morning after along time at home without doing anything i decided to go outside the yard and try sweeping it up. I know that we all have once or very often sweep the yards

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What I have come to notice is that you can have a portion of yard that is yours and the other can be your neighbors portion and all can be dirty. we can take this act in two portions from the single side view and the other is multiple side view.

SINGLE SIDE VIEW
This view I want you to imagine as the  fallen grass and other waste as the objects that hinders your smile and happiness the baggage that you carry that hinders you to be seen as the real you. sweeping them makes you nourish and grow as the way it should be. Here am talking about the aftermath after the sweep nevertheless take consideration the tools that are used to sweep ( it can be friends and hobbies that keeps up to make sure your form goes back into place, in terms of friends they are ready to sacrifice there wellbeing as the sweep gets worn out just to make sure you’re clean and keep on nourished. This is a great sacrifice and you should acknowledge them because they are always there and ready to sweep you over and over again.  

MULTIPLE SIDE VIEW
The tools (friends that sweep you up when you are full of grudge and other baggages that life throws at you they are there ) just ready to sweep your portion but remember your yard once swept will be clean and the difference between your yard and the next yard close to you will be seen. What am implying is that you were in a situation that you were helped by a friend now its your time not to take their sacrifices for GRANTED  but cherish and you be a sweeping Brush to your neighbor. Never be satisfied just because you’re out of your baggage that doesn’t mean your neighbor should stay that way too..

All in all life is just life and you can’t sweep all the yards out there and also people around you wont be able to sweep all your fallen grasses on you but when you get few people that makes or even just start sweeping you should stand up and be of help to. Help not only to your self but also to the people around you. .

bless up
Emitty…

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The Player Outside

let me run this by you real quick. Ever been in a competitive game against an opponent (friend) and you only see one way to play but then comes a person outside the game and says there are plenty of choices to go through more than the option you had ?? if not please keep staying with me so I show you the point. If yes smile and then let us proceed as I run this by you…

Most of times and i mean very often we think that in anything we face there is a way to oversee it, i don’t deny that but what am trying to say as you are going through hardship or a challenge in your life yes you may have a way to oversee it but there is always a new view or side view to it that a person that’s not facing the same challenge can see and offer a lot of possible ways to go through the box that you are in ..

Life can be a game and as most of us may take the game not seriously and i am here to ask you to change the serious perception of life and let it be a source for you to learn and move forward without a fuss ..

how can this be achieved? well i believe first we should lower our pride and accept the fact that there is always an easy way to do things and more effective also that sometimes our way of doing things are less effective and we don’t know everything. I firmly believe that when we drop our pride and just take a turn and start listening to people around this game we call life, get involved with people who offer help we will learn a lot and face the challenge we have in a tonne of solutions.

Also giving the room for the saying of thinking outside the box sink in. we all sometimes think that when we are in a game we are suppose to focus inside and give it our hundred to it, well life is a game and I really think in our game that is Life we should give room for us to pause focusing inside the box and then allow ourselves to take few steps back and then just thinking of the box…

There is a saying that states that it’s easy to talk to strangers than family, meaning that we open up easily to people that have no ties to us because we feel that we won’t be judged and I can say most of our relationship die not because love is not present but there is judgement. am not here to talk about either relationships or judgement for am not experienced. But am here to tell you all about the impact of socialization when we open up to a person its easy to get help because some people outside may be able to think outside the box.

In the end am a firm believer that all of our problems are solved but its not a must to be solved by ourselves but when we open the door to external help there is a guarantee that our problems will be solved and yes there will be criticism but what is critics behind a troublesome problem? take the leap of faith and trust that most of our problems are solved when shared…

And through drug addict the meeting that they have been proven that at a range of 78-88% that helps a lot of people this is because you are not alone passing that problem out there, there are people who have already passed it and some already have the way out. so we just have to listen.

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